We will discuss the mechanics of the game in detail, but there are some meta habits and pre-cursors that are necessary in order to do the technical stuff.
Most guys that find the game online are the kind of guys who are used to looking for solutions. They know the truth is out there, and if they are diligent enough, they will uncover it.
That mindset, the curious mind, is not always the most …shall we say outgoing. Indeed, a lot of guys getting into the game lean towards the shy and introspective side. You really can not get a guy like that to show his personality, unless he’s with close friends and family.
So if you throw him to the wolves of the nightlife, he’ll shrivel.
These guys, I am one of these guys..we thought we were odd, that we were different, that we were broken somehow. And I’m willing to bet a lot of you lean towards the brighter side of the IQ distribution. So it only seems logical….
Well, the truth is that most people are not extroverts. Scratch than, most men aren’t. Women, on average, tend to be a lot more social. And it makes sense because women are not allowed to do much by their parents, school, or society. Society teaches them to get others to do the tasks that they need doing. Lifting things, reaching things, opening things…. So just by that, women talk to people and get them to do things. (At least in the West)
They deal with attention, and some of them deal with it well. Though many do not. Sometimes there is too much attention, sometimes the wrong kind of attention…and sometimes no attention because of various judgments.
But back to the fellas,
They do not like interacting with people for the joy of it, and they don’t want to be in the center of things. They don’t want to be in charge. Leadership is reluctant, and as a gender we look down on guys who call attention to themselves. Especially if they can’t back it up.
Attention is where the game is.
One must learn to enjoy attention.
– Archie
(*WIA loves music, rock, rap, reggae, soul, funk, blues, R&B, electronica… There will be Country on this blog. Cry about it)
WIA, what do you think of comedians? They’re used to attention, but tickling the funny bone becomes their calling card. They become “the funny guy” and that’s the one emotion that people expect out of them.
Sometimes show-offs remain just that.
I love comedians. I think comedy is an over-utilized tool in pick up though. I don’t know if we’ve discussed it here, but to pull effectively – you need to run a chick through the emotional gauntlet. Highs and Lows. I’ll have to earmark this for another post.