Author: Archie

Anger is also a fuel for dominance.

The problem with pronouncements like this is there is no context

I’d say a good portion of people that get into game “want to get back at these bitches”. They want to fuck chicks and they think that by charming the pants off these broads, they’re somehow righting the scales of karmic justice.

AND YOU WILL KNOW MY NAME IS THE LORD WHEN I RAIN DOWN GREAT CONVERSATION AND FURIOUS ORGASMS UPON THEE.

To an extent, that righteous anger WORKS.

I hate to say it, but sometimes what motivates men to “greatness” or at least competence is this need to get back at the world.  Of course, nobody wants to admit how “base” our motivations really can be.

Where I basically draw the line is seeing women as “the enemy”.  I don’t tend to like War or Business or Sports analogies in game – because it quickly becomes “crush the competition”.  To, me that feeds the wrong sort of mentality and closes down more possibilities than it opens up.

But that anger, that rage, it’s usually in the background. It’s rarely in the foreground.

So going back to yesterday’s 10 point break down, let’s just split it back to 2 cases.

 

Case #1 The Pull

If unfettered anger is expressed during the pull…

An emotionally healthy girl would rightfully reject a guy for being unsound of mind.  Like, why are you even mad dude?

There’s a wringle. Guys who know the game can focus in on the term of art of above.

*Emotionally healthy*

What we know from the game is that even though a “good” girl would exit the scene when a guy gets angry – there are plenty of chicks who get excited and others who go submissive/compliant only in that situation. [Ed. ‘good’ is in quotes]

The legitimate bad boy and the “heart on his sleeve” artist unconsciously trade in this type of behavior.

When these guys start getting mad, showing forbidden emotions – A chick that likes this sort of thing – either goes into nurse/motherly mode or she becomes Harley Quinn. She wants to take away the pain, or ride the train into crazy town.

A lot of these broads, hot ones especially, crave this sort of thing.  Every girl has the story of this boyfriend that put her through the emotional wringer.  When she retells the story (where she’s almost always the victim, never has any agency of her own) – it might be 85% “I hate that guy”…and 15% of  censored for sensitive eyes.

Lots of chicks love the drama until they find themselves at a woman’s shelter.  He said he was a gangsta, and now you’re surprised when those fists come your way?

A lot of that anger I spoke on above, the background hatred, comes from guys who knew chicks that went with these badboys that made them cry.  And she’s sitting on the curb, and you gotta come scoop her ass up.  A couple days later, she’s getting banged by him again…and days after that beaten again.

Meanwhile, poor nice guy made his play, and he wasn’t exciting enough.

Let’s not go there.   Enough has been said on the fact that Mr. Nice Guy is actually very manipulative – and being nice to a girl for the purpose of sleeping with her is actually something a creep does.

Let’s talk about her.  Why do some of the girls like this sort of horrible treatment? I don’t want to use the “C” word (Clinical)…but…
Borderline personality disorder is very gendered

Borderline personality disorder is more prevalent in females (75 percent of diagnoses made are in females). It is thought that this disorder affects between 1.6 and 5.9 percent of the general population.

Like most personality disorders, BPD typically will decrease in intensity with age, with many people experiencing few of the most extreme symptoms by the time they are in the 40s or 50s.

More from this source

A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation

Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)

 

Now the thinking man who becomes a player, not a born player but self made, conscious, deliberate – he may dabble in this stuff as part of his pursuit of the dark triad. In my mind, the guy who does this is the Lester Diamond of Casino.

Case #2 – the LTR and the failure of Game to show you how to use Anger

By LTR, I mean a committed one. The type of thing you find yourself in if you’re not careful. The Home Depot and Bed, Bath, and Beyond stage.  Making dinner together, pet names, looking at getting a place, her leaving stuff at yours.

So you’re with a chick, and she does something to displease you. Because you played Mr. Cool during you’re entire bachelorhood, and you never chastised a chick.

If a chick does something you don’t like, you just stopped calling her, you replaced her.  You never tried to tell the bitch her shit stank. Believe me when I tell you that I’ve been guilty of this.

Now what do you do?
Reason with her?
Communicate?
Get mad out of nowhere?

Had you been showing your full range of emotion when you was with the chick before she locked you in a cage, you’d have that avenue.

But since you were player for life, you never had to deal with one chick’s bullshit.

You ever wonder why a lot of these gurus talk about dread and competition anxiety? It’s because they’re looking for external ways to control a broads behavior without having to get their hands dirty. Without dealing with their own emotions.

It’s a direct line from this James Bond idea of never showing emotion, never having any.

It’s not surprising to us that a lot of these guys that are all technique fail to have good long term monogamous relationships when they actually try to. They stay solo and just have stolen drift in and out of their lives. They have retreated into their fortresses of solitude.

So part 3 in a couple of days.

-Archie

What’s the proper way to leverage anger and aggression in game?

Basically chicks expect you to be certain ways/have certain behaviors along the time line

1. when you show up
2. when you walk up
3. your first words
4. your reaction to her reaction
5. your reaction to her testing you
6. your reaction to her submission
7. your reaction to last minute/token resistance
8. what happens during sex
9. what happens after sex

10. during the relationship

Option A – 80% of guys
The guy who doesn’t know a thing about game, and gets all his lessons from Mom and Dad, Religion, his know nothing friends, music, and Hollywood
– wants to be totally cool (nothing phases me man)
– in actuality, the second he doesn’t get what he wants – he gets mad, shuts down, gets angry, starts becoming unstable

^This dude is very predictable.

Option B – 15% of guys
The guy who is game aware – who at least realizes that his behavior and her psychology are a factor in attracting her
– wants to be totally cool
– controls his reaction, so that he’s basically a cold hearted

^She keeps trying to get a rise out of him – to check his alpha, to check her womanhood, because she’s bored….

There are times when you can’t be ice cold with a chick, not if you want to keep her.

Option C – the 4% – the 1 in 25 – the guy who understands that his behavior/emotions is the real factor in getting a chick on the hook, and keeping her on the hook

This includes your dark triad approach of intermittent/random shows of emotion – guys who do it intentionally to make the girl think that He’s in to her “like that”
And also guys who see that a chick wants a fight, and then goes for the god damn jugular, giving her the roller coaster, and then blaming her for it – if it turns against him.

Option D – the 1%

These are your poets, singers, musicians, artists – who live emotional lives – that chicks get swept up in.
There’s nothing calculated about these guys, his whole life is a roller coaster – and she gets swept up in it, trying to save him.

He’s more emotional than her bipolar ass.

So going back to the time line.

1. when you show up (to the venue, in her life, in her vantage point) – showing good emotions to other people is generally good – IF they react positively to your emotions.  You gotta win a frame battle with a 3rd party to make this broad impressed.  The only time anger works here is if somebody punks you, and you gotta come back at them.  And to be honest, I’ve never seen the Hollywood scenario where dude gets into something with another dude, and a chick is impressed with his alpha.
And trust me, I’ve seen plenty of club fights.

2. When you walk up –  You can’t be angry, but smiling can work against you

3. your first words – this is where she expects you to be shiny and happy, and not being exactly what she expects can help.
To illustrate, you can be happy one second, walk up to the broad, and then
put your face on that says “This bitch here”
Then you say, “Man, what am I gonna do with you”

It’s not anger, but it’s an invitation to play a bit, because she doesn’t know exactly when the punchline is gonna come.

4. your reaction to her reaction – if she’s not feeling you that second, and you react angrily – you lose here.

You literally have to be unreactive, as if she said nothing.

5. your reaction to her testing you

Some of the time, a chick is consciously fucking with you.
Most of the time, her words and behavior are entirely intentional, but she’s not intending to fuck with you.
It’s just from a male perspective, it seems like she IS trying to fuck with you.

When a chick is trying to fuck with you – that’s a frame battle.

When a chick wants to sit down – and you interpret that as a diss – but in reality it’s because her feet hurt –

You getting angry, butt hurt, pouting about whatever – changes the second-to-second dynamic.

6. your reaction to her submission

After you go back and forth, and she lets up on her banter.
You still need some compliance/submission.

You have to recognize it it when she gives it to you.

Anger isn’t called for here.
And sometimes a slight push (a neg perhaps), after she’s bought in – hurts you.

7. your reaction to last minute/token resistance

Non-reactive, everything is cool, no means not just yet….

Anger here will get you caught up.  Lose the bang, and might end up in jail.

8. what happens during sex

I’m not saying you need to cause vaginal trauma or anything like that – but a lot of chicks act like bitches so that you can fuck them HARD.

9. what happens after sex

You’ll lose subsequent bangs by showing anger here

10. The Relationship

This is where you need to be able to assert yourself.
And adding anger or some other emotional layer to your actions and subcommunications is helpful.

WIA

Question from the Cheap Seats

You’ve got a girl hooked Where do you take it from there? How do you isolate?

The girls I’ve pulled at the club have been extremely nonverbal interactions. A Hi, grab her hand, and go. But how do you do it when she wants to talk?

1st things first, I hate terms like “isolation”.  Think about it as getting some privacy.

Let’s start with the preamble.

All the game I give you guys is maybe 70% textbook and 30% WIA.

I like to talk to chicks, I like reading. I like art, literature, music and good food. So much so that ideas from those realms infiltrate everything that I do.

When I’m at work typing up TPS reports, there’s a bit of hip hop in it, there’s some ox tail and rice and peas when I do my laundry.

The basic outline of every pick up is
– See the girl
– Get her attention
– Start the conversation
– Dazzle her (this could be non-verbal as well. Like you’re dancing in one area, you make eye contact, dance over, get her to fall in your rhythm and change up…and keep changing up to see if she can follow. Then you can do start some of the dance floor role play..)

– She’s into it what you’re saying at first, and then
– She’s in to you, and starts to seek your approval/starts to seek rapport.

I run indirect primarily.  And just going by the model

I make her double down on seeking my approval, and then I give it grudgingly. This is not nefarious, but an acknowledging that a chick really doesn’t dig you, unless you make her work for it.  If the game is too easy, you get bored.

Think of it this way. From the very beginning you want her to be winning you over. You have to really believe that it’s not enough for her to have a nice face, a nice body, and good style.  With experience, you realize that those things just get your curiosity, but not your full attention.

Think to yourself,

“I’m Apple. I made a big product announcement. And now I’m selling the iPhone 7, she’s standing in line and trying to cut.”

So in a set, she might be bragging on herself to which you respond

“yeah, yeah, yeah, you talk a good game, but …I don’t believe you can tie a cherry stem into a knot.
Prove it…and I’m not buying the drink, I know how crafty you girls are. In fact, get me a rum and coke WITH a cherry!”

*make her invest*

That’s the psychological basis for the front end of the game (attraction, trust, connection)

This can happen on a loud dance floor with dancing, or at a loud bar.  It can happen in the line at Chipotle. Wherever you start an interaction, this can happen.

Now that she’s begging to hear more from you, what next?

Get her logistics before you make a move.

What is her situation?

“Oh you came with a big mixed group.”

I think – Ahh, so there might be a male or a female friend in that group. So she can’t just leave with me.

And even if she could just leave with me, I want to build up trust with her offensively, but also screen her – cause I’m not 25 anymore and I can’t fuck Double D’s regardless of the consequences.  She might seem prim and proper, but you chat up the friends that she’s with, and you realize that she might just memorize where you live and come roll you later.

Gauge how independent she is.

You want to know from her what sort of problems you might run into with her friends.  And remember, that beautiful women are rarely alone.

“You don’t strike me as the adventurous type….oh you are…

No I think you’re the type that has to check in with your friends…like you go to the little girl’s room with your bestie…

What do you do in there anyway…You know at my job the lady’s room has carpet..first time I was in there…..

Why was I there you ask? OMG, we’re not even that close yet….enough about me…”

“TELL ME ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS”

“Is she gonna give *us* any grief about getting to know each other”

If she’s not very independent – YOU HAVE TO MEET AND DEFUSE THE FRIENDS.

You have to play this part by ear, but I like to build up more trust, rapport, and comfort after the initial heat of the exchange – so that I can arm her with some good stuff to say about me when we get resistance from the friends.

Then I go meet the friends. Merely cute chicks are rarely alone, hot chicks are never alone.

To get some privacy with her from the friends in the venue – you need to win over the friends.

“She’s (the prospect) terrible at introductions…”
“Archie, world renowned intern to the assistant to the head janitor at Goldman Sachs. I get to say I’m in finance”

Or whatever’s on my mind. Something over the top, shows creativity, maybe a bit of understanding of her world. Have to run attraction game on the group.

“Oh you must be Bertha, Agatha told me you were a sweetie pie.” (especially if the target Agatha said Bertha was a straight bitch – to which you always reframe to the target that her friends are just loving and protective)

“Bertha is exactly like you said she was…now if what you said was right, you think she’d be interested in that thing…”
*raise eyebrows*
“is sharing truly caring?”

Implying a 3some or something sexy and racy is typically enough for me to defuse the female protection.
The rawness and humor of it makes things easier.

That being said, sometimes the female friends are way more wound up than is warranted. They will do the tug of war with your prospect being the rope.

Handling the guy in the group

“Hey dude, what’s up man”

If he tries to cut your legs out from under you, always go for the jugular,

“Dude if I was you I would totally talk to Agatha. You don’t like her like that? She’s cool and gorgeous. You want me to say something to her”

Laying an orbiter’s desire for your target out will leave most of them flatfooted. (and if you’re the orbiter, in that situation, totally embrace the frame, go with it, and take it further)

But if he’s cool, be cool to him. Ideally you can run a quick little mini mission with him while you chill with Agatha’s group. “Dude, you’re the man, we need to get you laid tonight….” And then just open the next chick within earshot and introduce him.

All while this is happening – your target is watching you interact with her friends, with strangers, and she’s not seeing any red flags. You’re a cool social guy.

So you’ve won over the friends. You’ve attracted the chick and made her invest.

Move to a different part of the club/venue, and “get to know her a little more”. But this ain’t the time for “What did you want to be when you grew up” kind of discussion.

But that’s basically it.

Recap

1. After she’s open
2. Make her double down
3. Find out her situation
4. Find her friends
5. Disarm the friends
6. Get some privacy
7. Suggest a place to connect

-Archie

1. Scarlett Johannsson
This is Scarlett Johannsson’s first boyfriend, Jack Antonoff

Whatever you think about his looks, she could have dated other guys that were more attractive.

She ended up marrying Ryan Reynolds, a man who could have gotten way more attractive than her. (she also divorced Ryan Reynolds…)

2. Christina Hendricks
Here is Christina Hendricks from Mad Men and her husband, some small time actor Geoffrey Arend

There is clearly an imbalance here looks wise.

Some people shake their heads, but I raise my glass to the Palestinian pimp.  The fact that he’s an actor…

3. Mariah Carey

Nick Cannon is not a particularly good looking dude.  We do know that he’s relatively funny and a hard worker.

………………………..

So how does this happen?

And the reverse, where ugly chicks get attractive dudes – that’s called Boston

Why does “assortative mating” (9’s get with 9’s, and 5’s get with 5’s) fail repeatedly?

Because women are different than men.

They lead different lives, have different experiences, want different things.

The ultimate example of the failure of assortative mating will be from your own life.

Anytime you’re with any chick, get her to show you the guys that liked her on Tinder.  Have her tell you why she didn’t get with the muscle bound guy, showing his six pack, leaning on his Benz.

Send me 20 bucks if she says something like “he looks good but………….”

You’ll hear those exact words or something like that all night.

It’s hard for men to accept the fact that women value more than looks.
Because that’s all we claim to value.  (It’s a lie that we tell ourselves, because the truth is after you bang her out – you look at her differently)

How can she be that much different than us?

The truth?  These chicks are “alien”, and they operate on an entirely different plane of existence.  That’s why they’re hard to communicate with, understand, explain, or predict – using “male pattern logic”.

Most recent episode of Girls (something all you guys that are in to snow bunnies should be watching if you want to understand the female mind)

From season 6, episode 2
– One of the characters, Shoshanna (girl #1  in this photo), made plans to go to Aruba with 2 friends, 2 of her BEST FRIENDS
– Day of the trip, Shoshanna’s cousin asks her to go to the local beach, because some local celebrity might be there.
– Shoshanna blows off this trip that she had been planning for months, with her best friends. She makes up some lame excuse to back out (where have we seen this before?) and then fucks up the trip for the 2 friends that could barely afford it.

Q. Why would she hang them out to dry? 

A. To hang out with her cousin for the POSSIBILITY of a celebrity that the COUSIN is interested in.

^This is fucked up enough.  Like Shoshanna wasn’t going to get anything out of going with the cousin at all.  Nothing tangible, other than she gets to share in the experience that her cousin MIGHT have.

But there’s more to this.

Years later (episode in question), Shosh is trying to curry favor with her former best friends.  As sit-coms go, of course the Cousin that fucked it up, invites herself along, and turns the reconnect into a shit show.  The old best friends still hold a grudge, and they don’t want to befriends again.

Shoshanna finally blows up at Cousin – but Shoshanna blames the Cousin for her own god damned choices.

Shoshanna should have blamed HERSELF, but instead, she blames the people around her for her *own* bad decisions.  She displaces responsibility.

I was on the train earlier this year.  2 girls were chatting about Girl A wearing something that wasn’t stylish.

“You got me out here looking like…”

Even if the statement is in jest, it tells you about how they think and operate.  And if you’ve ever been chatting a chick up, and she’s really feeling you, and then the “best” friend comes into your situation and yanks the chick away – that tells you a lot about their behavior and mindset.

Collective/responsibility displacing behavior is a theme of the show – the source of a lot of its comedy and insight – but also ALIEN to the male mind.  It’s a hard show to watch if you’re “Man’s Man”.

They never do what is “logical”.  Indeed, plenty of other women disagree with choices that these particular women make.  But that’s what makes the show brilliant.

To turn this back to us,

A lot of men consider themselves victims, but deep down we know that we’re fat/poor/lonely et cetera because of choices we made.  Whether we want to accept responsibility and change – is a question that comes to mind.  It’s a factor in our behavior.

The key issue here – is that as a population – men really do recognize personal responsibility.   That we are actually in control of our lives.

Whether this is actually true – whether we actually are entirely in control – or that there are forces bigger than us that actually control the trajectory of our lives (watch The Wire if you don’t understand the relationship of man to society around him)…

That doesn’t matter.   What matters is that we think that we are.

And that’s not a one-to-one fit with how women see/view/experience the world.  In every avenue of life, most men feel like they have some control.  Even when we don’t.  In many avenues of life, many women, feel like they don’t have any control.  So they give up their power.

Indeed, this general principle – of not having agency – of letting others decide – that manifests itself in the game in 2 concepts, one major one minor.

The major concept is framing.  You control the frame, you control the behavior.

The minor concept is plausible deniability.   She can’t ever make the conscious decision to do certain things, so you give her a reason, a story to tell herself, and then things just kinda happen.

So let’s recap.

Guys pull chicks above their looks because more than looks matter.

Why does behavior trump looks? Because girls operate on a different wavelength than guys

An example of this different wavelength – is that girls will put the responsibility on others.

So the player focuses on his behavior, the effect of his behavior on her decision making, knowing that she often does not want responsibility of the situation, or to be held accountable for her actions

-Archie

https://www.texastribune.org/2017/02/13/how-texas-pimps-recruit-and-sell-underage-girls-sex/?curator=MediaREDEF

This article is full of goodies.

So the TL DR on the article is that it’s an interview with 3 pimps in a Texas prison. We here at WIA (we being just me, but it’s a royal “we” cause I’m on some King shit) – are against PIMPING, human trafficking, and sexual slavery.

But pimps, just like politicians, and preachers are prime examples of perfect persuaders.

Where a lot of men have issues getting a girl to respond to a text, these people are able to get women to sell their bodies.  And when you really think about how our society works – your college takes your money on the PROMISE of a reward in the end. Your pastor takes your tithes on the PROMISE of a reward in Heaven.  Your boss keeps you from leaving the job and going out on your own by giving you a PERCENTAGE of what they make on your efforts.   In a sense, we’re all in a huge PYRAMID scheme.  The PHAROAHS at the top don’t even deal with the same rules that we do.  They don’t learn the same things we do.  We don’t learn about power.  That’s all they do.  Most of the bad things that happen in this world are about POWER, and people with it struggling against other people with POWER.

So what can we learn from these pimps?  Can we grab facts, mindsets, or techniques?

First little goodie

Jasmine Johnson, 26, is serving a 25-year sentence for trafficking a minor — a young victim the Tribune is featuring in this series. Johnson still maintains her innocence in that case, though she spoke openly about her experience as a pimp who led a group of eight adult women in Dallas

This is rich because – 1) the Pimp is a woman, 2) she’s still playing the victim even though she’s the victimizer, 3) she can’t shut the hell up about her crimes, 4) this 26 year old woman led a group of 8 ADULT WOMEN.

Pimps, in common conception, are usually men.   And we would think that no able bodied/sound minded woman would let ANOTHER woman tell her to who to fuck, and how much to charge.

What could one woman hold over the other women to keep her in check?  It’s not strength of the body.  It’s strength of the mind!

How did you first get into the sex trade?

Johnson: I guess ’cause my daddy wasn’t a part of my life, I acted out. I hated to see my mama struggle. I just started hustling. I knew I always had pimping stuff in me, but I didn’t call it that.

You’ve heard it before.  If it was a dude, this is how he started selling drugs, or got involved in a gang.

Here’s how one of the guys got into it

Harris:

I didn’t have the money to go back to school, so I was just working odd jobs. I kind of started getting in the streets in Dallas. I was staying in hotels. Motel 6es, two-and-a-half, three-star hotels. A lot of girls frequent those hotels. So they used to have clients that come to those hotels. But sometimes they get rowdy. They’re drunk, or they’re high.

The girls see me so much in the room that they start to friend me. And they ask me to have their back. Don’t let nobody hurt them while they do what they do. It just kinda started out like that.

So what this tells me is that these prostitutes need muscle.  Two, they also were basically trying to get protection out of this man for free.  These put upon women, who were basically too good to get a job at McDonald’s and wanted to live the high life – were still using the people around them. I do not want to imply that Harris was exploited – but that’s essentially what happened.  They played on his “white knight” tendencies – but they didn’t realize what they were doing.

How did you recruit girls to sell sex?

If you meet a female, she don’t got no family, she don’t got nowhere to stay, but you got a little bit of money, you doing for her, you putting a roof over her head, feeding her … she going to end up trusting you, depending on you.

Y’all have some talks about the future, selling her the dream. It’s like, “Well, what are we going to do? What can we do? If you are really about this union, about this team, you are going to do this, it’s on you.”

Okay, this is stuff we know.  The pimp puts the girl up, takes care of her life, and all she has to do is pay him back.  And of course he has a solution.

The issue here is that he’s a factory owner in a 3rd world country.  Any sweatshop job he offers will be “better” than subsistence farming.   Just like any job that we take is better than living at home with the parents, or living on the streets.  And if sex wasn’t so “sacred” – we could conceivably come up with a better system.  In the West, societies want prostitutes to be small business persons.  Any sort of oversight or management is EVIL.  But when the business is not sex-work, regulation and management are the order of the day.   Uber driving is prostituting your labor and capital – because the system isn’t set up to really match people with rides – the driver really doesn’t have any practical agency.  Indeed, it’s not a spare/part time job – because the rest of the economy is forcing people into this kind of work…  Should see parallels…

K.A continues

You’ve got some females, they run their own, they manage theyselves. But most, they want a daddy to feel secure, to feel like they got somebody watching out for them.

Are you starting to see it? In realistic terms, unless the guy has a camera in the room and a hand on the pistol – he can’t actually protect the girl from a customer. BUT, she needs to FEEL protected.

So here Harris goes into why a girl would choose to have a manager when she doesn’t need one to sell her goods

Harris: A lot of people always think that somebody’s making them do it or forcing them to do it. That’s not the case. Most cases, these girls are already doing it. They’re doing it on their own. It’s just, they hate to be by themselves, or they can’t take care of their money.

So now we got three reasons

1. She needs to feel protected, like someone is looking out for her
2. She can’t be by herself
3. She can’t take care of her money

So when you’re chatting these chicks up – you understand that when you’re dealing with her, she needs to feel protected.  You also understand that for reasons other than safety, she can’t be by herself.  She’s a social animal (like all of us are).  But when you give her a stack of cash – she doesn’t know how to save and invest.   Again, you got all these boys in oilfield or working blue collar jobs making 100K+ (investment bankers) – and they never learn to live well below their means.  They do not know how take 1,000 bucks and put it into something that’s going to make them money.  (Hell, I could learn to be better at that)

On Sex

Johnson – If it’s a new girl trying to get on my team, I have sex with them first because I know I can get in they head. Once I make love to them, or what they think is love

It was like I mind-fucked ’em. I was in they head.

And then after that, they just start giving me whatever I need. They give me all they money. They cater to me, they spoiled me. All of them did this for me. And even though I know it was kind of wrong for putting them through that because they ain’t have to do it — but they chose to. I didn’t make them. I didn’t force them. It just ended up happening like that.

So She‘s able to get with the chick – not loving her, not particularly interested in the pleasure of sex – but her mind is on the money.  This FEMALE pimp is using sex as a mental weapon.

That should stand out to you.

Can you do everything you need to do as a player – and then focus on something other than the pleasure of sex?  The point of the PUA lifestyle, of Game, is about the hedonistic aspect of sex.

When you’re deep in them guts, all you’re thinking about is pleasure. It could be that a female pimp isn’t as vulnerable to the power of pussy.

What draws people to pimping?

K.A.: It’s like free money. You don’t gotta re-up. If you sell drugs, you gotta pay for the drugs at a wholesale and then go back and stack yo’ money. If you selling sex, that’s something that you don’t gotta re-up on.

This is what is known as the abundance mentality. Moreover, the idea is that there’s plenty of sex out there.  There’s an infinite amount available.

The rest of the article is about the economics and the bad stuff associated with the trade.  I highlighted the game aspects

-Archie

 

This is Buenos Aires BTW.

Long Term Provisioning >>> Love.

-Archie

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“I think game is mostly about getting the lay with girls who are at some level with it to begin with. You’re learning to successfully accommodate what in some sense they already want to do. You might call it the “art of plausible deniability.”

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And this is where I think a lot of the confusion about game comes in.

If you detect a chick is digging you – the play is to make her invest, and when she invests – you up the ante.

I think a lot of guys, even ones that have been in the game a bit, aren’t really into conversion.

Here’s how they run their game

• Ping the target.
• Hit the gas on the green light

If the target is neutral, slightly reluctant, or out and out negative – a lot of guys don’t invest anytime into the situation.   To be honest “Ping and Bang” is one of the defaults of Black Guy Game.  It is primarily about efficiency, and with the idea that  you’re attractive enough, it’s just a matter of hitting on more chicks with more confidence.

It’s a fine strategy – if the venue is packed – and there are enough cute girls so that you don’t have to discriminate.

Not a good strategy for times when

• Slim pickings
• When you want to have choice

I think you guys know that.  And if you don’t know, now you know.

 

With the basics out of the way – let’s put down the practical and pick up the theory.

Game is conversion.  It’s doing and saying things that operate on her psychology.  I say it damn near every post, but i’m hammering a message.

Now the $64,000 question is whether she likes you and lets you keep spitting at her.

Or is your “game” the thing that’s working?

Let’s be even more explicit.

You see a chick with her 2 girlfriends.  Like the textbook, you open the GROUP with something.

“Yeah, the President is sure acting crazy.  I wonder if he’s gonna make it through the term…”

The chick you like doesn’t give a damn about politics.  She’s not particularly into the conversation even if her friends are.

So let’s establish the fact that at this moment in time – the target does not like you.  This is a very common occurrence.

Now if you keep rapping to the 2 that do like chatting you up, and you keep throwing some bait out, doing some conversational tricks – and the target then gets off her phone, listens, and starts to participate ….

That means your game worked.  Period. End of story.

Now just having a chick in a conversation is not enough – but she could easily ignore you, stay on her phone, walk away, get her girlfriends to walk away with her, tell you to leave.

If she’s  nonchalant from jump, but you keep on rapping, and she starts to interact – GAME ON.

-Archie

 

Is because guys
1) must have control, over everything

2) don’t know any thing other than withdraw attention from her, and put the attention on themselves (self improvement) or other girls (dread or competition anxiety)

With this mentality the better strategy ends up being to never get involved on an emotional level, so that one can actually pull up stakes on a whim. The always have a suitcase packed idea. You can’t ever become emotionally involved – a man’s experience with love gets replaced with cold rationality.

But like at the end of the movie Heat, where Deniro has been preaching to drop everything if you need to escape but can’t live up to his own aside.

https://youtu.be/iNyAgN48FQo

The problem is the mindset. Withdrawing one’s attention seems like the only option because very little time has ever been spent on learning the true power of the reframe.

Patrice O’Neal, patron saint of truly old school game doesn’t use the term reframe. He says that he gives a girl options on how to think.

When the customer is focused on price, the salesman who previously qualified her in disposable income, shifts the conversation to convenience, style, things that are less concrete than price.

In XXL’s thread on how to react to a woman acting up, Mufasa had a great gambit

You’re trying to end this relationship over that?

He reframes her behavior as an attempt to end the relationship. That is basically a sea shift, a ground change.

It needn’t be that extreme or harsh. The way a girl trains a guy is to basically do the same thing, when he does something and she says to him, “this is what you think of me?”

The power of that sort of reframe is that it forces the guy to defend himself in the present, but she’s trying to get him to conform his behavior in the future. To think of her first whenever HE does anything.

It’s not a 100% strategy, because unless you warp her mind or vice versa, she still has agency. But it goes a long way to modify her behavior.

So in the situation of a long term relationship, the reason that good players
1) make her invest
2) put a price on themselves
3) have a hot and cold nature
4) stay social, keep building themselves

Is to mold the chick, cultivate her mind.
To give her new ways of thinking.

https://youtu.be/fMW1hvvUjGg

It’s weird to me how much game has taken a step back in recent years.

If you would have asked me in 2001, where game would be in 16 years, I would have told you that everything that had been figured out would be built upon. Lots of data and well understood practical techniques for the following

• On the spot 3 some game (you walk into a spot, see a 2 set, and then stay with them the whole night and bang both at the same time)
• Hired gun game (waitresses, shot girls, strippers)
• Ten game (objective 10’s – i.e. dominant society’s highest order of chick)
• Harem game
• Male positive open ltr’s

Instead, most of what was figured out back in the day  was

1. Trivialized – as a bunch of people tried to cash in
2. Lost – as people shifted from message boards/irc/instant messenger to personal blogs, Facebook/Twitter and Dating sites.

Everything went from centralized to decentralized.

So now guys are rediscovering that dressing GQ and lifestyle game sets them up to look like “alpha providers” not “choosy alphas”. They fight from a deficit from the beginning.

Let me be clear, cash, nice clothes, nice car, nice crib, physically fit – those all make sex easier – but for a lot of different reasons.  With game, sex is important – but CHOICE is more important.  There are tons of guys out there who have all the “right stuff”.  And they get laid plenty – but as we’ve seen with our Celebrity Chronicles – “the right stuff” is not a replacement for game.

On the socially approved scale, having “the right stuff” kills for lower end girls (6’s and below – who may have nice face or nice bodies, but not both).   But as we’ve seen with Tag the Sponsor, there’s always guys with MORE, and chicks are surrounded by offers.  Not all of them “jump” on a Sheikh shaking 40K her way for a weekend in Dubai.   At the local level, you don’t think the chick at the hottest club in Kansas City doesn’t have access to the Kansas City Chiefs?

She is constantly surrounded by that stuff, and it doesn’t impress her.

When you’re out at the spot though, when you meet these “higher end” girls, take them off the pedestal, – they just end up being the same ball of insecurities as a chick that’s not so much in the public eye.   It’s cliche only because it’s true.

With this overall setback in game technology, I wonder

• How long it will take this generation to want to bait shit tests so that they can ramp up attraction?
• In days when clubs are dying, will merge sets ever become important?

To be fair, a lot of PUA’s were selling sex to women when Pimps and Player’s sold dreams instead. I’m not sure what these modern alphas are really trying to actively sell.  It’s all passive sell.

I’m so great, a chick would be ludicrous not to get with me.

Book Update – 54% through the rough draft.  Looking @ 150 pages so far. (At current rate, 277 pages of rough draft).

-Archie