Orthogonal

Orthogonal is the word of the day.   Instead of coming at a problem straight ahead, you come at from a right angle.

Here in the Northern Hemisphere it’s getting warm.

My people have been doing this since September

So now it’s time to drop this look

And switch to something more “seasonally appropriate”

I usually go to hip hop/urban spots. So it’s a lot of guys that compete on a visual level.

These are typical dudes at the places I frequent.

Off rip?  I would need to be reborn to attain this type of size.  It’s not happening without surgery, drugs, and cybernetic parts from Chiba, Japan. (Word to Gibson)

These guys – they compete straight up

• Tallest
• Most muscle
• Most ice, bottles, gold, labels
• Best dancer

Yadda, yadda, yadda

If you’ve seen a rap video, well everyone else has too.  And that’s where they get their ideas about how to attract women. It’s learned via observation.  The guys in the rap videos (and at the clubs) attract women by all of the above.

Overall, this sort of features based attraction is a female strategy.

Now keep in mind, a lot of game is using typical female strategy against the girl.  Much like Wing Chun – the martial arts – was developed by a woman – but is deadly in the hands of anyone – game is about using your particular strengths in new ways.

Instead of coming at the chick straight on, by appealing to her visual cortex – you come at her from a right angle.  Orthogonal.

Let’s delve a bit deeper into her game plan.

She depends on her visual appeal to do most of the work.  And there’s a Matthew/Matthia effect with attractive women.  As I’ve often noticed, If I see a girl with really great hair from behind, chances are she’s at least cute in the face. Though sometimes, she’s good from afar, but on the close up – she’s far from good.

The cute chicks, the fine chicks – every thing you can see on her – she works on.  Her skin, eyes, hair, nails, style, purse, jewelry, accessories.   Most of the time it’s overkill.

She puts on a body contouring dress like this one – she doesn’t even need to do her make up.

But as you can tell, she does anyway.  Everything about this picture is about drawing the eye.  There’s not one angle you could take of this chick and not find something attractive.

She does this because male behavior is visually driven.  Much more so than women.

But girls consume with their eyes too, but the static qualities above aren’t the only thing the consciously assess. This is level one.

She sees these dudes at a club

And she’s many are going to want this dude to holler. (Manly one on side, pretty boy on the other)

But that’s not enough for these chicks.  The higher up in attractiveness you get – the more likely the chick has met guys like these.   The high school girls go crazy, not so much the ones that we’re after.  She’s used to it.  This is her norm.  This bores her.

They look at body language of the guy and how he interacts with people and they can tell who’s sure of himself. Sometimes they’ll verbalize those things. “Look at the way he’s standing” That’s the second level.

The next level is when she interacts with you. Your look and your observed behavior should match up. If you’re a tall, good looking , well dressed guy, and you have the mannerisms of a boss with other people that she sees, she is expecting that from you. And when you interact you can only do three things

Confirm her expectation
Disconfirm it

Or

Defy it

Game is this third option. It’s not playing by her expectations at all. It’s taking her left, in a way that’s pleasurable because it’s new.

So in my urban environment, where you’ve got rappers,, ballers, dealers, dancers, etc – I can’t compete head to head with those guys.

I’m 5’10” and in my 40’s. Getting taller is not in the picture. Getting jacked is probably a two to three year commitment. The flexibility ain’t where it was, so a lot of these attention getting dance moves are not in the cards. Though I got a few minor stacks, I got pussy easier in the Civic than in the 5 series.

So I have to come at chicks from the flank, with guile,

ORTHOGONAL – coming at her from a right angle

And that’s what they don’t expect. And that’s why they respond to me.

Guys don’t make eye contact, approach, lean in, pull back, and mess with a chick’s feelings right off the bat. Not a guy that looks like me.

I don’t have the look.
I may or may not have the body language.
A girl might expect me to be one way.

But when i start interacting with her, all of her preconceptions should come down. She starts over. It’s a new and novel experience. And ideally it’s happening on a nonverbal level.

So eye contact, then go hard and pull off like nothing, leaving a void arguably, that’s something i do that worked for me.

So why don’t guys think like this.  Why do guys always come at chicks head on?

This dude is the role model.