Yield to Merge

This is the man himself.   Pickup/Game has come pretty far since the late 90’s, but Mystery was the guy who basically cracked the code.

By cracking the code I mean, he figured out what the guys that were good with women were doing, and what regular guys were doing wrong.

That being said, usually when I big up Mys, it’s this “model’, more so than his method.

1. See, Walk Over, Get Her Attention, Show some personality.
2. When she bites, make her invest more, before you give her validation.
3. Try and get some quiet time with her to build up the trust.
4. Then excuse yourself from the environment and head back to your spot.
5. From there, read the Bible together

It doesn’t sound like much, it sounds obvious.

But the real kicker is that most guys try to build rapport and find commonalities with a chick before she’s even got a taste of their personality.

You hear it reflected in the culture.

Chris Rock said, “You ain’t ever gonna find someone that likes Seinfeld and Wu Tang” – the underlying premise is that men are looking for women with similar interests, and that’s part of how we try to attract women.

So as far as I’m concerned, Mystery observing naturals and backwards engineering what they did – basically figured out that guys good with women weren’t seeking rapport right off the bat.  They’d show personality, and only when the chick started digging them, did they even think about changing gears…

Now that particular insight doesn’t really, in my mind at least, connect with everything else that he did, does, or figured out.

So on to video.

I think the strongest part was at the beginning. (and he says later on in the 3 videos that the 1st 10 minutes of a comedian’s act carries you through the entire act – which is why having some good canned material is great – to which I agree)

How you get good at game?  Master the 3 set.

1 – master the three set
2 – merge sets – The set of people you just talked to, merge them with a new set of people.
3 – invite last night’s girls out
4 – invite last weeks girls out
5 – invite last months girls out

^each little step builds on itself. Merging Set 1 with Set 2, makes opening set 3 and 4 way easier.

Now when I’m killing it, and other folks are in earshot, of course they open easier. And I do like to introduce people from time to time.

But I’m imagining doing all of this on purpose. Next bar I go to, I can basically put it in my head that I’m trying to be the guy that’s trying to get the whole place hype. Just by lightly cold approaching a lot of sets with good energy and no agenda, but also merging sets regularly – any and all targets become warm because NO GUY DOES THIS. Tall guys, rich guys, meatheads, even gift of gab type dudes.

Club behavior the world over is come with your little group, and stay in the group.  All groups are little ice cubes (cold and small, differentiated), until the music, liquor and atmosphere melt them down to water again.

Imagine you’re the heat. That’s what I’m thinking.

My typical m.o.  – I’ll go from set to set, get logistics from the girls, hit the dance floor, drank a drank, and then come back sets where 1) I like the chicks, 2) the logistics look good.

It’s in a sense screening, indirect, modified sniper sort of game. But now I’m thinking I can talk to the entire club like normal BUT merge sets.

Because of social proof, I can turn a lot of red lights to yellow, and yellow lights to green as chicks are like “Who’s that Ziggy Marley looking mf’er that’s cool with everyone?”

To an extent, I’ve done this before, but it was unconscious.That’s what happens when you build a circuit over weeks/months with various clubs. By actively merging sets, I can cut that time down considerably now.

More importantly, a man can run this type of game and not really put his ego at risk. He can just be a host and let the girls warm up to him. Build that false familiarity up. (We haven’t talked false familiarity yet, but go out enough and be seen – your club family will see you out and about in your town.  Even if you’ve never so much as exchanged words – just being a familiar face puts them at ease.

This is bridging the gap of cold approach to building a social circle where you are at the center.

It’s long game.
It’s promoter game.

Imagine running this type of game at a business networking event.

-Archie