In this current era of pick up, I mean dating skills for men, the RSD mantra of “Path and Purpose*” has become mainstream. *I’m betting this is originally a term by Tony Robbins…
AMS uses it. Countless others do. A little less obvious is Kevin Samuels and him putting a name on “select men” – calling it High Value*. (He was right in his definition, though often muddle. Everyone else is pretty much wrong, imo. A high value man is not something you call yourself, it’s how society sees you. Who does society value?)…
Enough preamble.
Part of Kevin’s description of the HVM is that his path, his purpose, his dream, his calling was 1st in his life, and everything else was second.
Kevin – “Do you want to be in a household where you don’t pay any of the significant bills?”
38 year old single mom with an MPH – “Yes”
Kevin – “Well do you know what being with a man like that means?”
Enter Lipstick Alley – which is my favorite place online. RIP to Female Dating Strategy.
https://www.lipstickalley.com/threads/could-you-marry-a-man-obsessed-with-ambition.5160048/
Sparked by Tom Brady and other guys losing their relationships to “work” – Women who’ve dated men on the way to high value, or are high value, opine.
And boy do they opine.
The answer at least on the first page, is 90%+ of them do not want a man that’s obsessed with succeeding.
Here’s what Uncle Shay had to say about it, being a High Value Man himself.
@clubshayshaypod real truths here 🙏🏾 #ShannonSharpe
WIA:
Let’s make sure we point out the part where Shannon said he would play step daddy.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ILU6HTyBy1w&t=119s&ab_channel=ClubShayShay
@1:55 seconds.
Of course, LSAers would give that answer of noting wanting a man that is highly ambitious to MARRY, that’s the context. Shannon has multiple children with multiple women, so he has had no problem getting women to play flag football with.
Of course, let’s see what the LSAers actually do, but before that let’s see a a true HVM man actually be interested in them. Whatever the case I call cap, evolutionary thinking will override their analytic conclusions and the women will choose the HVM at all costs going in, whether they stay is a different story.
What can a player do: As we have seen time and time again, being ambitious does not make someone excellent with women, and being excellent with women still does not mean the relationship will work.
So some of my “solutions” inside of the relationship would be:
1. Get her invested in the relationship to a level that makes walking away from me has a tangible costs associated with it.
2. Keep the vibes up, being dejected, angry and very unhappy will weigh on her emotions as well.
3. Whatever type of work environment never bring her around, because you automatically know she will be window shopping. Don’t mate guard in public, because we all know YaReally, is lurking nearby to take advantage of that beta behavior, but just never bring her around.
Peace.
Archie
Good to see you back man, I was worried about you.
I haven’t read all your threads yet but I think that men who are “on the way” aren’t there yet, and so there’s a risk of failure.
Quite a high risk actually.
Plus – as someone who has made – and then lost multiple millions I can tell you that the “making it” phase is all consuming. There really isn’t the bandwidth for a “modern woman” on the journey. So they don’t have the money yet, and they’re not getting the attention.
Best regards rude boy!
I was on a “Self Improvement/Motivation” jag when the RSD guys emerged so I recognized the Tony Robbinsisms, and Think and Grow Rich riffs off the bat. A lot of guys on the rise get hitched in that phase and the women are there for the ride, look at Gates, Bezos and even Musk’s histories. Might be more common among the business tycoons of the past, but unlike the 3 I mentioned a fair number of those women stuck with their now high value man, more of a team. All that trad stuff, woman holds down the domestic and the man puts in the 120 hours to make it all possible.