Go forth?

So we go off the basic model for seduction around these parts.

1. See the girl
2. Step up to the girl
3. Spit your game. (which is 7% verbal, 93% non-verbal)
4. When she wants more, qualify her.  “You really want this girl? You better invest”
5. When she’s earned your respect, then you start to build trust.
6. Once trust has been established you retire to a more relaxed environment.  To listen to Bill Withers records of course.

The model that society teaches you is

1. Wait
   1. for her to notice,
   2. You wait for fate
   3. Jah to intervenes
2. If not, approach respectfully
3. Build trust by seeking commonalities
4. Then try to show personality
5. Never qualify, be thankful she gives you attention
6. Give her stuff and praise, unearned often times
7. Then, Go home to read the bible and maybe hold hands, as long as you keep the door open.

If you’re here, you’ve tried both and find the latter lacking and the former fucking.

But, one of the harder parts of the attract/trust/seduce model is you’re not supposed to qualify her until she shows interest.

What counts as interest?

So the pimps assume if a chick makes eye contact or she even gets near you – that’s interest.  Okay, that’s cool for the initial “warm” approach.

But I’m talking about you’ve already stepped up, hit her with the flim flam….2nd pitch of the howza yowza….and another shot of the mojo.

Classic PUA states that if she’s still there, she’s interested.  A truly disinterested/disgusted girl will walk away. (quickly)

As “net game” got refined – the argument then became chicks higher up the “looks” ladder – were used to guys who came in, did their thing, and ASSUMED attraction.

New Player, “Okay, I can assume, no problem.  ”

New Player – “So should I just start qualifying her right then and there?”

This is basically where the game goes from Science to Art.

I honestly don’t have a great answer for this.  What I do in practice when the girl isn’t show clear disinterested/indifference is as my boy GRRM would say

“Put her to the question”

Ask her something that is both personal and requires a response that shows her cards.

“We seem to be vibing, let’s go check out that booth over there.”

Basically, it’s a moment of truth, make it or break it.  And if you act like everything is going to plan – a lot of the time – she’ll just follow. (and a whole bunch of the time, she’ll just look at you like – Who is this guy, lol. )

Just something I was thinking about today.

-Archie