I had different hopes for this post, but I really just like this song.
At some point I’ll write a post about Break Up Recovery, but let’s just focus on the break up – and what happened.
As players, the break up we care the most about are the ones where the 8+ “perfect check”/Mrs. West Indian Archie just gets tired of us and runs out, leaving us heartbroken.
How did we get here? Did I lose my alpha? What happened to my game?
In the real world, people change and they grow apart. The game that you used to pull her stopped being effective long ago. That’s to be expected. A chick will grow used to your charms as time goes on.
So you have to keep going to the well to bring up new game. Put her in new situations, keep changing things on her.
Now if you ask me, this sounds a whole lot like work. And my current thinking is that she’s not really bringing much more to the table. She’s getting older, the sex is getting boring, and the nagging is increasing.
Where a lot of guys are like,
- What can I do to keep her?
- What can I do to get her back?
- Why isn’t this lasting?
My current thoughts on the matter are – why should I stay?
What is she doing to keep me interested in giving her more of the feelings that she wants?
If she’s not inspiring me to be alpha, to lead, to take charge – what good is she?
-Archie
Maybe you’ve heard this one?
Agree — as in the “walk out” thread, I have always been the breaker-upper since my first ever LTR.
Each time, I am uplifted by knowing I’ll come out the other side with more wisdom, confidence, and rock solidness. I’m not unemotional, but I know when a “future” is a delusion and I call it before she does.
Call it “alpha-widow-creation practice”.
“Call it “alpha-widow-creation practice”.”
Brilliant piece of insight. And in hindsight, it works.
looking forward to this post WIA.