So we go off the basic model for seduction around these parts.
See the girl
Step up to the girl
Spit your game. (which is 7% verbal, 93% non-verbal)
When she wants more, qualify her. “You really want this girl? You better invest”
When she’s earned your respect, then you start to build trust.
Once trust has been established you retire to a more relaxed environment. To listen to Bill Withers records of course.
The model that society teaches you is
Wait
for her to notice,
You wait for fate
Jah to intervenes
If not, approach respectfully
Build trust by seeking commonalities
Then try to show personality
Never qualify, be thankful she gives you attention
Give her stuff and praise, unearned often times
Then, Go home to read the bible and maybe hold hands, as long as you keep the door open.
If you’re here, you’ve tried both and find the latter lacking and the former fucking.
But, one of the harder parts of the attract/trust/seduce model is you’re not supposed to qualify her until she shows interest.
What counts as interest?
So the pimps assume if a chick makes eye contact or she even gets near you – that’s interest. Okay, that’s cool for the initial “warm” approach.
But I’m talking about you’ve already stepped up, hit her with the flim flam….2nd pitch of the howza yowza….and another shot of the mojo.
Classic PUA states that if she’s still there, she’s interested. A truly disinterested/disgusted girl will walk away. (quickly)
As “net game” got refined – the argument then became chicks higher up the “looks” ladder – were used to guys who came in, did their thing, and ASSUMED attraction.
New Player, “Okay, I can assume, no problem. ”
New Player – “So should I just start qualifying her right then and there?”
This is basically where the game goes from Science to Art.
I honestly don’t have a great answer for this. What I do in practice when the girl isn’t show clear disinterested/indifference is as my boy GRRM would say
“Put her to the question”
Ask her something that is both personal and requires a response that shows her cards.
“We seem to be vibing, let’s go check out that booth over there.”
Basically, it’s a moment of truth, make it or break it. And if you act like everything is going to plan – a lot of the time – she’ll just follow. (and a whole bunch of the time, she’ll just look at you like – Who is this guy, lol. )
Anyone who knows me, knows that I love a good suit. I like the way it looks, the way it looks on me, the way I feel when I put it on. Putting my arms through the sleeves and feeling that Bemberg lining through a nice cotton dress shirt… The way the body of the suit drapes my own. I might spend 3 minutes tying and retying my tie to get that perfect dimple. It’s the sort of detail that nobody but me will notice or even care about. And when I’m actually trying to pull chicks, I’m less likely to wear a suit because I’m just going to sweat through it, make it smoky,and possibly a splash of Yamazaki 12 might get on it if things get to hype.
I really wear my suits for me. Not for any other reason. (Well my job does call for some suit wearing from time to time, but less as time goes on. )
When you’re feeling like a bad ass in a suit – you radiate that to other people. I know it sounds corny, but you can tell when an animal is scared or angry by its body language. You can tell when a child is fussy or needs to pee, by body language. You can tell that those young dudes that just stepped into the venue are looking for trouble.
The same thing happens when you put on a suit and you’re feeling it. Same thing happens when a woman puts on some heels and she’s strutting around and walking powerfully.
Body language as powered up by external stimuli is a very powerful thing for your game.
This is from last year, but these are some of the best tailors in the world. (Notice how old most of them are..) These suits range between 4,000 and 10,000 dollars on average.
Before you go break your piggy bank, look at the suits on the mannequins. If you have an eye for this sort of thing, they look great. But if you don’t have an eye for this sort of stuff, they basically look all the same.
Look at these guys. Does any chick really want to bang them based on the suit?
I guess a few might really like the way that they hold their umbrellas. You know what they say about a man with a big umbrella right?
Now look at this pimp right chea.
Is it the suit that makes him look like a boss? There’s a guy behind him in a suit that doesn’t.
Posture, body language, demeanor are what’s important. More so than the suit.
Going back to the video, when you watch “The Immortals” walk around, talk to each other, interact with one another – that’s the real suit effect. Where as the suits on the mannequins…they are cool and all but the clothes do not make the man.
I’ma chill on the whole SMV vs Game debate. Suffice it to say, if you ask me whether you should spend 10 hours in the gym, or spend Wednesday and Thursdays trying to pick up girls for 8 hours – I’m gonna say hit the night life.
If you’re a developer writing code so some snot nose trust fund kid can cash in – learning to push a girl’s buttons by practicing pushing girl’s buttons is time better spent.
But this does bring up some issues brought up in a post today.
Our society teaches boys that they have to EARN a woman’s attention, attraction, and affection. Especially if he doesn’t have one of the golden qualities
Beautiful Face
Height
Right Race/Color/Ethnicity/Tribe/Religion
Muscles
Clothes
Money
Popularity/Fame
Winning Personality
Some of the above you can change quickly. Some will take forever. Some require drugs or surgery. Others require a stroke of luck.
But the way the meta-narrative goes – is that you can’t get the girl unless you have some or all of these qualities.
And for the most part, that’s good for society. Society needs somebody to quote Reinsurance to big insurance companies. Society needs a guy who’s an expert on 18th century candle making. Society needed big strong me to be warriors, hunters, and eventually laborers.
So they pour this bullshit into your mind. Your parents to do it, your grandparents, extended family, neighbors, friends, school teachers, cops, tv, movies, songs…
And to further motivate the young mind they show young boys that men who do these things, have these things, they get the fame and money…and the women.
Indoctrination at its finest.
So the question came up, how do you raise your sons with game.
I’ve actually faced this in my personal life. A few younger siblings are at various stages of development and I’m not exactly sure how to broach the subject.
To some extent, telling a high school kid how to get girls on his team seems like a bad idea. At that age, you don’t have much self control, you never think anything bad will happen, and you can end up in some serious stuff. The game really doesn’t get awesome until AFTER college, if you ask me.
But knowing what I went through, and what I see other guys go through – so many of them are wedded to these false promises that society gives them.
Work Hard and Work Out Hard – and the chick will beat a path to your bed. I thought to myself, only if I try harder, can I get noticed…
But that’s not really what happens at all.
One of the things I struggle here with every single post is trying to define game. Because to talk about what’s wrong with society’s plans or how to raise a son/deprogram a family member – I need to have a good definition of game. It’s definitely applied psychology. It’s definitely bigger than just picking up chicks – but those are broad and intangible ideas.
I often turn back to structures that I think most of you guys get. Mystery’s A-C-S model is very convenient. If you knew nothing about Mystery/PUA and went out tried to pick up girls cold – you’d find the exact same things.
You’d see the guys who work out and look great not attracting the girls that are their visual equals. All of us know a rich guy that throws his money around trying to get people to like him.
A lot of my black readers know tons of ripped dudes and tall guys that should be pulling the local equivalent of Beyonce/Rihanna/Blac Chyna, but instead you see them getting drug by chicks that look like Precious.
And all of that mismatch comes from bad programming.
Specifically these guys don’t
Know their own value
Know what chicks really respond to.
This is on top of the biological need to plant seed that makes you blind to faces.
So when you’re raising a young’un those are the top two things you need to teach him from early on.
Of course “I’m black and i’m proud” and “I’m Vietnamese and i’m beautiful” …and all that type of stuff. There’s a fair amount of racial programming that goes on in our society, some of it is by stereotype and other times it’s by not being represented… We’ll get into that later.
But when your boy gets caught up with one of these little strumpets, and she’s having him drive her around and do all this stuff for her – all for the whiff of some vajajay – that’s a boy that doesn’t know his worth.
You have to fuck a fair amount of chicks to devalue pussy, let’s be honest. But it doesn’t take long to figure out that you’re getting used.
So if Archibald Westmoreland had a son, Chesterfield Rakim Westmoreland. – Rakim is going to see Archie handle himself.
So this is called Rich Dad, Poor Dad because the great thing about this book, which Malcolm Gladwell also explored in one of his books – is that parents can explicitly teach children life lessons.
In Gladwell’s book, poor parents that took their children to the doctor never asked the doctor questions, and they never let the children ask the doctors questions. By contrast, well-to-do parents not only asked the doctor about the treatments prescribed, they made their children come up with questions to ask the doctors. They built this into their children to be able to talk to authority.
Kiyosaki, in Rich Dad, has all these lessons where his own father, Poor Dad – got all these degrees, and kept trying to climb the ladder that society set up. Where as Rich Dad, his best friends father, was a business man. One of the lessons that stands out is he hired the two boys to do some terrible work and paid them next to nothing to do it. I think it was moving old boxes of comic books. They were so angry and fed up….and they quit. While they were gonna tell the old man the news, one of his real employees walked in and had to basically grovel for some money. After the employee left, the boys demanded a raise or they were gonna quit. So Dad fired them. Then he explained why his real employee was always broke, and that paying him more wouldn’t help him. (I might be jumbling this up. sure some of you have read this thing, it’s been out for like 20 years)
The real employee worked for his money. He couldn’t really do much to raise his pay. But Rich Dad was able to leverage that employee’s work and raise Rich Dad’s pay. The real money wasn’t in working for someone else. The real money was in capital. And having a workforce at your disposal was capital. (Might be some other lesson, but go with me)
As the father to a would be player – you essentially have to deprogram your son.
They tell you that women respond to money and muscles, but the guys that are really out there making it happen aren’t all rich buff guys. Some are to be fair. If you hold everything constant, that’s what girls choose on their own. That’s what they’ve been programmed to choose. They really don’t know any better. They feel things for other guys, but they really don’t know how to express what it is they feel. So they too reach for tangibles, like height and snappy dresser.
And if you ever bang a Doctor’s wife, you’ll find that she got married to a rich man that’s never home. And she’d trade the wealth for someone to be there. The lifestyle doesn’t make her feel like she thought it would – but she’s put on the golden handcuffs and until she figures out how to live on half – she’s stuck. And the doctor will be clueless.
The father of a young player teaches his son through example that what people say they want is one thing, but what they actually respond to is something else. This applies throughout life, but especially to girls.
The blog is young still. So maybe if I ever cross that path myself, I’ll explain what I’m doing.
Q) Archie, I’m in a slump and I’m thinking about banging this fat chick that’s really in to me. What should I do?
-Chubby Chaser in Chattanooga
A) a bad Chubb
Never bang a chick that you don’t like to break a losing streak. Way too much emotional carnage, plus fat girls often give great blow jobs. (Don’t ask me how I know!)
We’ve all been there. One night, you’re on fire, more chicks than you know what to do with and five weeks later you’re not getting texts back.
Sex is abundant, that’s not a mentality thing, it’s that there are women everywhere and the only thing you need in order to get sex is to engage them. That’s one of the key insights of game.
However if you followed my advice, you’re a night game demi-god, but when the clubs get stale, you’re busy trying to find a porn torrent replacement for kick ass. (RAR?)
Let’s break down the slump.
What is the slump and what causes it?
On the surface, your new leads are less and less, and your rotation is getting thin. That’s the top layer. But what lurks underneath?
Usually, to use the vernacular, you’ve been slacking on your pimping. Now it could be you live in a town and all the single girls moved away. Or it’s that time of year when no one goes out, maybe it’s getting cold or finals are coming up.
More often than not – it’s your actual game that’s been failing. You’re not radiating the same masculine energy, you’re not sending the same sub-communications – and chicks aren’t feeling it. They aren’t getting those “vibes” from you that they need in order to open up and get “vulnerable”.
Usually when you’re eating high on the hog, when you hit the “zone”, you can say anything you want to, and you’re just killing it. In technical terms, your communicating fun and energy and the girls are receiving it and liking it. You don’t need to be bouncing around like a clown to do this. Often times just a positive outlook and taking what might be considered selfish actions in the context of the woman you’re talking to is all you need to hit her in the reptilian part of her brain.
But too much positive feedback, and you feel like there are no rules. That you can just bowl over ANY chick. Some chicks have strong frames, some have weak frames – but like when we talk about calibration during the “trust” stage – if she’s with you and she’s not feeling the highs and the lows – and you’re not picking up that she isn’t feeling it – then you can’t get anywhere with the girl.
….This is actually a bit esoteric, so lemme break it down further
5 weeks ago
Young Player with a smirk on his face, steps up to a little crew of chicadees, and says without pause “So how you doin….”. The little chat progresses, and he spins his tales, makes his observations, has a witty remark, maybe a joke – but he doesn’t laugh at what he says. He lets her laugh.
Last week
Young player steps up to another set of chicks, probably 6’s, but he needs to warm up before he makes it over to VIP. “So how you doin”…
The set doesn’t blast open like it has been for the past month…and he falters. Thinking that he recovers, he recounts a bit that he always uses – but – its not having the same effect.
Slump ensues.
The real break down for him was not that the set didn’t open, but the fact that it didn’t caused a misstep.
His fundamentals aren’t as sharp as they used to be.
As Patrice said, “I was living on fumes of pimpness”
So the remedy for the slump, if you think a slump is coming on.
Take a breather from the night life. Girls aren’t the center of your world, you are.
Go back to the fundamentals. Do your warms up, have your ritual,
Give yourself a break when you’re in the set. It’s not always going to go according to plan. In fact, the textbook game me and others parrot is really when everything went right.
This is the sort of thing I was saving for a book, but the homey Vaun is going through it right now.
So you get your game on and popping. No more approach anxiety. You start having a sixth sense for when a chick is READY. No longer looking for signs, now you lead. No more number closes, it’s meeting a chick and taking her home the same night.
The new player with freshly minted skills typically goes a bit crazy. It’s like you finally get that first couple of checks and they haven’t fired you.
IT’S REALLY HAPPENING.
When I hit level 1 game, I was banging for 3 years straight. I lived to go out. Had my ride, had my own spot, in shape, was a figure in the scene – Persian, Mexican, White, Venezuela, Indian…you name it, and I tasted it.
And then I met her.
Now prior to the game, I had my first love. Then I was banging probably the hottest chick I’d banged up to that point. And that break up drove me to the game. (yeah, yeah, you’ve heard it before)
3 years later, dozens of notches on the belt. I thought I’d mastered the game.
This chick, the one, the prototype…
She had the face, the body, but most of all – THE PERSONALITY.
That’s the one of the things that cold approach night game can’t really teach you to find.
Heels, easy. Likes the same music? No problem. T&A – ALL DAY..
But personality really doesn’t peak out through a blouse. You have to interact. (Cold approach One Night Stand game doesn’t teach how to detect long term behavior either…post for another time…)
So your boy fell hard.
Had to let the harem fall back. Went monogamous. (*cringe*)
And well you know what happens after that. You keep your G tight at the beginning – but the pleasures of a relationship make you ease up.
Well I got ~3 years out of that relationship, until ol girl was like “I want to break up”.
DAGGERS
How could I, the Great West Indian Archie..fail to keep this chick in my life?
As I would learn through later relationships
The “short game” is relatively easy to pick up. The “long game” is much much harder.
But that’s a post for another time as well.
My love was gone.
My ego was crushed.
My reason for looking forward to the future and doing things – that was gone. Coming home to an empty apartment, sleeping in an empty bed. Not washing the last t-shirt she slept in, just so I could smell her.
*i’m cringing as I write this*
I was lost for months. No chicks. No recovery. What was the point of it all?
I once asked on the forum, what’s the point of game, if you can’t get what you want? What if you can only settle for what you come across?
…
Did I change up my diet? Get a hair cut? Start Working out?
I ran. I left town. I left the state. I couldn’t even be within the same 1,000 miles as her.
My short game got tighter as I cared less and less about the chicks that I dealt with. The proverbial GFTOW, go fuck ten other women, it distracted me of course – but I was lost to other chicks on an emotional level.
But I got through it. Took about 18 months for me to really move past the whole thing.
I had hope.
https://youtu.be/6cQ66dYE4WY
“The title most probably has its origin in the Biblical passage 1 Kings 18:41-45, which speaks of a cloud above the sea, no bigger than a man’s hand, which is seen from Mount Carmel. The tiny cloud’s scriptural significance is as the sign of hope that heralds the end of a long drought.”
Let’s be real clear, a lot of these venues do not want black crowds. They don’t want Latinos. They don’t want Indians, Arabs, or Asians. Some of the spots don’t want rough looking white dudes though.
You can mitigate some of this by
Dressing Well (entirely better than everyone else)
Paying Cover (when no one else is)
Not rolling in groups of 2 or more.
Bringing females
But for the most part, clubs typically have these racist policies to keep me and mine out. It is what it is.
To an extent, you can run game on the door guy, bouncer, and person taking cash – and this is basically what I build into my “creating a circuit” mentality. They know you’re cool, you are bringing the party.
Typically, the guy enforcing the policy isn’t usually racist. Often times these super white clubs will have huge black bouncers. The owner’s are usually of Middle East or Indian extraction – but they don’t want a bunch of Muhammad’s and Sanjay’s at the door.
Why?
Rich white guys want to party with primarily pretty white girls. White guys don’t want competition, and white girls that are into this scene don’t want to deal with “aggressive” minority guys nor get blown out by sexy Latinas and Asians.
The owners typically want to keep the club as a lily white as possible for as long as possible. Because clubs have a life cycle. The first few months, it’s cool and hot and exclusive. But the (white) people who make it cool and hot have no loyalty and will bolt…so the big money has to be made early on. You’ll find that some of these places don’t have any clientele outside of Friday and Saturday. Some won’t even be open.
So that’s one of the down sides of the club game.
As a club goer, I’ve found and so will you – a more laid back but fun atmosphere will be better for your game overall. These country club/velvet rope type places will suck the life out of you.
Q. Archie, I’m just starting out in the game, and none of my friends are players or would make good wing men.
a) How can I go out alone?
b) Do I sit by myself or try to join a group immediately
c) How do I explain why I’m alone
A. Just reading this question breaks my heart. But we’ve all been there.
The first part of every WIA analysis should be to ask – what’s going on in a new player’s mind? Because get the mindset right, that changes the subcommunications, which alters the communications ultimately ending in results.
Game (definition #287) is advanced socializing.
So when the “ancients” taught game, they assumed that
That you could make friends
That you could get a date
In the old days, the whole point of game was to fast forward the typical courtship process of months of dates and expensive dinners before you could get “lucky’. Things have seriously changed, and the average American/Westerner basic socialization skills have atrophied, thank to the internet.
As game left the newsgroups and hit the mainstream, the guys most attracted to it had no social skills. They didn’t have the baseline.
Not having a baseline is fine. It’s not a cause for alarm. You probably have a baseline, but you haven’t been working out your social muscles. You’ll find that a lot of my advice goes about bedding women goes back to talking to people in general. Building up that wealth of experience of striking up conversations, knowing where they’re going to go
You’re going to be in your head about those sort of things, thinking you’re inadequate, not knowing what to do or where to turn.
You’re okay.
So let’s get to the practicalities of running game on the solo.
How can I go out alone?
Socialize Prior to Talking to Girls – Pick a night, pick a club. In general, clubs get packed between 11 PM and 2 AM. Go early. Talk to the door guy, talk to the person taking the cover, if there is one. There will be a bartender, wait staff, bouncers, and dj’s. Talk to them
There will also be fellow people at the bar. Talk to whoever is close to you. There will definitely be a lot of guys holding up the wall, drinks at chest level. Talk sports, talk girls, talk whatever. Just talk.
Establish a Home Base – Should you sit by yourself? First, there’s no problem with being by yourself as you progress. But a good beginner’s tactic is to find yourself a place *next* to a group, and then make that a home base.
In practice, you get to the bar, you chat up the staff. Then you find the nearest group of guys and girls that are chatting. Say what’s up, exchange pleasantries and chill. Then start approaching. After every approach, head back to where that group is. To outsiders, these people look like your friends. As you advance, one of the better techniques is meeting these “bar friends”, then approaching, then introducing the girls you approach to the “bar friends”.
What About Your Friends? – This gets into when a girl says something to you that strikes at an insecurity. Mouth breathers see every thing as a test, but a lot of what girls do isn’t conscious and malicious. But when you have a bad reaction to her innocent action – that shows your weakness – and you stop sub-communicating/radiating your true essence.
I’ll say this again. A man’s strength and weakness is his logic. A woman’s strength and weakness is her emotions. (which arguably is just logic from a different p.o.v).
The playing field isn’t level. In most situations that count, a man can’t use his reason directly to bed a woman. He has to use emotion, but in an intelligent way. A woman can use “man’s logic” and “female emotion” to affect the man. Just like a we can watch Friends and basically know how the show will play out, but outsiders can’t fathom our own cultural product.
So when a chick or her friends asks you “So where are your friends?”
Assume it’s not a malicious question. (though it very may well be).
Even if it is malicious, you want to assume it’s innocent – BECAUSE -if you think the chick is trying to make you feel insecure – you will either a) feel insecure, b) want to retaliate, c) explain yourself. At the frame level – this is the girl imposing her reality on you.
You should have friends. Why are you here alone? You must be a loser.
All of those things will be in your mind, taking you out of your zone, affecting your body language, nullifying whatever good and clever things you might have to say.
Assume the Best.
Chica – “So where are your friends?”
Player – “Mannnn…my friends…so dig this, my boy Lamont…”
What the player does is assume the best about the question, and uses that possible test as a way to show more of his personality. (or in Mystery Method speak – he takes a shit test as an opportunity to demonstrate value)
He launches into a story about his friends. Ideally you can just think of something that happened to your friends recently. Ideally you’ve got the mental chops to rewrite real stories to draw out the drama and humor. (that’s a good idea for a post)
Take heart little homie, we’ll turn you into a player.
[Ed. This was an old draft that was a response to something that I don’t recall anymore.]
She lives minute to minute, second to second. The entire world is trying to stimulate her, and she wants to be stimulated.
Even in a 3rd world place like rural parts of Russia, the nature of woman doesn’t change.
Beta v. Alpha v. Player
A blue pill strategy is to find these virginal unicorns and keep her locked away and isolated from society.
The alpha strategy is to be unaffected. And alphas get divorce raped too.
The player realizes that he has more power over a one chick, when he has 10 chicks. If he only has one, he’s fucked. He has to mind her. The exact same thing is with income. You have one job, one profession, one career – and you’re fucked when things change.
Competition Between Females and Insecurity
Chicks are often more interested in beating other women than keeping one man. That’s the lesson of the preacher’s wife.
A chick will try to manipulate her guy by getting him to say that those other girls don’t matter, or that she wants to be his main.
The way I used to handle this was to NOT see this as manipulation, just insecurity. And I’d try to build her back up. That’s the mistake. It gets you answering to her, and the balance of power shifts to her.
In its most basic form , game is who reacts to who.
That’s how you have these bad ass dudes in real life become bitches with their women.
So when you face this, where she’s feeling insecure – you tell her what active steps she can do to keep you in her life.
Let her be insecure, let her be sad. Let her me angry. She needs that. That’s why she watches romantic comedies and reads romance novels.
On Abundance
In the meantime, you can only fake abundance for so long. You need actual abundance. You should actually be going out more and meeting more people in a relationship. To keep your social skills sharp and develop plan b’s.
Squares get bitches online. Players are far and few between. Even in our community, they come to the dojo and learn two punches and go out to knock down a few chicks and think they’re masters.
Options
A player has plenty of options
1) Monogamous LTR
2) Monogamous LTR where she brings you chicks.
3) Open LTR – Which if set up correctly, meaning that you can both get your sexual needs met outside of the relationship IF she only fucks random dudes, not guys you know/both know, and if it’s only sex.
It’s a bit of a trick because even when a girl can get all the anonymous no-strings-attached dick that she wants, it’s rare that she’s going to go that route when she has a guy that knows how to push her buttons at home. Not saying that a player should be jealous, but a lot of the time, these chicks stay loyal because there are no good options.
It’s kinda like if you’re Western GF had a job in Japan. She’d be a layup for any player in Japan, but the players are on the Japanese girls and the Japanese men won’t find her Western awfulness that attractive. Now if a broad says she’s going to vacation in the Greek Isles…..)
4) A primary chick and his side chicks that never get “boyfriend/husband” treatment
5) harem to meet his needs
They bend to his will, not the other way around
Again this is a bit of the inversion problem.
Danger of Monogamous LTR’s
Guys go into LTR’s thinking that
– my work is finally done
– she’s never going to change
Or they think they need to actively monitor what she does, who she spends her time with..
To keep his chick in check, a player can withdraw his attention, withdraw his presence.
In a situation where you’re living with her, and you have kids – you’ve basically given up all your leverage.
All he has left is dread/competition anxiety. (See Above)
So in that situation, a guy’s strategy has to resemble the woman’s. The suburbs will kill a careless player. He’s used to the downtown life. What he needs to do is become as social in the cul-de-sac as his wife. Them broads are always getting together to do something, he needs to keep flexing on her competition. And if she thinks he’s flirting with junior’s kindergarten teacher….
I think YaReally had a good plan with this. If you’re making suburbs money, set aside a G or so to have an “office” in the city. TV, couch, Bed, fridge full of beer and goodies. When the Mrs. wants to act up, bounce. “Give her the gift of missing you.”
Alternatively, pick a career/job that lets you travel. (as opposed to making you travel)
There’s no easy answers once you’ve realized that chicks love sex and can get excited over the right combination of words and actions.
I am not a big muscular dude. Genetics wise, that’s probably not in the cards. And desire wise, I’ll be happy with doing a fuck ton of pull ups.
Uncle Archie does care about my Lou Ferrigno players.
Q. Archie, all I get is fat girls and ugly girls wanting to feel my biceps.
And the cute skinny girls say I’m too big.
A. There’s a whole lot going on in the average chick’s mind. I’m not a mind reader, neither should you be.
But for those of us who’ve been in the mix..
1) Fat girls give no fucks. Until you want them to fuck you…
On the one hand, her taking a selfie with The Mountain pretending to be a man gives her validation and a hint of sexuality. But if you stoop down to her level – she’ll be able to reject you, which is more delicious than any sweet love that might happen later.
2) Shouldn’t the skinny chicks be all up on me? What’s all the hate?
You’re being disqualified on appearance. She’s judging you before you have a chance to plead your case.
Prejudging aka prejudice
Some of you guys weren’t expecting that. But that’s what it is, and now that you realize that you’ve been on the wrong side of it before, don’t do it. Be on the lookout for it.
Chicks that are disqualifying you on appearance are saying that they expect a brute when they see you, and
– some chicks want that
– others are afraid
– others will think you’re a dumb jock/low class/can’t bring you around her social circle (it’s ridiculous, because the smaller frat boy type is far more obnoxious, predictably so)
These broads aren’t going to change. “It’s my preference..”
As Young Dro would say, FDB.
And now that we’ve ranted, what’s the solution?
Subvert expectations.
But you don’t actually know what her objection is. If you knew she thought that muscles were low class, then you’d counter that with high class impressions. Like being fashionable.
If you thought that she was afraid of your size, and that you might get angry, you would play that off being upbeat, happy, and funny.
But you can’t read her mind. (Even if you could, their minds change so quickly, you’d be in constant reaction)
And as we have not previously discussed, you can’t reason your way into romance.
You change her mind by changing her mood, by going for the emotional jugular.
Like all game, the play is always personality, more so than appearance. Humor, intelligence, insight… The exact thing us “small” guys use.
– get her attention
– chit chat
– player says
“I know when you see a guy like me…”
This acknowledges what she might be thinking – but frame wise even if she wasn’t thinking anything – she is now.
“There’s only one question you have on your mind.”
– cold read light. Builds intrigue
“Do i have a Roth IRA or a traditional IRA….”
– the release
It has a nice logical ending in that the build-up goes left from expectations like all good jokes – but from a game pov, we’ve now gotten some emotional churn.
I’m new to the game, and having some decent success. And then I met this 8, and we really hit it off. The sex is great and I really like her.
[Ed. So what’s the problem?]
It’s just that if I turn this into an LTR, my game won’t get any better. What should I do?
This is actually a less straight forward question than it seems to be.
The young player sees it as
1) Play the field
2) LTR until he’s in a pine box.
That LTR with an 8 is problematic for many reasons. He has no relationship skills. Much easier to be rock solid when you’ve got ten chicks, than when you only have one.
Often the dynamic flips and the girl is in the position of power.
So when offered this horrible situation, what should a player do?
Get into the relationship!
It’s the only way you’ll learn to avoid them. (Plus one on one skills)
Been in the game for a minute.