Category: End Game

I Just Wish He Would Communicate

One of my favorite subs on Reddit – it shows female nature (and hypergamy) in all of its unedited glory.

Withholding as a Form of Abuse
by inFemaleDatingStrategy

So let’s break this down

First – It’s important for women to define their ex-lovers as abusive.

my former relationship was, in fact, abusive due to the following reasons:

This is a key part of the strategy for them to cope with the guys they pick, and the man not being a woman.

It’s okay to be a man.  And part of being masculine is stoicism.  A man needed to be heartless to kill a nursing water buffalo.  He needs to NOT identify with his dinner, with his enemy, in order to survive.

• My ex kept his “thoughts, feelings, hopes, and dreams to [himself] only.”

According to her, this is a bad thing.

This is what science says.

https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/why-you-shouldnt-tell-people-about-your-dreams/

https://blog.trello.com/science-backed-reasons-you-shouldnt-share-your-goals

Revealing Little as Possible

• My ex remained “silent and aloof toward [me], revealing as little as possible.”

This is a problem for chicks,  but we all know that when you let a chick see the wizard behind the curtain – it hurts the relationship long term.

FD on the topic

FD ain’t no Red Piller, playa mack, by any stretch of the imagination – but they really do not want to know, do not know how to handle it, and will punish guys for doing so.

• My ex repeatedly stonewalled me after I voiced my concerns. He would disappear for days under the guise of “needing space”. Upon coming back, my concerns were never discussed or resolved.

My man! Sometimes you gotta walk away before the chick pushes you, or the relationship to the point of no return.

All of this is gold.  (and keep in mind, we don’t now why they broke up, but this relationship maintenance behavior cuts both ways.)

My ex knew how to create an illusion of intimacy, sharing things that held little to no emotional importance to him. Withholding information was his way of:

• Maintaining the upper hand (control) in our relationship.

• Ensuring he stayed unattached, potentially a defense mechanism against real or perceived separation/rejection.

• Ensuring little to no emotional turmoil (shame, guilt) for abandoning me during, before, and after conflict.

• Avoiding accountability for his mistreatment.

If that’s how she sees it.

But analyzing these things makes the young player realize what she wants.

I’m not even sure what “upper hand” in the relationship means.  It’s not like these chicks don’t have their own lives, their own jobs, their own money.

And what does attachment mean?  I’m here ain’t I.

But this key line here – she wants you to feel bad for abandoning her in times of conflict.

Ensuring little to no emotional turmoil (shame, guilt) for abandoning me during, before, and after conflict.

99 times out of 100, she has some issue with what he’s doing.  Whereas the 100 things that she does, he never says a word.

And if he does?  He’s controlling and abusive.

-Archie

Seeding the Bounce happens Early in the Interaction

Getting someone back to your place?
byu/throwaway58937297 inseduction

A bit more of the Game 101 posts.

Normal guy hits it off with the girl, and then realizes that maybe he can take her home.  So now what?

First thing the guy needs to change in his mind is how he think that WOMEN THINK ABOUT SEX.  They love it. They want more of it.  And like anything that women want and desire, she wants all of the good and none of the bad.

So the man has to start any interaction with a woman with the idea that she will be interested in seeing him later on.  To that end, if they are in environment 1 (day time coffee shop, night time swing dance session), he needs to create an opportunity for them to move to a second environment.

This is called seeding the bounce.

So he should have started the chat with that in mind.  Felt her out.  Found either specific commonalities of the girl (The Urkel way) or generalities that every girl likes (The Tyrone Way).

My man Mufasa has great Betty Crocker game.  He hollas at chicks, gets some rhythm, develops some sexual tension, and then asks if she likes sweets, and then mentions he wants to bake a cake at his place.  They literally go bake a Betty Crocker cake, and one thing leads to another.

There’s a two-fer here.

Seeding the Bounce is the mentioning the cake.

Plausible Deniability is that they’re only going to his house to apply some frosting.

That’s old hat though.

But what happens when the Veteran is rapping with some females and he notices a spark with one of em?  In my old age, I’m not always on on the make.  As The Great Moma once, said “I’ll take a lay up”.

With no seeding of the bounce or plausible deniability, how does one develop a conversation at happy hour to waffles in the morning?

The rookie and the veteran can take what the girl is saying, seriously.

Chica – “…..and that’s why I think that Mets might take it all the way this year”

Veteran – eye contact, pause, cock his head, squint his eyes – questioning tone – “You really feel that way?” – let her fill the void.

The move here is to go from a standard bar/club chat to one where she thinks that she “reached” you.  Like she’s talking to the real person behind the player facade, and she gets to be her true self.

Creating a moment like this, where the conversation gets out of the PUA flowchart is understanding Game, and hitting those emotional notes.

In this new mood, the next play is a bold one, but

Veteran – “I want to talk to you a bit longer….”

And now he can insert his bounce with some plausible deniability.

-Archie