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Okay, but just remember, They don’t love us.  They just love the uniform.

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Y’all know me by now.  I’ve basically internalized all the steps to basic seduction.  What gets me excited game wise, is new paths to the same place.

This is a passage from a guy that I think is really into philosophy. I came across the post because someone on Reddit asked about the best autobiography about game. (Casanova).  In the middle of that search, there’s something about Casanova (a real person) versus Don Juan (a fictional person created in a play).

The key difference between their seduction styles is that Casanova is a thinker and Don Juan is a narcissist.

Here’s the link – http://branemrys.blogspot.com/2012/04/don-juan-and-casanova.html

This blog is primarily a Casanova style blog…or is it?  Peep this analysis of Don Juan.

There’s a longstanding literary trope about the danger of a woman falling in love with herself. Perhaps the purest form of this is Milton’s Eve. Newly created and newly awake, Eve looks around and discovers her equal when she accidentally looks into a pool. Because she is brand new and doesn’t understand the concept of a reflection yet, she is delighted at the beauty and vivacity of her new companion. God informs her of her mistake and tells her that her true companion is coming; she looks up, sees Adam — and finds him a little disappointing. Of course, being completely innocent, she quickly learns to enjoy him for his own sake and love him for all the things she is not, but it is also a foreshadowing of the weakness — it is not yet a flaw — that will eventually be her downfall: her attention can be drawn by a sufficiently attractive image of herself, and this is precisely what the Serpent will exploit, by giving her a mental image of herself that is splendid and telling her that she can be that if she will only taste a bit of fruit. Eve’s circumstances are unusual; only in her case can the trope be that blatant, because only she can look at her own image with complete innocence and no self-doubt. But more complicated variations of the trope are easy enough to find. But it is precisely this trope on which the character of Don Juan builds: women are seduced by him because the fall in love with the image of woman — feminine, but also passionate, unrestrained, devoted to pleasure — that they see in him.

They want to be with him because they want to be him.

And, of course, he is narcissistic: what he delights in when he looks in his lover’s eyes is not his lover or her eyes but how impressive he looks reflected in them. Thus she pursues herself as reflected in him as he pursues himself reflected in her. Seduction becomes a sort of interpersonal narcissism, in which Don Juan is irresistible to women because (in terms of literary stereotypes) he is exactly what a woman would be if a woman just happened to be a man.

The whole piece is good.

How do we incorporate this?  Should we?  Do we already?

For the veteran player, developing the mechanics of game is relatively straight forward

• Preparation of Mind, Body, and Soul
• Attention
• Approach
• Open
• Charm
• Logistics
• Disable Obstacles
• Build Trust
• Get Some Privacy
• Read the Bible
• Get her to think it was her idea, and he’s the victim!

To all of this, there are assumptions, there are pre-requisites – but this is basically all you need for a proper pull. From start to close, this is basically what it looks like.

Even if the chick is throwing her panties at at the man, all the man does is skip the first few steps and the proceed with the sequence.  Guys that don’t know game end up following this path, because the sequence is normal and natural.

So when I read something like this, I realize that Don Juan and Casanova are just “skins” to the overall process.  It’s a style.  It’s a preference of the player.

BUT (and it’s a big but) – the style has effects that aren’t immediately noticeable.

For those who haven’t read Casanova – his seduction is basically trapping a chick with words and social conventions.   By contrast, Don Juan plays to her ego.

The immediate result is what you would expect, they both get together.  And that’s all that freshman players look for. Indeed, direct game is usually the best thing to learn first (and it will also make your painfully aware of where you are in the “5 second market”)

The veteran on the other hand, wants the “connection” to happen in a certain way.  Part of that is his Ego, the other part is dealing with what are obvious consequences of spreading the gospel to those not yet ready to receive.

To bring it back to the piece  – in terms of game advice – make yourself like HER in behavior- has pretty much been incorporated in all sectors of the game, but rarely is it discussed as such.

I can see the book right now and the resultant outrage in the manosphere

“Act like a woman in order to get a woman”

But isn’t that what’s already been happening? You got all these guys out there dieting and eating “clean” to get a six pack.  She does the same thing so that she has a flat tummy.

 

Plenty of guys focus heavily on their appearance.  All that banter and stuff we talk about – usually the best content comes from traditional women’s interest, and the manner of delivery is how women talk to each other.

So if we take a Don Juan approach to the game, what else could we find?

-Archie

“They add that “for women prisoners and girls in detention, staff perpetrators are overwhelmingly male, and for men and boys the staff perpetrators are overwhelmingly female.”

https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2016/11/the-understudied-female-sexual-predator/503492/

This one just hit the news recently

https://www.thedailybeast.com/silicon-valleys-favorite-prison-reformer-accused-of-sexual-assault-and-harassment

Basically a do-gooder former female Silicon Valley Exec was sleeping with ex-cons, but also pulling a Weinstein on her male and female staff.

Here’s a classic where a dude that was in the pokey, got female guards to run drugs for him, and he impregnated a few.  Knocked Up and Locked Up

http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/maryland/sun-investigates/bs-md-sun-investigates-jail-20150711-story.html

One of the chicks got 4 years for that.

I’m always tempted to turn this blog into the “Women are the End of Men” type blogs. Maybe I’ll be an invited speaker to some event. There’s a lot of evidence out there about the nature of all some womenthat isn’t just cherrypicked to serve some agenda.  But that evidence usually ends up serving some agenda to grind an axe against the fairer sex.

But I’m not that kind of political (Killmonger was Right).

In terms of game though, my definition of game is “applied psychology”.  I think it’s the only thing that captures both “pick up” and “politics”.   And I find these situations where privileged women have men by the balls essentially and use that for sexual satisfaction.

Follow me for a second.  The coming apocalypse of the beta males is being forecast by guys in our camp and lots of people in the mainstream.

The mainstream says that because of Artificial Intelligence, Automation, Robots, Off-Shoring, etc – men are becoming obsolete in areas where strength, focus, and pattern recognition counts.   So the jobs of the future are in “relationship building”, “comfort”, “creativity”.  In essence, “The Future is Female”.

In our little corner of the internet, what we’re seeing is that the 80% of Betas (I despise this terminology) are seeing their jobs dry up.  Which wouldn’t mean a thing to the game community except for the fact that Beta “game” is about providing resources to the female.  So if these men can’t provide for a future, and all the jobs are going to women….

BMG has a lot to say about that, but I’m not gonna say that here.

So the dystopian future here is that we’re going to have more men turning to whatever means is necessary, and rich, privileged, or powerful women (women with power over men) are going to use them.

-Archie

[Arch. – Apologies for the Site Being Down.  Phishing Attack]

What is a mixed set?  A mixed set is a group of girls and guys.

How often does this come up?  All the time. In fact most of the time a man will have to deal with a group of people.  And not just in game.

In general, cute girls are rarely alone.  Typically, a cute girl goes out with at least one other girl.  Usually, she goes with several girls.  That’s the default.

Why do girls go out in groups?

Safety in numbers.

Despite what you read on the Negative Ned type websites – most girls don’t actually feel safe going to things by themselves. Statistically, they’re the safest they’ve ever been.  But they don’t “feel” safe.  Furthermore, in a girl’s experience – it’s just more fun to go with people than to by themselves.

When a player goes out, he will typically run into a pair, a trio, or a group of girls.  The default thinking is that a group of girls are all friends.  They could be co-workers or family.  But usually it’s just friends.

If a guy is there, the question then becomes who is he in relation to the group of girls.  Or if there are more guys than girls, who is she in relation to the guys.

Most contemporary pick up advice is “designed” for approaching groups at night clubs/bars/social situations.  But when you actually read what the advice is it’s written as though you’re delivering your material to the girl one-on-one.  Indeed, most game footage is a guy chatting up one girl.

To get over this “group” issue the footage looks like this

• guy sees cute girl with her friends
• guy “steals” the cute girl away, only paying the minimal amount of attention to the friends. “I’m gonna borrow your friend for a minute”
• Guy walks off with target girl
• Guy then “runs his game” on the girl
• If successful he has a Plan A, if not successful he has a Plan B

You can imagine this as some predator on the Serengeti targeting the weakest member of the herd…  Rarely does the cheetah go in the middle of the wildebeests to take down the strongest in the group.

That’s the footage we see and that’s the way things are written in field reports.  There are some who do address it – but the meat of any of these discussions is the one-on-one.

It wasn’t always this way.

Now back in the early days of talking about meeting girls online – The Comedian and The Magician really focused on *group* experiences. [Archie – *cringe*]

We can talk about peacocking another time – but the tall guy (The Magician) and the Short Balding Guy (The stand-up comedian) – they came from backgrounds of entertaining groups of strangers.  So the style of pick up they developed borrows a lot from those respective fields.  Mystery was really into mystery and the occult.  So palm reading, “roman soul gazing”, 5 Rings, etc were all sort of grey area/magical type things that he could break out whenever he wanted to create an aura of intrigue in a group of people.  When you have a grip of people listening to your every word – how hard is it then to get some one-on-one time with the cute girl?

Style was a writer first but he was also a stand-up comedian. (obviously) Not a good one.  But there are a lot of ripped off jokes from other comedians in old school PUA.  Who Lies More, Men or Women is from the Chris Rock special that was popular back in the day.

The idea of having polished material, that they tested on crowds all the time,  delivered properly, got predictable results.  That was the game.  And the game was about groups.

Part of the group fascination, aside from the hot girl never being alone reality, is that Cialdini’s book on Persuasion, said a lot about social proof.  (Pre-Selection, I believe came to the community from the popular books on evolutionary psychology)

What the old school PUA’s found was that a lot of the openers and routines were really great for groups.  They became able to entertain groups of strangers.

For guys learning how to do old school pua, he might have a problem getting the group’s attention at first.  He might not be speaking loudly and slowly enough. Once those initial hurdles were overcome, a good canned routine, a good script, a good joke, a good story – would hook a group on the social level.

Why would you want to be able to hook a person or a group at a night club with a conversation. The excitement and novelty of a good conversation is ACTUAL VALUE in the context of a nightclub.  Most people go to these places with people they already know, already being able to predict what their friends are going to say.  They drink together, stand together, and leave together.   Even though they’re having “fun”, they’re bored.

The whole point of the club is to have fun – and the club provides external stimuli (music and alcohol) for the purpose of getting people out of that boring mode.

The stranger that comes in an livens up their boring experience….

“This dude is cool and interesting, let’s hear more of what he has to say.”

The guy is “cool” because his words and actions, elevate the mood of the audience and allow them to loosen up.

This style of game and these tools fell out of favor after the The Game was published.  Canned game, scripts, having something memorized and ready to drop at a moment’s notice was no longer cool.    It’s still cool in Comedy, Magic, Acting, Music, etc.  And most naturals repeat the same stories over and over again (just in an organic way).  But it’s not cool for regular guys to use these time tested and effective ways to connect with people, build instant value, and leverage that position to get with girls.

Since the fall out in 2007, these things have happened.

• Rise of natural game (no scripts, no canned game, no structure)
• Rise of the red pill (society is giving men a raw deal)
• Rise of lifestyle game (muscles and money)
• Rise of travel game (inherent exotic/financial value in places where the guy is not the norm)
• Rise of internet based game (use internet marketing tools in the dating context)

Group theory is not really promoted that much. There’s some of it with so-called “social (media) circle game” – but that’s more about “status”, social proof and pre-selection. Nobody pushing social circle game in 2018 is talking about “holding court” with a group of people.

So even though the direction of the game has changed, does that mean that girls are now going to venues by themselves?  Are they content with just swiping Tinder while standing in a mini skirt and some heels?

Hell no.

We have all this new stuff and technology, and new ways to get at people, but the raw basics of talking to people face to face, and dealing with their friends (and possibly his obstacles) is still important.

In fact, it’s more important than it used to be. A player gets a lot more mileage – because these face-to-face skills are increasingly rare.

So to bust out the group skills, a man needs a framework, questions to ask himself when he faces a group

• Where are is he? Club, Concert, Festival, Bar, Restaurant…
• What should these people be doing at this place? Eating and chatting, watching the stage?
• When he sees a group, what kind of relationships does he think they have? Family, Friends, Co-Workers
• How many people are there?A group of 3 people has a different dynamic than a group of 7.  3 people are probably all talking with each other.  7 people, and one will observe that they might be standing together, but there are 3 conversations going on.

So that’s basically touching on group game context.  I don’t want to get too deep into how to handle full on groups in this post.  So let’s focus on the topic, Mixed Sets.

What is the Ratio of Guys to Girls

• A guy and a girl standing together – possible a couple
• 2 girls and 1 guy – one of the girls may be single
• 2 girls 2 guys – possibly 2 couple
• 3 guys and 1 girl – 1 couple and 2 bachelors, possibly

When the girls outnumber the guys – one of the girls may be the girlfriend of one of the guys

When the guys outnumber the girls, there are possible relationships.

The player modifies his approach strategy accordingly. So first, he thinks.  He then comes up with in the moment tactics, and then he goes in and finds out if he was right.

Consider this scenario.

• The mixed group has more 3 girls and one guy.
• 2 girls are talking to the one guy.
• The cutest girl is basically staring off into space, not really taking part in the conversation
• In this particular set up it’s a line that goes Cute Girl, (Girl, Girl, Guy in a conversation)

This particular line up, the cute girl is basically staying in the group, but is open to being talked to by anyone.  And typically, this cute girl that’s making herself available is not the girlfriend of the guy in the group.  Keyword here is typically, because that’s not always the case.

The player will approach from the periphery of the group but in an obvious way with the girl. So the girl sees him, but the group isn’t paying that much attention to him.

Now that he’s approached and started a basic conversation – he wants to find out the following from the girl.

• Why are they at the venue? (they come all the time, special occasion, in town for a conference)
• How do they know each other?
• Who’s going out with who

By talking to her, he figures out the romantic entanglements if any, and then the power dynamics of the group.  A girl can give you those straight up answers in the course of a normal conversation.  But the player wants to know the deeper level.

• Who is the Alpha of the Group? Who is controlling where they group goes?
• What is the guy’s relationship to the girls in general, and to the cutest girl?

Though it is conceivable that you autistic guys that read this site will just ask the question, the smart man needs to set up a dynamic and observe.  The player always wants an honest signal.  If you ask a girl, chocolate or vanilla, whatever her answer is, you know she eats ice cream – that’s her honest signal.  If a chick says she never comes out, but two seconds in the conversation the club promoter says what’s up to her… Well again, honest signal.

So here a player might ask the following

• Which one of y’all picked this place?  (This place is the bomb, this place is a dump might be the framing, but the idea is to evaluate the chooser’s taste)
• Who drove?

A smart guy can think of other questions that uncover the power dynamic within the group.  The cutest girl might just be along for the ride, but she doesn’t call the shots.  The cutest girl might be the alpha – but she has a responsibility to her followers.  There are all sorts of relationships possible here.  If the player is trying to get the girl out of the club so they can get to know each other better – he has to figure out is it even possible for her to leave her group, but keep her social connections in tact.  He has to make it possible for her to not “Lose Face”

In terms of the men in the group, even if that guy isn’t a boyfriend of the cute girl

• He may be family,
• He may want the girl himself (but can’t get her  – so he’ll sabotage whatever you try to do, unless you can silence him first/or get on his good side)
• He may just be annoyed that his mere presence didn’t intimidate another guy.

So one of the things that a veteran realizes, is that often a cute girl in a group of people rarely has much autonomy.

We came together Keisha, and we’re leaving together!!

It is rare for the cute girl to have so much independence from the group that she’ll violate those social bonds with the people she came with to then spend time with some random dude with a pocket square.

It happens – and the more peripheral she is to the life of the group – the more you can invite her to spend some time with you – or she’s the alpha of the group and what she says goes – but it’s not something I’ve ever banked on.  That’s why I engage the group.

But let’s say you don’t want to do that.  What do you do instead?

I draw from the old school.

Set the Frame

Part of the old school routines was asking girls if they were spontaneous and independent – a frame that they’ll gladly jump in – because everyone wants to be spontaneous and independent.

You can use this phrase to actual qualify (are you actually cool enough for me)?, fake qualify to build attraction/start the give and take…. But one of the reasons this was so important – was the PUA was setting up a frame – his reality that he wants her to live up to.  So this helps set up the escape.

But the words aren’t magic. Even if a chick wants to jump your bones, you don’t say “Are you independent?” and suddenly the chick drops her friends to go with you back to your house.

As a side note – A chick will jump through all sorts of hoops to prove that she is spontaneous and independent – volunteering stories about crazy stuff that she did – but that doesn’t mean she’s going to do those things for the player in front of her.  It’s a lot like the guys that engage in sex talk incorrectly.  A chick will tell you matter of fact about her activities, but just her talking about those things – doesn’t have her envisioning you and her doing them.

Her qualifying herself to the player in this context. isn’t game, set, match

“Words are Wind” to quote my man GRRM

She needs a compelling reason to activate her independence, not just the player “priming” her with those words.

From here we can talk about building compliance, yes ladders, hoop theory – etc. But this is about groups.

After he sets the frame

Handles the Group

A player can and often manages to get the girl to assert her “independence” – but the security guard of the group will see the “I’m attracted to this random stranger” body language and put a kibosh on whatever plan the dude was hatching.

That’s why you’ve got a girl eating out of your hands, and Big Bertha snatches her away.

That’s why handling the group is important.

The 2018 Minimal Game is about doing the very least to make the group not fear you. Old School PUA game was about making the group love you.

So all of this makes sense when you’re thinking about the typical girl’s night out.

What happens when guys are a factor?

• So the major tool women use to “win arguments” against guys is to
  Throw unassailable logic at the guy – when that fails
• Throw logic and support with emotion, when that fails
• Throw emotion out – change the tone of the conversation – and then force the guy to emotionally argue – which is a battle ground he’s not versed in. (most guys either cave or say fuck this and end the interaction – she “wins” either way)

One of things that came out of Red Pill movement in game is “Hamster Logic”. What may seem to be illogical, is really aimed at the feelings, at her deep core identity.

Some examples

• “I just gotta ask, was your profile written by a man” (Classic online opener)
• *when you see two girls* You talk to them and imply that their lesbian.
• When she wants to go back to using condoms, you come back with “I thought we were getting closer”

You can generate a whole dictionary of these things by reading things written by and written for women. If you read something and ask yourself, “Why is this important? Why was this written this way – that’s a ploughshare ready to be fashioned into a sword.

So when you run into guys in a set that are a hassle, you throw them a logic bomb.  You don’t want him to be angry, you want him to be engaged in trying to figure something out.

Dudes are suckers for logic.

Any questions?

Overall the movie is great. Cool good guy, good squad. compelling vision. I love the idea of an African nation untouched by slavery or colonization, but also making use of their natural environment. In terms of analog, Black Panther is more like Botswana – a traditional leader using the natural resources to invest in the public

Fight scenes – a little better cinematography to follow the action, and ideally showing off traditional african martial arts. The articles about Bosewick’s training mention a lot of Muay Thai.

CGI – A lot of people complained about it, I didn’t notice it.

The women were regal, and the did more than just be love interests.

The supporting cast was great.

I’m not going to speak to much on Martin Freeman’s character, Everett Ross, other than the irony of Martin’s last name. Although the inclusion of Ross is true to the comic book, the way that he’s used in this film is more about fanning flames.

The real question in the movie was whether Killmonger was right, should we arm the oppressed?

The film says no. And that is what you would expect from a corporate film from the likes of Marvel and Disney. And for a mainstream film, what else could they really say?

“Yes, let’s arm the oppressed Rohingya Muslims in Myanmar to fight back against that repressive Buddhist regime.” Said no one ever.

That’s not what I say.

Killmonger was right. The oppressed people of the world should be armed.

And along those lines, they’d probably be better under off under a Wakandan Empire, whose ruler has lived at the bottom of the pile and also toppled regimes.

What were the options discussed in the film

1) T’Challa suggested bringing in refugees.

I really don’t know much about the Wakandan economy, other than there are farmers, ranchers, street vendors, shop keepers, lab technicians, and royalty. I don’t want to delve too deep into the comic book, but the livelihoods of regular Wakandans is an open question.

T’Challa comes up with the idea, but his countrymen and friend, dismisses it by saying that outsiders would bring their problems to Wakanda.

W’Kabi offers an alternative.

2) Regime Change

We could go out to these countries and “clean” them up. A bit like the US invading Iraq/Syria/Afghanistan. There’s no question that military can topple a government, there is a question of rebuilding better than it was before.

And that’s one of the central tensions of the argument against Killmonger.

Destroy the oppressor, and then what?

In recent memory, we’ve seen the Arab Spring/North African spring topple repressive regimes but not have a plan in place to continue basic services.

But not talked about much in the news is that Isis/Daesh actually tried to govern areas they took over.

If the focus is on material comfort, Iraq and Libya were better under their respective rulers.

China is an authoritarian and repressive regime, and it managed to lift 100’s of millions out of poverty.

Are we willing to trade self-determination for comfort?

That brings the discussion to comfort versus freedom

Except for the fact that Wakanda has advanced technology, and delivering government services is to a liberated people would be very possible.

3) Soft Imperalism – Nakia’s plan

Nakia wanted Wakanda to do more socially.

She says this unironically as she acts as an intelligence agent in that fake Boko Haram/Child Soldier.

Her plan is vague, but it’s along the lines of what they ended up doing.

4) Soft Imperialism/Technology Transfer without Context

Shuri/Nakia/T’Challa – They decided to open a tech/community center in Oakland (because the city next door to San Francisco obviously needs another girls coding lab…)   Strangely enough Disney/Marvel just did this exact thing.

Some of y’all are way too young to remember Tony Brown, but I remember him saying that if Black folks were to cancel all of their annual meetings for one year – and put that money in a fund – we’d have something that would basically address a lot of these issues.   I don’t know the racial breakdown of the ticket receipts, but not a small fraction of the 700 Million dollars this movie made so far came from the people it celebrated. …

Anyway

At a global level, the plan was to share what they know with the world. The technology transfer aspect is important, not sure if it really applies in Oakland as opposed to say Kenya or Ecuador. As Americans, we have it pretty sweet.  Not that it excuses the rampant racism throughout the culture – but it’s a little unseemly that T’Challa would build a school in Oakland and not Nigeria or Kenya (both name checked in the movie)

Killmonger wanted to arm the oppressed and have them overthrow the oppressors. He also wanted a Wakandan Empire. The film doesn’t actually explain what that means, but a man who grew up the son of royalty, in one of the worst in America, educated at MIT, experienced in regime change – I’m willing to give him the benefit of the doubt.

What made N’Jobu (brother to T’Chaka, Uncle to T’Challa, former friend of Zuri) different than his brother?

As an intelligence operative in America, N’Jobu experienced a few things
– Loss of his royalty
– Loss of being Wakandan
– Being lumped in with people that only shared his skin color, but not his culture.  Many successful people from different cultures come to America, and just based on skin color, accent, or etc – get put at the back of the line.

That’s the key difference here between N’Jobu/Killmonger and the rest.

N’Jobu becomes “black” in the American sense, and Killmonger knows nothing else.

On the forge of American racism, N’Jobu became conscious.

Killmonger would never know another life. Not one of privilege. Through his father, through teachings.

If you haven’t seen The Spook by the Door – an old school film where a black man goes to work for the CIA and then uses what he learns against his enemies. (I’m sure Coogler and his writing partner have seen all the blaxploitation films. When Killmonger breaks the spear – that’s a direct reference to Shaka Zulu)

Understanding their sense of identity is a key point in this film. Because what Killmonger is talking about, isn’t generally about “the globe”, but oppressed black people and oppressed people in general. In other countries, Africans don’t naturally ally themselves with other minorities. But in America, shared racism creates bedfellows. Indeed, in a lot of conscious circles that aren’t too caught up in the color thing, you’ll find people reaching out to Palestinians, Muslims, Latinos, Asians and Indians.  Indeed, oppression is not just a white on color thing.

I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again, WV is 98% white.  And the powers that be with no black and brown people to screw over, have no problem screwing over white guys. None what so ever.   ….

I digress.

To get back in “Black Identity as distinct from Wakandan Identity”

When the film ends, Shuri asks T’Challa why Oakland and not Disney World (product placement!) or Coachella?

She feels no racial “connection”. Why would she? Why would any of them?

And this lack of “connection” continues.

At the UN, Wakanda is not promising to share its technology with Africa, or lesser developed nations, but with the world.

The efficacy of “technology share”, “social outreach” and “humanitarian aid” with lesser developed nations is not something I’m going explore here. But there’s nothing particularly “Pan African” about that.

Think about this the hood has plenty of schools and hospitals – most are better funded and staffed than by anything you’d see in a the developing country – yet it’s still the hood.

-Archie

First of all, big shout to Moma and RudeBwoy who said I should start my own site

http://www.repstylez.com/

I’ve been on their podcasts numerous times, definitely support them.

On the YouTube Tip

Mr. Locario – Direct Game/Day Time

Alpha Male Strategies – Traditional BMG

Justin Wayne- PUA

https://youtu.be/YTMjoHcb520

Player Supreme (RIP) – Pimp Lite, Mack Tight

Tariq Nasheed – Pimp Lite, Mack Tight

https://youtu.be/YGugnTpne0s

AbuAmerican Little – Red Pill/Macro Game Issues

RSD Madison – State of the Art Pick Up

https://youtu.be/uiR72_uRaLI

^^This particular pull is INSANE.  Now I’m not gonna get into a pissing match about whether or not infield footage is real, or it is a real just 1 out of a 100, but this particular one is not so much about technique per se – but mindset.

Distant Light – Big Picture Game/Lifestyle Game/Beyond Game

 

On Twitter

Virgle Kent

I don’t know if VK has moved on from the public game, but he was in the original 3 of Roissy and Roosh in terms of the DC PUA scene.   And well you know how that ended.

Pimp Lite, Mack Tight? 

The difference between a Pimp and a Mack is that a Mack lets the chick fuck him for free.  A Pimp makes her pay for the privilege.  (Most guys are paying women to fuck them)

There is some overlapping skills and knowledge between the pimp and the mack, but I’m not trying to send my small audience into wanting to be Iceberg Slim or Bishop Magic Don Juan.

If you got any recommendations, hit me up in the comments.

I don’t agree with everything these guys say, but each one of them has something that added to my game, be it inclusion or an example of something I want to go in a different direction.

-Archie

[Ed. Little bit of Tech while we go through Black History Month.  Shout to my man Mace for the topic]

https://youtu.be/kDxCpV84-JQ

So you’re spitting some game to a chica.  You think everything is going copacetic, and then she says

“I just got out of a relationship”

What does this mean?

Straight up – it means she’s not trying to entertain any of your bullshit, but she wants to be nice about it.

Is there a solution?

For my guys totally into direct game – if you’re getting this a more than 30% of the time

1. Better externals (fitness, grooming, style, social proof, pre-selection) – Basically look better, conform to society’s idea of what a man look’s like.
2. Better internal view/confidence – which stems from previous experience – and has the practical effect of silencing a man’s body language and “tells”
3. Better opener/immediate vibe – the least amount of psychology that you can telegraph in your opener/step up.  So instead of coming in meek, come in high. If you’re always coming in high energy, come in serious.  If you’re always serious, come into the set like you don’t give a fuck one way or the other.

As I’ve said before, direct game is 90-100% about screening the girl out if she doesn’t feel the guy from the very beginning.  It is very efficient.  And when you work on your appearance, build up that data bank of successes as well as failures that don’t make you feel like a failure, and the right “energy” – chicks are just more receptive to you.

The technical part of direct game has never been hard.

Finding enough targets and optimizing the look are not difficult but not easy.

The hard part of direct game is the toil it takes on a man’s ego after he spends a few minutes with a chick (with his hopes up) and he gets denied.  That’s when the negative spiral kicks in.

Overall, Direct Game is basically giving her the best “thin slice” of what it would be like to be with you.

It’s a thin slice though, and a false slice at that.

Indirect game is literally giving her the experience of what it is like to be with you, and you draw her deeper into your web with your words and behavior that hits her switches.  It’s not really about how she feels about you, but about how you make her feel.   I call this the Stroganoff.  Beef Stroganoff is not a very pretty looking dish.  But a spoonful or two and a smile will appear.

So if a player is into indirect game – where the negative or indifferent get so wrapped up in the interaction that they become attracted in a psychological sense – based on the novelty of the chat, and the intermittent nature of the emotional reward…

Then when she says she just got out of a relationship, now  is a perfect chance to practice indirect game.

A chick saying this basically establishes the fact that whatever “value” you had in a direct context is not very “inspiring to her”.  And she would please like you to leave her alone.

This particular wording – and we know how women love words – actually leaves open lots of questions, rather than closes them.

When a chick says this, I hear a social script.

Social Script?

I say, “Please”. You say, “Thank you.”

I say, “Como estas?”, You say, “Bien, Y Tu?”

Girl doesn’t feel the guy,  she grabs a sub-routine to get her out of the situation, and “lets him down easy”.  She doesn’t want to give a hard no, because for all she knows, he’ll go Caveman on her.  The more social scripts/stock responses/routine behavior that a man notices, the more he has to work with.

These are what I consider easy set ups.

– How old are you

– Where are your friends

– Where do you live

– What do you do for a living

– I’m too old for you

– You’re too old for me

Guys with little experience with women see these as either tests or strong indicators of interest.  Positive or negative.  I suggest a player uses his brain, and figures out what each of these mean in the context that he’s in.

Overall, a man will not be served by having little one line quips.  Like he was  repeating some bullshit he read on a blog.

A quick line makes you sound like a “playa playa”.

Chick says, “I got a man/boyfriend”

Would-Be-Player says, “We can just be friends”

A chick should never think a player is “smooth”. If she thinks he’s smooth – she’s stepping outside of herself and analyzing.  She should being fully “present” in the moment reacting to what he says and does.

As to any of these common “tests” or “issues” – What you want is understanding of what she probably means/what she’s probably trying to do, and use reasonable alternatives to get her twisted up!

Let’s recap, the “just got out of a relationship” is definitely a brush off.

How I do it?

She says her little piece

1. “I just got out of a relationship”
2. The sub-communication is “I’m not interested in you”
3. Her reasoning might be
   1. You’re not my type,  I only bang in relationships (which is generally a yeah right, and might be true for individuals who’ve had bad experiences in the past – but that’s not “natural” at all)
   2. You are my type, but I fall in love with every guy that I bang

So those are my 3 thoughts at the start

– She says the thing

– I have a possible reason of hers in my mind

– She’s trying to get rid of me, the least socially expensive way possible

So what I do is these 4 steps

– Hear what she said (maybe take note of her body language)

– Give her a look, a quizzical look, a confused look, a confuddled look

and then

– I wait

Now whenever a chick “delivers the bad news”, 60% of her is sure that you’ll “get the message”.  40% of her is bracing for negativity – and best believe she has a lot more to say if you pursue that negative route. (%’s are made up, just go with the concept Poindexter)

She is expecting both a verbal response that either accepts or disputes the logical meaning of what she says and a non-verbal response that comports with that understanding.

So either

• He’s gonna just take his L and walk away w/o causing a scene
• He’s gonna be mad, and his getting mad at her rejection is just what she needs to unload on him. (Because, that Oscar Wilde quote actually fits in this situation)

When he gives her that look, and say nothing – he pulls the rug out from underneath her.

And she does not know what to do.

If he says ANYTHING, she’s gonna latch onto that, twist it, and come back to iterate her point.  So he says NOTHING.

What he want is for her to explain herself.

The reasons don’t matter, but she’s now reacting to you.  She’s now on the defensive.

And he’s now changed the tenor of the conversation – showed the most little bit of actual value – a man can literally convert – he’s gotten past her first little defense – indifference.

The overall idea of indirect game is interact with the girl and get her psychologically hooked on the interaction.  There are flashes of “strong emotion” that he gives her intermittently, and basically the amygdala keeps looking for another hit. Not just good emotions, STRONG emotions.  Roller Coaster..

 

So I have no problem talking to a chick, after I give her the look, she then fills in the void of silence with her “reasons”.   And then I continue to just not take her seriously with my look and the smirk that comes across her face.

Whatever I say at this point, after she’s said her peace, is not about addressing her “logical” concern, but about addressing her emotional concerns.

“You really think you’re going to get that attached to me?”

“Oh, you feel it too?”

“Hmm, what do you think is gonna happen?”

^Any of these 3 would work for me.

Whatever “wrong thing” I assume – she’s already reacting to me, already trying to defend herself, make her self clear, and she’s already falling into trap.

Because she has to be right, she has to prove herself, and in doing so, she’s laughing at my jokes, and herself, and having a good time.

From there it’s a move to a different subject, moving her to a different part of the venue, meeting her friends, introducing her to people, and let’s continue this discussion at the diner (which is incidentally 5 minutes from my place, where I can read you some of those Bible passages I mentioned)

-Archie

https://www.gq.com/story/quincy-jones-has-a-story

http://www.vulture.com/2018/02/quincy-jones-in-conversation.html

So much game, I might have a post about this coming later.

Here’s some choice quotes

Let’s not get it twisted, Archie is a SQUARE, as in 7 to the 2nd power.  I’ve met a handful of pimps in my life, read a lot on em, chatted deeply with 2 – I’m not in their game at all.  I’m just setting up a situation with a nice young lady for mutual benefit.   And I do that by drawing principles from what they do as practical psychologists, and other psychological principles at play in every day life.

And guess what, most black guys are squares too.    Not that we’re all Steve Urkel.

Square in the sense that they’re not trying to put chicks on “the track” to go make money by spreading her legs.

Within that world of pimps – there are only 3 options.  A Trick, A Ho, and A Pimp.  If a man ain’t pimping, he’s one of the other two.

Before you get carried away, like I’ve seen so many times (for instance Freaks vs Sluts vs Good Girls when pimps use those words)

This idea of Trick/Ho/Pimp is just like that “money vs game” debate – if a man takes a lot of these ideas and lets them rule his brain, he can’t think of much more.   It’s a logic trap. The male version of the hamster wheel.

It’s like talking to a person who just read Wealth of Nations or The Fountainhead.  Super capitalists! Read Marx and nothing else – Communism is everywhere.

Let’s get back to the game of squares though.

So Regular BMG is direct approaching, and the first step up is looking better while doing it.  I’ve basically established that.

Why does it seem like brothers are better at direct approaching than any other group?

Roasting! Playing the Dozens!  Talking Shit! Snapping on folks!

As a West Indian, as a brother who’s been around lots of West Africans, and fairly in tune with the black American community – being quick of wit and quicker with the tongue is an essential part of the community.  It probably goes back to the mother land if you really want to think about it.

I’ve lived in all kinds of neighborhoods – poor, rich, black, white, old, college kids, native born, immigrants – I rarely see other groups engaged in the depth and amount of wordplay within our community.

So how exactly does this help BMG?

The average black guy probably doesn’t have Patrice O’Neal  level skills. (or DL Hughley in the Comic View era)  But he definitely knows someone personally who does.  He’s been hearing it all his life.

So when he steps up to some random broad – no matter what she says to him – he’s basically heard it before, and worse.

Where a lot of guys fail with game in general – is that they are not only afraid to walk up and disturb the girl, they suffer from analysis paralysis in trying to figure out the best response prior to talking to the chick.

Newb Player sees a cutie.

• Hmm, I’m gonna go up and say Hey, like WIA says I should.
• And she should say “Hey” back.
• But what if she says, she’s waiting for her mother to call her about her sick dog, WHAT WILL I SAY?

Some variation of these destructive self-talk goes on BEFORE he even steps to the girl – and our would be player talks himself out of rapping to the chick.

I’m not saying every black dude is ice cold when it comes to rejection – far from it.  Everybody deals with approach anxiety.

What I am saying is that the average black dude has faced teasing social situations, and is generally more comfortable than average.

With experiences comes competence.  Relying on competence, increases confidence.

I’ve been roasted, and basically no random broad can rip me apart like my people have.  It just can’t happen.

So what a lot of members of the community have to supplement very basic direct game is actual inner game that comes from experience.  And in general, because of the value of the “gift of gab” in our community – he can draw from that when he runs up on a chick.  He might not have it, but he’s not afraid of hers

Part 3 – The Real Strength of BMG – Relationship Management – coming soon

-Archie

I’ve been thinking about this post for a while.

This being black history month, Black Panther in 2 weeks, and reading the Underdevelopment of Africa by Walter Rodney – it’s time to flex a little bit from the other side of the tracks.

So let’s start with some definition

Black Man’s Game needs two definitions.

The Black Man – I specifically mean black men, born in the states, whose recent forefathers are from the South.  I’m West Indian, and a lot of the black players I know are from the Caribbean and Africa – but this is specifically about my American brothers who grew up here.  Soul Food, Barbershops, Gold Chains, Crown Royal, Newports, Church on Sunday, Caddilacs, know the words to Lift Every Voice and Sing, grew up with a lot of other black people that were not family…maybe live in the city but got country cousins.

I will go RBG on that ass.  I don’t really delve too deep into my politics on the thread, but West Indian Archie wasn’t just some random name.

But this is about the biggest slice in of sweet potato pie in the US, the Black American.

The Game – Traditionally, the black man’s game is divided into two parts.  The Pull (the pickup) and the Maintain (the relationship).  There are other words for this, and true black game scholars might subdivide it even further.  For the purpose of this little series – we’re just gonna do the two.

The Pull 

This is what our fathers, grandfathers, mothers, and sometimes our uncles (we’ll get back to uncles in a second) tell us what to do when we see a girl we like.

1. Walk Over
2. Hi/Hey/Hello
3. How are you doing?
4. What’s your name?
5. Can I/Lemme get your number

They even made a song about it.

https://youtu.be/gC1xuVCBl4o

[Ed. Technically this song isn’t about pick up at all, I just love De La Soul]

She’s supposed to like how he looks, gladly agree to give the man her number, and then answer the call later to set up a date.

That is the black man’s pick up.

Reader, I kid you not.  I been black all my life.  This is the dominant train of thought on how to pick up women.

“Pick Up” would be how I would phrase it, because there’s not a whole lot of psychology to this.  (And I’m big on the psychology of things)

In fact, the 1-2 non-black readers that I have might be asking themselves this question

How is this different than what white guys do, what every guy does?

Lance, Chet, Sanjay -> you would be right to ask this question.  There really is not much different about this than what the majority culture teaches the mass.

For my true seduction veterans out there, this “game” is just a clumsy direct approach, that could be tweaked into something more serviceable – but then…

I’d say if you were to ask mainstream America what should they say when to a girl that they think is cute

1. Walk Over
2. Hi/Hey/Hello
3. My Name Is
4. How are you doing?
5. What’s your name?
6. Can I/Lemme get your number?

That’s the basic difference.  The mainstream guy introduces himself with his name.

We will get to why this is more effective when brother’s do it below.  That only begs the question….

How Effective is BMG?

If one looks at all the little kids running around, one would think that it is quite effective in terms of sheer procreation…  Let’s keep it real though.

Most women choose from guys they already know, or are familiar with.  “Known Quantities”.  Black, White, Latin, Asian, etc – girls typically choose from their extensive and extended social circles.

The broads I went to college with are still chasing the same set of Black Greek Fraternity dudes from then.  If not those particular dudes, it’s friends of friends.

So I can’t really judge the BMG Cold Approach Protocol (way to nerd it up there Archie) based on what I see.

I’ve used BMG before and as a “skill” goes, it’s basically turning over a rock and seeing if the chick is feeling me.

In the “community” we’ve talked to death about direct approaches. There are a few hacks that the community came up with – but by and large – when a man goes in hard, the cutie has to make up her mind about him right then and there.

BMG is direct approaching, and if a man already fits the overall profile of an attractive guy – he does better.

But of course he should do better, he’s an attractive guy.

The BMG hacks are what you would think they are

• Dress Better/Dress more flash/Dress for attention
• Work Out
• Pick Girls that look like they might be Receptive

Obvious.  When Pick Up Artists decided to grow up and incorporate common sense improvements – whaddya know, they started to get more #’s.

Now, I’m not the biggest on conforming to this commercialized and socially approved of what a Man Should Look Like

*the irony about this movie is so many PUA’s want Brad Pitt’s body…another topic, another time*

That’s basically it – traditional BMG is direct approaching. To get better results, look better.

But that’s not all there is.

To Be Continued…

-Archie