I really try to stay away from red meat for red pill guys. There are much better sources for masculine outrage. But sometimes it’s just too tempting.
Aziz Ansari is one such character
So to recap, Aziz Ansari was “Woke Bae #1”. He embodied everything that modern women say the want via the media. And then he had his scandal. To recap
- He was a Celeb doing Celeb things at a Celeb party.
- Random groupie with her date makes a move on him
- He doesn’t give her the time of day
- He realizes that he’s looking at a freebie
- Environmental opener and quick number exchange
- They meet up for a bit of din din
- He orders white wine for her, she prefers red.
- Back to his crib, and things start to go down
- Clothes come off, some things happen, but Aziz puts his foot on the gas and throws three fingers down the chick’s throat
- She leaves
- She then writes cryptic tweets and anonymous comments to start the rumor mill about him.
- Then not getting enough attention, some random mag publishes her account.
- Aziz becomes a pariah the same time that Weinstein is getting exposed and Cosby going through his. (To an extent, what Aziz did was conflated with Weinstein’s casting couch and Cosby’s roofie moves.)
What’s interesting is that the behavior is not considered sexual assault, but it’s not clear what is wrong exactly, except that they weren’t on the same page sexually. Well The Press/Twitter doesn’t really make it clear what’s wrong, and since nobody with game is credible…
So he goes on hiatus and tries to let things burn out. Like your man Louis CK – who’s crime was asking for permission and then jacking off in front of chicks. Dave Chappelle speaking on the matter.
But now your boy is back. Most of the reports have focused on him NOT saying a Brahma-damn thing about the incident. Until now.
Aziz Ansari says he hopes he’s “become a better person” since being accused of sexual misconduct
Really my G? A better person?
The real problem around the Aziz story is that America/The West doesn’t want to have a frank discussion about sex. Those of us that have been out her for a while recognize that the most important communication between potential partners is SUB-COMMUNICATED.
Furthermore, changing the non-verbal to the verbal often kills this fragile thing called romance, particularly on the female side. She doesn’t want to know the details of how the sausage is made, she just wants the damn hotdog.
Voicing every thing about the date is a known problem. A lot of clueless guys like to get a meta-commentary of the date. A lot of newb players like to talk about pickup with girls that they’re trying to pick up. We also know that women prefer some mystery, and in the long term, once she thinks she has you figured out, the novelty is gone, and she gets less attracted.
Traditionally, escalation is handled tacitly. The guy makes a LONG series of incremental moves from the very beginning of his interaction with a partner. I been saying for years that so-called Last Minute Resistance starts in the first minute.
Last Minute Resistance starts when you’re putting on your cologne before you go out. It starts with whether you’re getting enough sleep, eating correctly, staying fit. I don’t mean this in the new age player sort of way that you hear in both PUA and Red Pill Circles. I mean that girls consciously and subconsciously pick up on your smell, your body, and your body language. Most of the things gurus talk about these days have actual practical implication – though the average guy in this community would not put that together.
But back to Aziz. He thought this chick was a lock and did not pay attention to her language or her body language the entire date. When it came to for some action..
He was trying to escalate instead of building trust, rapport, and comfort. That could have been his wife (or at least a solid friend with benefits) if he actually did what the girl was sub-communicating the entire time.
Now a big part of the media brouhaha is that the chick basically said that Aziz wasn’t reading her. She was actually being very real about how to pick her up, pull her, put her into bed. It was quite a refreshing read at the time to be honest. The media on the other hand, because it doesn’t want to really discuss how people hook up, was able to find the dumb ass tweets from people saying “She should have said something” and “He needs to be in jail” etc.
Everyone is in denial.
I think I made that point in the earlier post. But Aziz doesn’t seem to have learned his lesson.
If you hold yourself out as “holy”, all you can do is fall from grace. But if you start as the villain, the social narrative allows you to become the hero.
Steven Tyler (lead singer of rock band Aerosmith) has known issues with women. But he got mostly praise when he opened a shelter for abused women.
Aziz? C’mon bro. Embrace the dark side, don’t just be a victim.
