Category: Black Man’s Game

Of course the manosphere moment of the month would happen when I was writing the chapter on Women.

But I have to break my self imposed silence.

The facts

Chris Rock makes a joke about Jada Pinkett starring in GI Jane 2 – (where Demi Moore shaves her head to be in the military*)

*There’s already some Manosphere Red Meat in that concept alone.  I’m not her for that.

The Audience Laughs, including Will Smith, but Jada rolls her eyes.

We do not see her look at Will, at least I did not.

Will Smith, who was laughing at first, changes.

We don’t see if Jada said anything to will.

Then Will walks up on stage.

Chris Rock does not know what’s going on, but “rough housing” and improvisation have been parts of this show.

Moreover, Chris Rock has worked with both Will and Jada.  He’s even had a few jokes their way as well.

And then Will Smith assaults Chris Rock.

Chris Rock is stunned.  Apologizing, Will Smith continues to throw shots from the sidelines.  Rock makes a “well that happened” joke.

And this started a firestorm in the black community at large, the red pill community, and the black manosphere.

So let’s start with the first take on this whole thing

Take #1 – It was Fake.

These smooth brains think that Will Packer (first black show runner of the Oscars) concocted this bit with Chris Rock and Will Smith to give a boost to  the ratings late in the show to do what exactly?

• Like the network could suddenly renegotiate the ad rates with advertisers mid show because Proctor and Gamble are dying to have their brands associated with the altercation, and they could get corporate to sign off on it with a phone call.
• Like a fight on the biggest night for Hollywood is going to make more people turn in, 1 year later.

A lot of people that I respect, in the mainstream media and in our corner of the internet have proposed this.  There are even photoshopped images of a black skin face pad on Chris Rock’s cheek.

“You know the Oscar ratings have been down”

“This will boost Will Smiths’ image”..

I lost so much respect for folks holding this idea.  People I know, Big Names in the space.   It’s weird to see Barbershop level thinking from College Professors.

Be warned, any comments with the “conspiracy” angle will be deleted.  Keep that dumb stuff to yourself.

Take #2 – The Colorism Angle

Chrissie, my favorite dark skinned black woman preaching divestment from the black community aka Blackistan, to live a life of luxury in the arms of a non-Black Man who is also high value – and the value starts with him being high income and high net worth, in addition to having to continually sacrifice himself with personal service to her delight, not merely her benefit.

I’m paraphrasing the video, but

Light Skinned/Bi-Racial/Exotic Black Women can expect protection, but not you 4C Darkies that watch my channel. 

This is my actual favorite take because it’s so bizarre.

She said that she needed to put the “colorist” argument out there.

https://youtu.be/tvfN00GJNTA

I don’t know how common Chrissie’s take is, but there are a significant portion of black women that not only agree with Will’s actions, but lament that they are not deemed worthy enough for that protection.

My brothers that date sistas, these types of pathologies are something that you are going to have to deal with…

Take #3 – A lot Black Women say “Protect Black Women”

So the Reporter comes at comedian Tiffany Haddish (I should put comedian in quotes. She does not really review well.  And that’s all I’m going to stay on that front.

But the Typical Internet Black woman – working class, middle class, and “social media class” – is YASSSS GIRLLL-ing all over Twitter.

THAT’S HOW YOU DO IT.

Their logic is this.  Chris Rock “attacked” Jada.  And Will Smith protected her.

Chris Rock made a verbal joke and Will Smith hit him physically.

The two things are equivalent.

So if a comedian insults Jada, it should be met with physical violence.

But what if Chris Rock was a woman?

One of the many problems with typical Yaasss GIRLLLL take

Regina Hall made fun of Will and Jada (and being a celebrity, especially among family often requires being the butt of the joke)….

Will didn’t slap Regina.

NARY A WORD from the Bitter Black Broad Brigade.

They don’t have the same level of analysis for this do they?

Because a lot of these things in the “gender warz” are not about the principle, but about pushing a certain narrative.

Take #4 – The Simp from the Hood Take

Y’all must have forgot, Will Smith is from West Philly

There are plenty of dudes that think Chris Rock’s joke was beyond the pale, and Will was right to get up out of his seat, damn the consequences*, and preserve her honor**.

*There’s a discussion about middle class/upper class culture of not making spectacles, as well as looking bad in front of white people aka respectability politics.  I’m not one of those people that is interested in that conversation, and I have a feeling most of you guys are not either.

**What honor?  But we will get to Jada in a minute.

The real problem with the Hood Simp is Will didn’t immediately jump out of his chair when he heard the joke.

Did Jada say something?  Did he look at her face? Did he independently change his mind?

I just haven’t seen the evidence on film to say that’s the case.

What we didn’t see was Jada running after her man to stop him though…

Take #5 –  Will was Wrong and motivated by either Jada or his own feelings of inadequacy.

You can tell this is where I’m at.  Will wasn’t finna do nothing to his colleague and possible friend, until he looked at Jada, Jada said something to him, or he hit his breaking point of disrespect.

Let’s be clear here – something none of the people seem to want to talk about – “disrespecting” Jada is really about Will’s ego, not her reputation.

There are plenty of reasons to vilify Jada, but this has always been about Will’s ego, Will’s image.

He’d taken one too many slights, and his ego was bruised.

Jada is not really a person, she’s an extension of him.

And that’s not news, you can see him steal her spotlight all the time.

Feminists and their supporters should be chastising Will for not letting Jada stick up for herself, as these were just words.  But again this is that double sided Feminism that we all know.

Make no mistakes, I’m of the opinion that Will is a punk for slapping Chris Rock over a joke.

But the fact that he probably did it because Jada told him to do it, or worse to win her approval… That’s the simp lesson in this.

He was not mad of his own accord.  I still think if he was, it would still be a punk move.

But he did it for Jada.

Let’s switch it up and talk about the 5 people in the room.

Person #1 – Jada 

According to the interwebz, Jada grew up in single parent household in Baltimore.  This is not an indictment, as many of us grew up in single parent homes.  It would be unfair to say she grew up in a matrifocal, gynopotestal, woman centered house hold, off rip, but… when we look at the roles she’s played well…. Let’s not say out loud what a lot of us are thinking.

She is in love with a dead man.

This whole episode is illustrative of another trend in our community.  Lot of these chicks want Tupac, if not that, Tupac in a suit.  But again, I’m not gonna get into that.

Person #2 – Tupac

For the Black Pill guys that watch this, for the game doubters – Tupac is 5’9″ and Will Smith is 6’2″. Moreover, Pac grew up in acting classes.

“They moved to Baltimore, where Tupac enrolled at the prestigious Baltimore School for the Arts, at which he felt “the freest I ever felt.”

He didn’t go “gangsta” until he started rapping.  Given his Black Panther upbringing, he really didn’t the gangsta image until he started rolling with Death Row. Again, this ain’t a pissing contest – but when you look through the man’s life, aside from a Larry Davis style episode, Pac really was not about that life.

Jada was so besotten over Tupac, that it even affected her children.

This a letter from Jada’s daughter Willow to a dead Tupac.

DAUGHTER

Person #3 – August Alsina

Jada essentially groomed her son’s drug addicted and emotionally damaged son, August Alsina.

Being the young buck he is, damaged, he couldn’t keep it on the hush.  Of course he was gonna speak on it.

Leading  us to the “entanglement’ and the red table.

https://www.facebook.com/redtabletalk/videos/718425758995043/

She admits no wrong doing. She was the victim here.

Person #4 – Will Smith

We’ve had to deal with the Smith Family nonsense for quite a while.  In the black community, they went from “couples goals” to the butt of endless jokes.

It’s not like Will can’t get a better woman, and doesn’t have entanglements of his own.

But he divorced his old wife for Jada, and then had to put up with her nonsense ever since.  They have two kids, but this was their parenting style.

“We don’t do punishment. The way that we deal with our kids is, they are responsible for their lives,” Will explained in an interview in 2013. “Our concept is, as young as possible, give them as much control over their lives as possible and the concept of punishment, our experience has been—it has a little too much of a negative quality.”

He continued, “So when they do things—and you know, Jaden, he’s done things—you can do anything you want as long as you can explain to me why that was the right thing to do for your life.”

The black man, black manosphere, red pill, pua, average person on the street – NOTHING BUT RED FLAGS, WILL SAVE YOURSELF, DIVORCE HER.

Person #5 – The Man of the Hour – Chris Rock

In my opinion, the joke was mild, maybe a bit lame.  If he wanted to be more in tune with times, he would have made a Dora Milaje joke

Chris was just doing his job.

He’s joked about them before, and they have joked about him before.

Others joked about them that very night.

And then we find out

• Chris didn’t know about Jada’s “alopecia”.
• Chris has been bullied.

But Chris has fought back

He said at one point, he finally decided to fight back against a bully.

“I went home, I put a brick in a book bag — this is like a legendary story in my neighborhood — I swung that s— and smacked the guy in the face with this brick and stomped on him, Joe Pesci-style, to the point that we thought he might die,” Rock recounted.

Do folks really understand how difficult it was to take that slap, apologize, make a joke and keep it moving?  Especially given what he’s gone through?

Where are the thinkpieces and videos about Rock?

In the immediate aftermath, Denzel and Samuel Jackson and others comforted SMITH.  Even honorary black dude Bradley Cooper was able to step in and support.

Did the people at the Oscars want to protect Chris?  Eliminate the threat?

That answer is no. Will Packer wanted him to stay.

Will received a standing ovation.  Didn’t apologize to Chris, just to the academy. (and his apology to Chris was via IG, the next day)

Why?

The ironies among ironies, what we in the sphere know

Will Smith is Alpha.  

Chris Rock is Beta.

Despite Will’s simp behavior, despite “mate guarding”, even with folks in Hollywood condemning him after the fact – the story is still about Will.  In Jada’s eyes, Pac will always be more Alpha than Will, but in 2022, Will is more Alpha than Chris.

That’s the toughest lesson from all of this.

This the cruel reality we all live in.

Honor means nothing.

Doing the right thing, means nothing.  

Had Chris fought back, both would have been sullied, and Chris Rock would have lost points for losing his cool, and his joke retroactively would have been the worst thing ever said.

He had to take the slap.  And he now has to take the said and unsaid insults.  Now he has to deal with pity.  Chris will never live this down.  He will make some money and some jokes, but this will leave a deep scar.

Chris can’t win.  He could not have won.  If he keeps a gun on him for the next set of shows, he will still lose.

Will, on the other hand, cannot lose in terms of status.

His star might be dimmed for a bit, but he’s a few sessions of therapy and a year out of the spotlight before he can get his redemption arc. (If Marky Mark and Robert Downey Jr can do it…) And even if we never see him again, he will have to go back to his life with a net worth of 350M….

Make no mistake, Will is broken, but he still has the spotlight.

Chris?  Can’t say the same.

– Archie

The Players

Fresh and Fit 

• • • Fresh is the rich guy that has a stuttering problem.  I’ve featured some of his videos before.  (From Barbados)
    • Fit is the fitness guy, who’s got a lot of energy (Sudanese)

Aba and Preach

• • • Aba and Preach are both in Canada, and they’re both comedians.
    • Aba is Ethiopian.
    • Preach is Haitian.

The Time line

• • • On one of their podcasts, Fresh and Fit accuse Aba (of Aba and Preach fame) of being “Beta”.  [I’ll get back to this]
    • To discuss it, A&P appear on F/F.
    • The discussion then turns to whether or not prostitution should be legal.
    • The overall idea is that when you pay for the box, the chick doesn’t bring her genuine desire. Rollo Gets into it here.  [My only argument against validational sex – is that women are GREAT liars. –  See the crying challenge.
    • Fresh talks about his game.
      • Like all game, all pick up, saying the stuff out loud = cringe.  The only time the actual words about pick up are not cringe, are when some attractive woman validates it.
    • Preach reacts to his game and calls him out on it DURING THE BROADCAST.
    • 3 Months later, A&P do a reaction video about Fresh’s game from their time on the show.  There’s the thumbnail.  There’s the title.  And then they clip out parts  from Fresh and basically roast him and his game.
    • F/F decide to clap back.  Fit, the Sudanese guy, says that A&P are only doing this for clout.  And then brings Preach’s wife into it. Then challenge Preach to a boxing match
    • They finna throw hands?
    • Cooler minds prevailed, kinda?

The Good Old Days

The Spark 

I’ll have to do a point by point breakdown

The Reaction to the Reaction

The Escalation

The Fake Apology and Apology

And the coda

There are somethings happening here in terms of content.

Aba and Preach don’t know the red pill, and kinda don’t like it.  But Aba has some shades of RP in their content.  I’ve personally noticed a shift into “these crazy females” type stuff over the past 2 years.  I think I mentioned it on Reddit, cause I like them, but they’re built like that.

F&F are very red pill, just not really great on the debate and how to play these situations.

Rollo does a once over on A&Ps argument.  He kills it, even getting fed up with the BS.

Lemme put my cards on the table. As Youtubers, I prefer A&P.  Fresh and Fit, I can’t watch for the same reason I don’t really watch Kevin Samuels PAST HIS MONOLOGUE.

I don’t like to hear women argue.  I know a lot of guys like to see F&F put thots in their place, and watch Kevin Samuels dismantle these delusional chicks, but the second I hear the words

“I feel like…..”

I’m gone.

So what we have with A&P and F/F looks like

• • • A fake fight (probably not)
    • A&P getting scared they’re losing their edge (they aren’t)
    • A&P trying to get the RP/Black Manosphere money (they aren’t)

I think Rollo is right, this is an ideological difference.

But it looks like this to me.

 

I’m gonna talk about 4 essential man skills that are part of the foundation of your overall game skills

1. Operational Security
2. Threat Recognition
3. Emotional/Anger Management
4. De-escalation and Conflict Resolution

OpSec – Bad Boys move in silence.  Everybody that’s moved up to notoriety in this area has been doxxed.  And the fallout affects their careers and their families.

F&F are “living out loud”, and as a result of the attention, they’re getting a lot of haters.  This is especially an issue when they both have some flaws in their game.

Threat Recognition – As a man, you have to be able to recognize threats.  This is Manhood 101 – protect your physical safety, safety of your loved ones, money, reputation, etc.

F&F didn’t really recognize the threat of A&P, and certainly did not think about what it would mean if they escalated it in the immature fashion that they did.

Never bring the wife and the kids into it.

Emotional Control/Anger Management – As a young bol or rookie in pick up, but in life – learning to keep your anger under wraps is crucial.  18 year old Archie would have gotten real reckless at some of the bs jobs I’ve worked and fake friends and ditzy chicks.  But I had that level of control built into me.

Part of the attack on masculinity, not just toxic masculinity, is getting little boys to open up about their feelings.

The feelings they want are ones of vulnerability, things that will be used against him.

Little boys have to be TAUGHT to not reveal those things BECAUSE the world is not a safe place.  There are predators out there that will prey on a boy’s, teen’s, man’s feelings.  Otherwise little boys are open books.

Valuable survival lessons…

There is a time to show anger, to show sadness – and that’s when showing these emotions (real or faked) will get you what you want.

Sometimes you gotta do something that puts people on NOTICE.

With your boss, homies, female you yapping to, it can be as simple as a shift in tone, eye contact, and NO. Letting them realize that they’re crossing a line.

To me the the A&P video was a sneak diss, a straight up character assassination.

But both Fresh and Fit LOST all composure.

De-escalation and Conflict Resolution.

The first thing a man should learn is how to fight.

But when things get real, the first thing a man should do is avoid conflict, kowtow if needed, and learn how to de-escalate a situation.

Plenty of dudes in the penitentiary and cemetery because they would not back down, cause of their egos.

I personally think that A&P should have reached out to F&F before putting out this video.

They didn’t.

Shots fired.

But then F&F should have then reached out behind the scenes to discuss it.

That’s not how they handled it.

And now…we gotta deal with this..

-Archie

I was writing a long post about the YouTube Black Manosphere.  I think there are some interesting and exciting things going on.

But I just deleted the bulk of it, because I’m realizing something many of you guys already know – guy only spaces are like girl only spaces – a lot of beef, name calling, sneak dissing, gossip etc.

So even though I think all of us do watch some of these Youtube celebs from time to time, catch some nuggets of wisdom – if you’re like me, it’s a lot of stuff to wade through to get to the jewels.

So the latest bit of beef is this.

The Saint and The Sinner (book review coming as soon as I finish reading it) – as background, I believe the brother is from Cali.  Has a pimping background, but also went to great schools and has run tech companies.  I’ll take the man at his word about his bonafides and I judge his content more than his resume.  Overall, I like his content.  I disagree here and there, but I never expect to agree with someone 100%, nor do I expect someone to agree with me.

The Spark

Saint is at the Copacabana Beach in Rio and is not impressed by the quality of women there.

Okay, although I can see a nice one in the thumbnail, my time in Brazil showed me that the whole country doesn’t look like a Rap Video.  The idea that a place is not crawling with 8’s, 9’s, and 10’s should not be surprising to anyone.  In fact, rampant obesity should not be a shocker either, it’s world wide. When you fat people in Saigon, that should tell you something.  But the USA takes the cake in the fat-Olympics in my opinion.

His comment section agrees with him.  It was a one off video for laughs.

But that’s not how this will play out.

So my man 1 Master Teacher, a Brazil veteran, is disagreeing with Saint.

Okay, if you’ve seen 1MT’s work around the globe, he’s a true passport player.

Again, it’s not secret that a Black man handling his business, can network before he goes and connect with some nice locals, and sometimes just parachute into a country and make it happen.  Young dude, in decent shape, got money to spend?  A brother does not need to resort to pay for play.  Tinder dates via Google Translate is the norm. A lot of people do not want Black men to realize that as a brand, we are a pretty attractive lot.  Women, the world over, like us as a group for romantic and physical activities.

If paying $20 bucks for a 3 course dinner in Fortaleza is “simping” to a lot of dudes – we just aren’t in the same tax bracket.  I regularly go on dinner dates with women.  I don’t see that as tricking.  A lot of guys do. *shrugs*

That said, the disagreement here is about the content, not about the person.

Two brothers can disagree.  The disagreement can be heated, but at the end of the day, we can agree to disagree.

But 1MT wasn’t the only reaction.

Enter Oshay Duke Jackson. 

Him and my man Obsidian are basically the backbone of the Black Youtube Manosphere.  They took it upon themselves to somewhat organize what’s generally considered a crazy realm.

The players in the Black Manosphere/Black Youtube aimed at men.

• • • Pimps – Sinful the P, Freeze Iz It
    • Old School Dating Coaches from the PUA Era – Mr. Locario
    • Black Red Pill Guys – AlphaMale Strategies, StephisCold
    • Black Passport – Ace is Live
    • Black Guys in the Red Pill Space – Greg Adams
    • Dating Coaches – Too many to name, but i’ll come up with a list
    • Women trying to make a few dollars in the space
    • Brothers in the Tech Space
    • Brothers in the Finance/Money Space
    • Black PUAs – who are largely not integrated with the sphere…but could be

I’m not trying to link all these guys to Oshay, but he’s featured a good number of them, and is featured with a lot of them.  He will showcase people he doesn’t agree with and have a discussion.  And those folks get followers from his base.  Cross-pollination helps everyone in the space, as the rest of Youtube figured out a decade ago.

Remember this classic joint?

That said, Oshay definitely is not above a bit of roasting.  I’ve definitely had my fair share of chuckles and headshakes at his material.

Oshay Points the Cannon at Saint

Note the title of the video is to take advantage of the Youtube Algorithm, as Saint Kevin Samuels is really preaching the gospel to Black Women, 3 nights a week, with clips from different platforms. The most professional YouTuber in the space.

https://youtu.be/Lp0e_ok52f0

So Saint is talking about Brazilian chicks not being all that.  Fair enough.  We can agree to disagree.

But who’s shooting the video?

Oshay shows hidden camera footage of Saint’s assistant and has some commentary about her. Let’s just say this was not very kind on Oshay’s part.

I’m unclear about who the young lady is, what their relationship is, and I’m not trying to find out.  That’s not my business.

But *shots fired*.

Saint and the Sinner Responds

https://youtu.be/o9TZWTBVhB0

The proper roasting starts at 51:45 

Saint does some internet research and presents that to his audience.  Saint is out for blood.  Needless to say, when government names come up, the conflict has escalated.  I won’t repeat said allegations, you can watch the video or read the comment section like I tend to do.

The War Continues

The title is “Dusty Liars, Clout Chasers, Doxxers, And False Allegations”

This is a live broadcast and may or may not be available later.

https://youtu.be/xcAluzLf38Q

This one should stay up.

https://youtu.be/E-b2uxx1cCg

While all of this is happening, Pro-Oshay followers and Pro-Saint Followers are clashing in these internet streets.

So what’s the lesson here?

The Black Man Youtube-Sphere is still gelling.  There are new and veteran content creators all vying for eyeballs.  And in that race for dollars….

Dollars?

 

99 Real dollars are being spent in the Chat. (twice) (And the dude putting up them dollars, DOESN’T LIKE OSHAY).  He’s getting haters to pay him 200 bucks.

That’s what is at stake here.

-Archie

 

The TL DR on this

1. I don’t know the dude
2. I think you should buy it
3. It’s only 10 bucks
4. It’s a fast read.
5. There are some gems in it, whether or not you rock with his style.

In terms of Black Man’s Game, right now the big dog on the block is Alpha Male Strategies.

If you’ve been following me for a while – this is not my style at all. Like I was saying on the thread – my style of game – the one that I advocate everyone using – is to focus on a verbal/personality style of game to get the girl mentally/intellectually and EMOTIONALLY involved.

So you’d think that I’d be totally against what AMS has to say.

You’d be wrong.

So let’s get into what I like about his style, and some differences.

What are you buying into?

Just from the name, you gotta understand that AMS is

1. An Alpha Male
2. Strategy

And he is an alpha male in the standard sense.

This is how he describes himself in the book.

• 6 foot 4 inches Tall
• Muscular
• Pretty Boy
• Self Employed
• Drive his own car

So from a skeptical point of view, he is already a combination of the woman’s “dream man”.  He has his look together and his money together.   If you haven’t been out in the clubs, or you’re new to the game – you would  naturally think that girls would be thrilled to have a guy like this interested in them.

Consider this fictional list (there are plenty online)

He Lets the Girl Choose Him

We’ll talk about this below, but in the book and in a lot of his videos – he doesn’t do much cold approach.  (Cold Approach for new readers is when you don’t know the girl, you don’t make eye contact, and she doesn’t give you any idea that she wants to be talked to by anyone, much less you.)

He waits for the non-verbal go ahead before he steps up to the chick.

A choosing signal is (AKA a Pre-Approach Invitation/Male Approach Invitation)

1. Her approaching with obvious bullshit conversation. Blatant)
2. Sustained eye contact (Overt)
3. Eye contact to aversion (Subtle)
4. Her moving into your proximity (Subtle)
5. Her moving in to your line of sight (Subtle)
6. Her “overhearing your conversation” and non-verbally reacting (Subtle)

For you new guys, most women during the general course of her day doesn’t do much to attract the attention of men – her being is what attracts them.  However, when she wants to start an interaction with a man she likes – she either overtly signals or she puts herself in a position to be approached.  If a Indonesian chicks comes to the hip hop spot – she wants to dance with “hip hop” guys.  That’s positioning.  The chick that goes to “Charity Events” instead of the “Free Wing Night” at the sports bar – is positioning herself to be approached by rich (and usually older) men.

What AMS does is straight out of the Barbershop/Pimp Lite Game Manual

1. Make yourself Attractive.
2. Don’t be Unattractive.
3. Don’t do Unattractive Things
4. Look for Choosing Signals.
5. Handle Your business.

Here’s him on choosing signals

A quick recap on BMG – It ranges from Pimp Tight (where you only get with the chick so she can go out and make money), to Pimp Lite, to Barbershop, to Patrice O’Neal, to Denzel, to Will Smith.  If there’s a black dude out there getting results – he adds to the universe of BMG.

We differ on whether to do Cold Approach

Now, I’m 6 foot online, but in real life I’m 5’10”.  At best, I’m slim, but most of the time, I’m just out of shape. At no point have I been muscular. So I don’t look like the “alpha male” stereotype.  Maybe at work, where I run a team – but then the power dynamic is artificial.  (Which can work, but that’s a talk for another time)

In the real world, If a girl likes my look, that’s cool.  And if all I wanted was crunchy white girls with dreadlocks that want brown babies or professional black women looking for a project to show off to her grad chapter sorority sisters  – I’d never need game.

My motivation for cold approach is that I would not be in this game if I wanted what I could easily and naturally get.

That’s why

I am pro-cold approach.

Even the high school kids lurking on this blog, trying to get with that nice girl in biology class – they know that the first girl is just the start of the journey, not the end.   To an extent the adolescent fantasy is to have that Hugh Hefner/Dan Bilzerian lifestyle.  Surrounded by Vegas Club 10’s, jetting off to exotic locales, cool cars, cool clothes, and looking like the man.

As you date those hot club chicks, strippers, daddy issues girls, sorority chicks, cougars and milfs…etc – the Lex Steele Lifestyle is no longer appealing.  You know what that chick is like.  And even if you backpedal to a solid chick (career, education, not partying every night) – the regular chick with the pornstar looks under the Ann Taylor suit is still going to put you through an emotional wringer.  There’s more than just looks and her immediate behavior and personality.  And you have your own growth….But I digress.

Back to AMS.

If you think like him, if you have the same strategy – will you get the results that he has?

That’s the big question here.

If you aren’t a 6’4″, muscular, pretty boy, with his money right – if you adopt his mindset and his strategies – will you get his results?

If I think like you, if my mindset changes my behavior, will I be able to get the girls that he gets?

Results?

This is his type of chick.  Video should be cued up.  The rest of the video is his style of rant – whether or not you rock with that.

Without question, that’s definitely a bad bitch/instagram model type chick.  I would be happy with them results personally – though we didn’t get to hear much of what she has to say – I imagine they’re both on the same page conversation wise.

[Ed. incidentally, showing girls that you bang on youtube and brag about it, isn’t good operational security – that’s something that the community figured out back in the early 00’s. Here’s some white boys that got caught up doing just that.]

He doesn’t do infields.

So the book is there to basically install his mindset into yours.

You have to buy in to his model for this book to really gel with your own thoughts and mindsets.  But the data is coming largely from him.  He doesn’t do infields, and it’s up to you to decide if you like his choice of women. (And there’s the meta-issue if a bad sista on Instagram has the same behavior and mentality as the bad Persian that works in your building)

We’ll leave that an open question for now as to whether adopting his strategy and mindset will net you the results.  Spoiler alert, yes and no.

Why did he write the book?

According to the book, the reason he wrote it, is because he models other successful coaches.

Not to get too much into the black guy on youtube spitting game controversy- but here is Alan Roger Currie (Who wrote Mode One – which is a good book if you are trying to get out of the matrix of how you are supposed to act with women) speaking on AMS and how he gave him the blueprint to success.

I’m not really into the PUA community drama – I’m just here for the data.

How is the book written?

Written just like he talks.  If you’ve watched any of his videos – it’s a more of the same.  He’s probably got a great audio to text translator.

As Kiyosaki once said, “How to be a best-selling (not a best-writing) author”

What’s interesting from an analyst like myself is how personal he gets about his journey.

He started his journey from regular dude in the matrix of social programming (make money, lift weights, be nice to girls, accept what society and women tell you) and into being a full time player at 27.

Think about that.  He was a full grown man physically at 21. Even with all of the SMV going into it, at the height of his natural testosterone – even HE wasn’t getting the results that he wanted.

So he needed to change how he thought about women.  And that’s part of the genius of the book.

I don’t think he puts that metamorphosis front and center, but throughout the book, dude is forthcoming about how he fucked up, how he got fucked over, and what made him think about the man he wanted to be.  That’s why I recommend the book, he’s honest.

If you’re a brother in his general position – 6 foot tall, not afraid to go the gym – I think his book is perfect fit for you.  His moves to get stronger, to look better, to move away from being employed to owning his own business, and to basically focus on getting your shit straight would be ideal.

Let’s continue.

Path and Purpose

Like most guys in this youtube/pick up/game space – he takes a lot of cues from everything else that is going on.  Back before PUA was a big thing online, every dude had a “method” to getting chicks. They had their own spin, their own lingo, their own language.

What you notice nowadays is a lot of guys that basically watch some RSD, maybe half read Mystery (and never understand him) and some stuff online- and then they come up with their own methods.

So you hear weird phrases that no one else says.

• SMV, Sexual Market Value
• Hypergamy
• Path and Purpose
• Statement of Intent
• Get this part of your life handled

A lot of these coaches rely on the audience knowing things that other coaches says.  This ain’t academia where you need to cite specific authors – but if you know those underlying works, you can tell that the guru doesn’t understand what they read. They just end up being buzzwords not real concepts to use.

AMS’s version of “Path and Purpose” is straight out of the RSD camp’s “natural game” movement.

The idea of path and purpose via RSD is that you have this vision of how you want your life to go, and every day you’re striving towards that.  You don’t just float through life going from one weekend to the next.

AMS’s version of this is about making MONEY.

Again, this is very much within the BMG framework.

The Black Man’s Game springs forth from the universe in which a woman wants resources in a her man, but he has none. Instead of leading with the wallet, he leads with words.  He gives her the feelings of wealth, of security, of prosperity by what he says and does.

He sells the dream.

The dream works because the mind “can’t tell the difference between thinking about something and actually experiencing something”.  That’s the useful fiction. It’s why you’re not supposed to tell people about your goals, because the second you give voice to them – the mind no longer has urgency to achieve those dreams.   It’s all self-help bullshit when you think about it empirically and objectively – but just because it’s not tangible doesn’t mean that lies that we tell ourselves can’t become reality.  Indeed, one of the biggest parts of the Dark Triad style of game is delusional confidence.

Indeed, the Pimp Game is about selling the dream, and SHE goes out to make the money for both of them.

The modern version of the pimp game is getting the girls to make money, and then the pimp takes the money and flips her money into something bigger.  I don’t know the exact part in the conversation but Gunplay gets into that here.

https://youtu.be/bjI9WZIcGeo

AMS Brings up Contradictions to the Path and Purpose you don’t hear from other Gurus.

If you are on your purpose, some women will punish you for it.

A guy that’s really on his path and purpose, not giving the chick the attention she needs, prefers to stack his bread and let his money do the talking?

That’s literally a “beta male provider”.

So if that doesn’t turn the chick off from jump (young girls want excitement) – then they want to be seen as potential wifey and see you as potential boyfriend and husband.

I’ve mentioned this on the blog.  Some of my best partners are 7 figure dudes. They roll up in the Benz for the date and then try to swoop the girl back at the condo overlooking the city.  She knows inherently that the a rich man doesn’t want a slut long term, so she goes from stripper to nun when she sees something other than Ikea furniture at this crib.  This is basically how suit game backfires.  I don’t recommend the fitted jacket and “loud” pocket square thing as a hook, because what it tells girls is that you have money.

AMS notes this dichotomy.  Even if you are well versed in pick up, AMS talks a lot more about how women behave.  Todd n’nem don’t discuss this shit. (I’ll eventually review The System.)  As I write this, Todd just put up a video about Hypergamy that doesn’t really address the term at all.  It’s more like tough sets with hot chicks that are indecisive, not them moving up to a bigger and better deal.

AMS on Female Sexual/Resource Strategies

Per AMS, there are 2 primary female strategies

1. Withold relations to get concessions – The good girl strategy
2. Give it up and then withhold – The gate keeper

Good girl and Gate Keeper are my terms for this.  He uses something else.

General Behavior towards men

Per AMS how women behave towards men, and chicks screens out

• Some chicks want the pedestal/attention (the pretty princess – google Thin Man and the Pretty Princess)
• Some chicks want control
• Most women expect groveling
• Women w/masculine energy vs women w/feminine energy

This last one is interesting.

All models are wrong, some models are interesting – George Box.

He talks about this masculine energy in women a lot. Basically a chick trying to be a man – getting a job, calling shot, not letting him make decisions.  In his mind, if you’re an “alpha male” this is not something to be taken lightly.    You can’t get with a chick like this.

Hmm, this seems like the sort of thing a “Strong Black Woman” would jump all over.

I’m not gonna touch this topic here.  My low traffic blog needs to stay low traffic.

[Ed. He actually talks about 4 on his page.]

How far is this down the rabbit hole in terms of game?  Especially when compared to other introductory sources?

Does AMS go in depth on tactics to solve this issue? 

Not really.  The key thing to this book is that it’s STRATEGY, not tactics, not gambits, not a step by step recipe on what to say to the chick to get her back to your place.

Other Female Behavior

If the homies can get some?

When you are a true alpha male, your homie’s chicks will start throwing action your way.  Sometimes it’s attraction, sometimes it’s to boost her ego.   Very perceptive and not really discussed in other PUA literature.

Now coming from a Black Man’s perspective, this is actually a wrinkle in our culture.  This happens with other insular groups, but the idea that my chick would know my homies well enough to want to slide them some skins?

It means I’m really mixing my circles with my relationship.  In black professional circles, most of the people fucking each other are one step removed from college and greek life.  If you’re African, you probably all go to the same restaurants, parties, and celebrations.  Caribbeans are the same.  So a chick jumping from your dick to a dick you have already broken bread with is the norm.   This gets into the realm of true cold approaches and how to  handle those relationships…but again a story for another time.

I think in the white community this happens with work place stuff and close social circles.  Take my girl from Better Call Saul – she’s marrying her hairdresser’s Ex.

https://youtu.be/STmqLXIDyy8

So what we find in AMS’s work that you typically don’t find in other introductory/manifesto style game books is actual social dynamics, actual social circle issues.

That’s a key thing, and social circle game is something that is pretty much neglected by the industry.  There’s

How to make his style work? Be High Value

So AMS is on his path and purpose (stacking dollars, doing what he loves).

His style won’t work for you, if you aren’t on your path and purpose.  If you aren’t out chasing paper and making your dreams happen – you can’t do this.

So how do you meet women and still handle your business?

According to him, he has so much ‘value’, that these chicks are willing to wait.  And if they don’t wait, well fuck em. He doesn’t have time for chicks to take him off of his path.

How this plays out is that he gets the number, and he doesn’t contact the chick until he wants to.  He decides.

That basically solves a lot of issues that I saw on the Reddit Board, but it definitely bangs against PUA orthodoxy.

The basic experience of most guys in this game is that a woman’s in the moment interest/emotions are the highest when you’re with her, and then the dissipate as time goes on.  Indeed, you just grab the number, chances are modest that you’ll actually connect.

So throughout the book, AMS basically uses choosing signals and then only pursues chicks with high interest.

He takes it the next step, and he only deals with girls that give him high interest but also don’t require much of him in terms of being wooed and entertained.

He is anti-entertaining the chick.

The chick needs to entertain him.

And if the chick wants to carry on a long ass text conversation via text?

Balancing purpose with pursuit of women.

Being on your purpose diminishes your social skills, so business during the week and pleasure on the weekends.

I’m the exact opposite.  If i’m trying to make a connection, the girl drinking on a Tuesday night ain’t doing shit on Wednesday morning.

His take on the 4 Masculine Strategies

1) Be a Nice guy

It is the weakest of the four.  But one can get nice guy to work on a volume basis. Meet enough chicks, deal with enough rejection, and you’ll find the one that wants to buy what you’re selling.

When he played the nice guy he did manage to get with some of them – his smv was high and her availability was high.

He has a strict No Friends policy with chicks.

2) Beta male Provider Strategy – lead off with your financial success

As a reader note, I believe this is the first time he uses the word hypergamy. But it’s explained at all.  The short hand version of hypergamy is that a chick is ALWAYS looking out for a guy with a better deal to offer. So if you make 250k and you’re 6 foot, you got to worry about the guy that’s 6’2″ or the guy that make 500k.  She will always trade up.

The problem with the Provider Strategy is that nothing drops a woman’s attraction faster than a man seeking a woman’s approval

3) The High Value lifestyle

Consists of

• Live by your own rules
• Abundance mindset
• Busy, no time for that

A quick aside on “High value” and being on your path and purpose

Again, the reality is that the typical guy that’s on his purpose – think STEM, Law, Banking – really doesn’t have time for chicks.  Entrepreneurs are even worse. But as most of you guys know, dudes that stack green, usually don’t stack chicks.

This is basically a lie.

Go to San Francisco and start talking to Vijay and Tony (Hyun-Ki like his mama calls him) – they get paid but no broads.  Very few billionaires have attractive women on their sides.

Though the one I can think of is a brother

(Hope Dworaczyk, a former Playboy playmate – google her stuff when you’re at home, cause it’s definitely not safe for work.)

It’s crazy to think that’s what a billion dollars entitles you to though.  Is any chick worth 500M?

This is the woman Drake said wasn’t shooting with Kobe in the gym

Now if that’s the mother of your children, that’s a different discussion IMO.  The only woman that rates above your child’s mother is your own.

Let’s get back to the 4 male approaches.

4) Direct approach

He’s against it, because of/in light of #MeToo, sexual harassment. (The Roosh review is coming, but Roosh definitely talks about this in his forbidden tome)

Now to be clear, he means an overtly sexual approach to chicks, which is on the continuum of direct approaches, but more on the extreme end.  That being said next time you’re on a date, get the girl to show you what kind of messages guys send over dating apps. Everyone is brave online.

He says to let the woman know you’re interested, but don’t talk sex.

To me this is not something that needs to be mentioned, but the fact that he mentions it, means that he’s running into a lot of guys that are talking about the D within in the first 10 seconds of their in-person discussion.

He likes the direct approach because it cuts out the fuss.  But she has to have high interest for it to work.

How does he generate interest? He prefers to raise the girl’s “interest” over dates.

Let’s do a quick recap of his practical advice

• Be High Value
• Wait for Choosing Signals
• Call the chick when you want to call her
• Raise her interest while you’re on the date

If you’re a D1 athlete, perfect.  The guys watching his stuff are usually not lifting, not making good money, and they aren’t high value enough to get choosing signals in the first place.  This “value gap” is something that every PUA guy has to deal with. Guys want Ferrari women when they can barely afford to ride the bus.

Female Game Continued.

What happens if chicks find out about the male strategies

• If you fake value, you’ll be too attached/dependent on the outcome
• Only when you have zero value, do you care about her finding you out.

This loops back to his idea of building value – by being on your path and purpose, working out, being your own boss.

Distilling his game down to the basics

1. Get your physique right
2. The girl fucks you harder when you’re in shape
3. Get your money right by owning your own business
4. Being busy with your own thing makes you less available time wise, and less available attention/priority wise – and being less available drives her interest
5. Women are not your purpose

Conclusion

This was probably the longest post I’ve written on WIA.

Overall, I recommend the book.  I don’t think I’ve really scratched the surface on what he has to offer.  There are lots of good nuggets to grasp about mindset, how women behave, positioning, and other concepts you don’t often find in mainstream PUA lit.

That being said, I think his program and strategy can work for a guy that doesn’t fit his mold.  But it will take significant work outside of the path I suggest of talking to chicks, learning their behavior, and taking advantage of their emotional states.

Much like the Roosh Program and I would argue most of the Neo-RSD style – getting with chicks is less about learning how to talk to them, and more about building yourself up.

You guys know how I feel about the lifestyle strategy in general.  Historically, guys had the lifestyle but not the chicks. Every timeI go out, I see AMS type dudes holding the bar, looking cool, waiting on choosing signals.  I step up to chicks and get that into a conversation, regardless of whether she gives me the non-verbal go ahead.

Is it alpha to be chosen?  Or is alpha to choose?

You decide.

-Archie

Shout to the homie ISO for alerting me to the book.