Tag: LTR

My girl is acting up

If my girl starts acting up, then i’ll take her friend

Q. Hey Archie, my girl had a bad day, what should I do?

A.

I’ve faced your situation many a time. After been burned, after getting drained myself I’ve changed my outlook. I than an Eastern European taxi driver that i met last year.

If *her* bad day is forcing you into a situation where you have to manage her emotions by either listening to her bitch and holding your tongue, or banging her –she’s the one in control. She has “hand”.  She has the more powerful frame than yours.

This is a bad situation.

The main idea within a relationship for a man/player is NOT

“How can I keep her around?”

but rather

“What is she doing to hold my interest?”
“What is she doing right now to keep ME around?”

If she’s actively losing your interest, or causing you drama – then you need to initiate a sequence

  1.  Get her attention
  2. “You’re not constructively solving your problem”
  3. Let her recognize she’s being a bitch or negative or annoying
  4. If she persists, either make her leave, or you leave
  5. Say to her, I’ll contact you when you feel better
  6. Then, *turn off your phone*

This is not about manipulating her, it’s about preserving *yourself* and your own sanity.

When someone gets into this negative spiral, and they’re making you solve their problem it’s abuse. Leave.

I don’t know if the girl is toxic, or she’s codependent or any of that daytime talk show pop psychology stuff – but now I recognize that behavior as being corrosive.

She’s going to blow up your phone, let her. You already told her what she was doing wrong

-Archie

*Also, the game is rarely about manipulating the girl. It is about giving her options, options she didn’t consider.

On Dodging Bullets

I’ve had a grip of LTR’s.  Enough 3 day stands and Same Night Lays to honestly say that I’ve had success with this game thing.   But the LTR’s stick with you.   Going out and replacing a sex partner is as simple as going out regularly after a certain point.  The more you enjoy the process, the easier it is.

But a chick that rises through the ranks from

  • one time only
  • okay, you can stay the weekend
  • Once a week
  • Secondary
  • Primary
  • OMG, Why am I accompanying you to your Christmas Party…

Somewhere between Secondary and Primary, you have to have noticed some non-sexual value.   And most of the time it’s nothing so tangible as cooking, brings other girls into the mix for you, great with money, awesome connections.

No, its something far more nefarious.   The chick is cool to be around.   If you haven’t done this for a while, that sounds like a low bar.  But the more chicks you deal with, the more you start to realize how teething pullingly agonizing dealing with these chicks are.  So the one time you meet a chick that likes Wu Tang and Seinfeld

You start to feel “some type of way”.  That companionship is not something a girl can truly fake her way through.   She has to have that as a person.  And it’s really a puzzle piece more so than some sort of trait that you can trace from chick to chick.

Anyway, I had this in one way or another with all of my exes.   Some were better than others, but the game mentality allows you to find value in everyone, so you do.

So this particular Ex just recently had a kid.   No we are no longer FB friends.  But we do have FB friends in common.   So there’s been a ton of gushing that I’m seeing proxy. (I actually don’t have the FB app on my telefono, but my work is dead boring some of the day – so perusing via browser)

I saw the pictures.

Neo dodges the bullet

Broheim, the Ex looks exactly like her mother.   And I don’t mean that in a good way.

If you’ve got a chick in secondary position, and you start getting the feelz… meet her mother.

Indeed, if a random chick or a plate wants a bump in rank, meet the friends.   If she’s surrounded by some superficial cackling bitches, chances are high that she’s not even secondary material.

-Archie