Looking for new lines

So the context of this post is from one earlier today over at McQueen’s.

Potna is running into the issue of how to deal with the amount of rejection

Here’s what he gets from my long ass post

“So keep on reframing.

“I like how quiet you are.”

That’s one way if she’s not reacting to your rap.

But a player is still thinking in terms of getting her to react. Because I can tell you right now, that line may or may not get reaction. When it fails to work, when you can’t provoke a chick into reaction, you’ll go into the emotional spiral that comes with repeated rejections during the night.

You can’t keep looking for new lines to reframe her misgivings and lack of interest.

I’m saying is that you need to shift your own mind.

Right now a lot of players are approaching with the intent of getting a reaction. Humor, physical stuff, cold reads, generally looking good – but it’s about her in most of those instances. And that stuff is necessary. It’s vital. You don’t need a six pack and memorized every routine known to man to get laid. Those things can assist you on changing her frame of reference.

But the problem  I’ve outlined above says to me that you need to change your own frame of reference.

You need to run game on yourself.

When most guys give advice on how to deal with repeated rejection, cats will say,

Why so serious?

Be Cool

Relax

Better than telling you what NOT to do, I’m trying to give you something you can do.   Action is better than inaction.  Doing something is better than trying to stop yourself from doing something – especially in these early stages.

When you try and chill, you’re inactive, but your mind dwells on stuff.

When we’re not talking about women, when we talk about sports this is what guys refer to as inner game.  Inner game has gotten a bad rap, because very few people who use the term actually read the book.   Inner game is not some woo woos shit. These chicks don’t give a fuck about your self image and instances of childhood psychological trauma, lol.

Just like you can see someone and tell they have something on their minds – a chick can tell when you’re “trying to be cool” A dog can sense that from your body language. Is your jaw kinda tight when she teases your pudge?  Boom – her comments are affecting you and it’s showing up in how you literally hold yourself.  Your muscles, your pace, your breathing

Part of the game to get over approach anxiety, to handle rejections, is give yourself a new mental model. That changes your frame. Then when the rap is going nowhere with a chick, you attempt to change her frame, and she’s still not biting – you’re nonplussed. Her failure to come into your vibe isn’t affecting your vibe. You aren’t crushed.

That lets you step to the next chick, or just stay on the one that’s not biting…yet

I’ve said this before.

You will run out of moves.

Every night, every encounter, something new will pop up, that you don’t have the answer for.

Most guys scour the forums for answers to specific situations. That “find a new line” mentality keeps them at the basic level with inconsistent bangs but an unsettled persona.

What we’re trying to get to is internalization.
Where you know what to do, because you’ve done it. So game ends up being something that you actively do,

-Archie