Q) Archie, I’m in a slump and I’m thinking about banging this fat chick that’s really in to me. What should I do?
-Chubby Chaser in Chattanooga
A) a bad Chubb
Never bang a chick that you don’t like to break a losing streak. Way too much emotional carnage, plus fat girls often give great blow jobs. (Don’t ask me how I know!)
We’ve all been there. One night, you’re on fire, more chicks than you know what to do with and five weeks later you’re not getting texts back.
Sex is abundant, that’s not a mentality thing, it’s that there are women everywhere and the only thing you need in order to get sex is to engage them. That’s one of the key insights of game.
However if you followed my advice, you’re a night game demi-god, but when the clubs get stale, you’re busy trying to find a porn torrent replacement for kick ass. (RAR?)
Let’s break down the slump.
What is the slump and what causes it?
On the surface, your new leads are less and less, and your rotation is getting thin. That’s the top layer. But what lurks underneath?
Usually, to use the vernacular, you’ve been slacking on your pimping. Now it could be you live in a town and all the single girls moved away. Or it’s that time of year when no one goes out, maybe it’s getting cold or finals are coming up.
More often than not – it’s your actual game that’s been failing. You’re not radiating the same masculine energy, you’re not sending the same sub-communications – and chicks aren’t feeling it. They aren’t getting those “vibes” from you that they need in order to open up and get “vulnerable”.
Usually when you’re eating high on the hog, when you hit the “zone”, you can say anything you want to, and you’re just killing it. In technical terms, your communicating fun and energy and the girls are receiving it and liking it. You don’t need to be bouncing around like a clown to do this. Often times just a positive outlook and taking what might be considered selfish actions in the context of the woman you’re talking to is all you need to hit her in the reptilian part of her brain.
But too much positive feedback, and you feel like there are no rules. That you can just bowl over ANY chick. Some chicks have strong frames, some have weak frames – but like when we talk about calibration during the “trust” stage – if she’s with you and she’s not feeling the highs and the lows – and you’re not picking up that she isn’t feeling it – then you can’t get anywhere with the girl.
….This is actually a bit esoteric, so lemme break it down further
5 weeks ago
Young Player with a smirk on his face, steps up to a little crew of chicadees, and says without pause “So how you doin….”. The little chat progresses, and he spins his tales, makes his observations, has a witty remark, maybe a joke – but he doesn’t laugh at what he says. He lets her laugh.
Last week
Young player steps up to another set of chicks, probably 6’s, but he needs to warm up before he makes it over to VIP. “So how you doin”…
The set doesn’t blast open like it has been for the past month…and he falters. Thinking that he recovers, he recounts a bit that he always uses – but – its not having the same effect.
Slump ensues.
The real break down for him was not that the set didn’t open, but the fact that it didn’t caused a misstep.
His fundamentals aren’t as sharp as they used to be.
As Patrice said, “I was living on fumes of pimpness”
So the remedy for the slump, if you think a slump is coming on.
- Take a breather from the night life. Girls aren’t the center of your world, you are.
- Go back to the fundamentals. Do your warms up, have your ritual,
- Give yourself a break when you’re in the set. It’s not always going to go according to plan. In fact, the textbook game me and others parrot is really when everything went right.
-Arch