Category: Newbs

Unprompted Declarations of Love are a Bad Idea

Again, these things obvious to me as hell, but I remember wanting to tell the little red haired girl how I felt about her.

Im gonna tell a girl that I like her.
byu/elboss2011 inseduction

These types of posts get upvoted all the time on seddit/reddit.  But it’s unfair to the girl and generally bad game.

That said, there are certain lessons I can only learn from making mistakes.  This seems to be one of them.

How should a man handle a crush?  He should handle it like a player.  Hit the chick up with some proper game.

Well maybe not like this.

Waiting for Choosing Signals is Bad Game

Trouble picking up signals.
byu/biglombow inseduction

It’s all the rage now with BMG meeting The Red Pill meeting Youtube, but choosing signals has always been problematic in the game.

PAIMAI (pre approach invitation, male approach invitation) was something guys used to run into the clubs.  Out handling his business, and a chick/and her friends would verbally or nonverbally signal that they wanted him to approach.

  • Looking and trying not to get caught
  • Looking and trying to get caught
  • Staring
  • Getting into a guy’s proximity
  • Bumping into him
  • Inviting herself into his conversation
  • Asking him a dumb question
  • Asking him to go out.

This is just the sort of thing that Newbs want. They do not want to take risks, they want certainty.  Their ego is at stake and it must be preserved at all costs.

And!! And as a guy gets better in his game, starts reading social signals, he’ll realize that he’s getting a lot more choosing signals than he realizes.

The Game is not for reaction, but for action.  Being proactive and going after girls that the rookie likes, versus the girls that like him is what is going to get him to learn the ropes.

Technique Matters

Focus Less On Pick Up Techniques And More On Building The Man
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I see a lot of this in this most recent generation of PUA and Red Pill guys.  They are building themselves into generic “awesome” guys that “magically” get girls.

This is a tight rope.  The OG guys in the pick up game, prior to the Mystery Model revolution, ran the gamut from nerdy Ross Jeffries types to more standard cool guy/alpha types like Zan Perrion.  There was no need to work out, look good, make money, because the community figured out that those were not the real moving parts in any pull.  Guys had muscles and didn’t have girls. They had money and didn’t have girls.  They were funny and popular, good at socializing, but did not know how to use those things to get girls.

The scene did not blow up until technique came to the forefront.  Building off a general framework and timeline, allowed the scene to develop.  After those things were solidified, those existing elements elevated the game.

 

False Dichotomies

High energy vs low energy. Which is better, and personality type.
byu/SadBananaCat inseduction

Guys come at The Game thinking it’s like buying a Jackstand from Harbor Freight.

I’m going to be 99% myself, I just need to tweak my personality about 1%.

To get “good” with girls, and by good I mean being able to talk to them confidently, express one’s self, and move the ball towards the goal – usually requires wholesale personality change.

Low Energy (James Marshall) or High Energy (Tyler Durden) does not really matter.  What matters is changing of self.  There’s something attractive about those guys (who are for the most part not classically attractive, Tyler in particular) that uses manic energy or low action/intensity that hits notes in the girl.

The key to any sort of game is hitting those notes, those subconscious drives.

    • The Tall, Good Looking, Guy hits that primal/sexual “urge to merge”.
    • The funny guy hits a mischievous note.
    • The cool “sigma” guy hits a mysterious note.
    • The flamboyant artist hits another note.

However a man wants to style his game, the key will always be delivering those emotions.