The homie KD on the thread finds himself in familiar player territory.
- His diet game is good.
- His work out game is good.
- His clothing game is good.
- He can spot a chick that’s already down from a mile away.
- His rap has been honed
- He has good logistics
He regularly pulls chicks that he rates as cute to good looking. But the super hot chicks, he does not regularly land those.
I think he has his the limit of cold approach.
Yeah, I said it.
I didn’t say that he hit the limit of GAME, but the limit of cold approach.
Let’s do a quick recap of cold approach.
- You look as good as you can. (diet, exercise, grooming, clothes)
- You regularly talk to chicks.
- You have your funnel on point.
- You can be funny, provocative, endearing, and all that good stuff.
So you see a chick, walk over to her, get her attention, and start interacting with her. You have good words sometimes, sometimes your appeal is in your confidence
Sometimes it is your non-verbal…your sub-communication that does the work.
- You close the space between you and her
- You get into her space
- You break the touch barrier
- You back off before she backs off.
This is the essence of game. And the more girls you deal with, the more you can communicate verbally and non-verbally.
Most guys aren’t going out. Most guys that go out, don’t approach. Of the guys that approach, most don’t have a plan. But you have go out, you approach, you have a plan. Within a few months (of going out 3+ times a week), you’ll have enough experience with women that most of this stuff becomes internalized.
Then you hit the wall.
Now we’ve talked about very very attractive girls being intimidating – but most of that intimidation is in your mind. You get over that and essentially get into your groove – these chicks fold. They’re not used to a guy that’s really centered.
All of this basic mastery of cold approaches for one night stands with girls you meet in the night life is well established. Everyone selling a pick up product is basically teaching you how to deal with tis.
But what about the Video Vixens? What about the Super Models? What about the connected club chicks in VIP? What about the girls that you see Rock Stars and Athletes with?
There is a certain level of female that you just don’t see on the regular. I mean see a cute face, nice set of D Cups, and some 5″ heels on any given night. When you do see the “NFL Cheerleader” type chick – even if you can be entirely centered and run your game – there is a distance between the two of you. She’ll gladly listen to you, encourage you or whatever – but she just doesn’t see you that way. You’re not on her radar.
On the street, this rarely happens. A chick can think whatever she wants – but during the day time – her social reality is quite fragile.
At night though?
Even when you look the part, when you’ve got a table – her social world is one involving people of some “status”. I don’t mean doctors or lawyers or politicians. Not even CEO’s. But the status that hot girls that you meet at clubs that stay in VIP – focus on.
This girl? She can pull a rich guy. She can pull a pretty boy. She can pull a tall dude. She can pull a guy with muscles. She can pull a guy that has all of those qualities. All the stuff you can think of, and put on paper – she can get. She’s that beautiful. (She’s a Victoria’s Secret Model – we’re talking about beauty decided by the crowd – not decided by you. You probably would take a Keisha Grey or an Abella Danger first)
But if that guy doesn’t have status in her world – it’s pointless. He’s a peon, not peer, much less a superior. It’s not that she can’t like a regular guy per se – but a regular Jamal off the street, or at the club – he’s nobody. He’s just some random dude.
She is just a regular girl with a massive (though mental) social barrier.
What does a girl like this crave?
She wants a higher social status.
Even though she does crave the game – your insight into her world, into her mind, her soul – the social status is more important. Now if you can bring her up a level, and then get next to this chick, and get her to give you a chance to turn her head around – it’s game over.
BUT
Getting physically next to this chick is difficult, but that’s not enough. Maybe you can do some push aways and disqualify yourself – so that she wonders what’s wrong with her, and why you don’t want her – but you’re still not REAL TO HER. She doesn’t value your opinion or your insight.
But what if you were in her scene? If you were a photographer, a fashion designer, the dj at the fashion show, the bartender at the event?
Imagine coming at that girl like you were a peer? Like when she went out to club, you were already in VIP hanging with the big dogs?
Why does everyone know you? Why are you special?
How come the DJ shouts your name?
So with some of these 10’s, that are socially isolated from the rest of humanity – you’re not even on the board with her until you’re a somebody.
How do you do that?
On the surface, it’s knowing a ton of people, a ton of the right people. But in reality, it’s a ton of the right people KNOWING YOU.
What this chick is after is more than just the tangible shit. She can get that, in spades.
She wants STATUS. And if you have status among people that she respects, that she wants in her life – that’s when your one-on-one game can work.
Indeed, if she sees you interacting with the big wigs – you’re not cold approaching anymore. You’re not some random stranger, you’re someone she wants to meet but doesn’t know yet.
In terms for the night game, Mystery, Brad P, them RSD boys – they’ve been talking about this on the back burner for years. Group Theory, Merge Set, plus the new internet stuff is how you go from being cool guy in the general population of the club, to a guy that’s behind the scenes and making things happen.
Now this usually happens organically. I definitely make it a part of my game to meet all the people that run the club – be it actual club staff, dj’s, or promoters.
General Night Club Game is real and effective. And when you see the same faces, you hit the after hour foods spot, the after parties, maybe a summer time cook out.
To get to that 10 level – you need to start bringing value to those folks you’ve met in the night life. For the cool guys, you throw them some girls that you’ve met. For the girls, you throw them cool girls. You’re trying to build a circle. But you’re not doing it blindly. You want to build that circle that the type of chick that you’re after wants to be in.
Why do all of this work?
Because you have to break down the social barriers and make your cold approaches WARM.
In practice this looks like you going to the same set of clubs, befriending the top dogs, and then throwing all the decent looking cute chicks at them. Literally picking a girl and her friend up on Friday, and then going out with them Saturday – and introducing them to the guys in the good groups.
The idea is that you need to become a connector of people. That’s how you break down the 10’s social barrier – by elevating your own social status – to be in her circle, or above it.
This is a bit esoteric, and I promise to explain more in the book – but this gives you an idea of why you can’t really connect with some of these hotties at the club.
Though you may be good looking and have good game – they aren’t hooking up with randoms. They’re going for guys that have “status” in their eyes. Deconstructing the status, and getting in there, is how you get them to “see you”
-Archie
Rock Solid, Archie.