Author: Archie

Debeguiled made a good comment on the last blog .   This is a bit of theory of technique/history of game type of post.   But he made the correct observation that clinical hypnosis tries to achieve the same sort of thing that verbal one-on-one game is going for…sorta.

The idea behind hypnosis is to use language, setting, and ritual to get a patient into a state that is conducive to suggestion.   “You’re getting very sleepy.  Now cluck like a chicken!”

In the game, the sequence is after you meet the chick, you run your attraction material (heavy on disqualifying yourself, heavy on disqualifying her, very much getting her to chase you – or in woman speak – flirting) – then she’s invested and wants to figure out what makes you so different.  You hook her on the conversation, you hook her on the randomness and her inability to pin you down, and then you up the ante and make her do more and more sexual things, in order to get more compliance.

So in essence and in practice, she’s suggestible.

Now in our sequence, after getting her into a cycle of seeking our attention and validation – we switch to trust.  (in Mystery model, attraction -> comfort).

The game is basically won in comfort with a skeptical girl.  You can troll a girl all night and get her to want your validation – but she has to trust you after she’s figured out that your personality is sexually appealing.  So not even the “sweet talker” phase, or the “Lot of Laughs” Lamar – but this guy isn’t a psycho type thing.

So the trust moves

• Break the touch barrier
• Stop touching her before she wants you to stop
• Meet her friends
• Introduce her to your friends
• Interact with 3rd parties
• Move her around the venue
• Stop for a pint of ice cream on the way back to your place, and let her see you talk to staff

You’re a normal guy, I will be safe now and still get to have fun.

Verbally, you’ve got the chick on the couch, she’s attracted, she’s interested – but one of the issues a guy faces is that – she may be attracted, she wants to talk, she’s okay with touch, she’s touching him – but that doesn’t mean they’re going to end up back at his place.   Them boys @ RSD describe this situation is the “sexual hook point”.  Where she’s participating.

But since we’ve been doing this from a different perspective – this is where the pimp game says that you sell her the dream, you put her in a bubble, just me and you, just the two of us.

 

So Debeguiled made the point that putting her in the bubble, getting that level of trust – we’re she thinks of not just her, but as “we”, – that’s approaching the a hypnotic trance.

And the history of PUA online starts in Ericksonian hypnosis, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) – and basically ways to get people to do things on a subconscious level through. 1) word, 2) setting/environmental engineering, 3) ritual.   When you look back at even the Mystery Method, his end game sequence involves getting the girl to light candles…  It’s not because Mystery is a romantic, but it’s part of a ritual.  And when she puts up resistance, he breaks the spell by blowing out the light.  It’s symbolic – but works on deeper levels.

So yes, I think Debeguiled is right – there’s something to adding elements from hypnosis to your game.  I think the best place is not during the attraction, but during the trust stage.

-Archie

[Ed. This a post that I didn’t finish from last year (got about 35)]

Every sentence I write makes me think about you, the reader.

What do  you need to know to come to the same conclusion that I do?

So I have to keep digging deeper to find examples that will click in your mind.

But that’s game.  I’m trying to communicate, express myself, and persuade.  I know from experience (and from work, lol), that breaking down an argument logically is one of the least effective ways to put somebody on your side.

In my process of writing a small game “pamphlet” for you guys to use is the same thing that goes on when you build an opener.

So in the last few weeks, I’ve come across someone else’s opener and modified it, and then also taken my reaction to someone else’s story and turn that into an opener.

The Swipe

I straight jacked this from a guy giving day game coaching sessions, and modified it to what I know about a girl’s social reality.

So a guy is at the mall, he’s walking through courtyard.  He sees a girl he likes.

Now analyzing the reasoning behind the steps.

Step #2 – You have to come at a girl head to head to do this. (that is facing her) Coming from the side or from behind is startling to a girl.  Remember you’re bigger and stronger, and she’s been fed all of this negative information about strange men.

When I devise an opener, I put myself in the girl’s shoes.  If I approach her – what can happen?  What will she be thinking?  In a negative light, and in a positive light?

Step #4 – Why doesn’t the guy say Hello, Hi, or Hey?

The guy doesn’t introduce himself, because that triggers a scripted response.  She goes on autopilot.

We want to stop the girl from going on autopilot and giving us default answers.  When you say “Hi” – she knows what to do to shut you down.  It’s not even conscious.  She’s “triggered”.  She goes on autopilot, the same way you go out autopilot when some dude on the street tries to sell you a mixtape.  (Odd how women respond to similar stimuli just like men)

Step #8 – He doesn’t explain, he lets it dawn on her.

This is what “opens” the chick.

So recap

1. Put yourself in her shoes when it comes to the approach.
2. Put yourself in her mind when it comes to what she thinks about, and how she thinks about it – when it comes to the content of what you’re going to say.
3. Does it show mastery of her world?

-Archie

We’ll get back to the comedy at some point.  Book 1 is still coming along.

This is Lessons from the Screen Play – a very good non-game source of game material.   Again, a point I will belabor – is that game is applied psychology.  So anything that tells you how the mind works, what the mind responds to, is uber useful when it comes to talking to the ladies and making connections.

The video should start at 4:38, but i recommend that you watch the whole thing.

Act 2 – The Premise – What the show is about at the core.  The Pilot conveys this to the audience.

The protagonist’s life is turned upside-down when X happens, so they decide to do Y.

A high school chemistry teacher finds out that he has terminal cancer and decides to cook meth in order to make money for his family

Walt’s decision here affects who he is and what decisions he makes in Act 3 Power.

Lajos Egri – “A man whose fear is greater than his desire, or a man who has no great, all-consuming passion, or one who has patience and does not oppose, cannot be a pivotal character.”

Act 3 shows how his desires overcome his fears.

The video goes on to say

“Standing here, Walt feels a kind of power — one brought on by the absence of fear“

Any light bulbs coming on yet?

“Television is historically good at keeping its characters in a self-imposed stasis so that shows can go on for years or even decades” – Vince Gilligan

So what GAME lessons can we draw from here?

In the movie that is your life – has your fear been greater than your desire?

I know I can say yes to this one.  And like all the t-shirts say, good stuff happens when I overcome my fears.

Since I’m chopping game here – that’s the inner game piece. If you are aware that you’re stopping yourself because of fear, that can help you move forward.

What’s the external game piece here?  How do I turn these words that give me power, into words and actions that help me connect with a girl?

It’s the thrill — for once — of taking risks.

Does this sentence not hit you in your core?  When you read that sentence, your mind goes to all the times when you let fear hold you back.  And also to the pleasure of when you let go and went with it.

Imagine reworking this sentence when you have your first *real* chance to talk to a chick.   Not during the initial little chat.

Along the sequence of

1. See the girl
2. Open the girl
3. Flirt with a girl
4. Deal with her obstacles and issues

Right after this point, is when you really start to connect with a girl.

If a player gets to this point during the meet, all he needs to do is keep the vibe going, call a cab, and have the girl go to your spot to make some cupcakes late into the night.  I like to meet girls at night clubs so that we can study Psalms.

So you’ve got the girl at the martini lounge.  She’s comfortable chatting with you in the booth.  What happens next is a done deal – but here is where you break out what you learned from Breaking Bad and writing television shows.

You start talking to her about how fear holds people back.   And when they drop the fear, they can do what they really want to do.   From there, you go into the idea of how “self imposed stasis“.

You watch TV? Me too.

What shows do you like?

I like this show, well I like 95% of the show.  But it seems like every week, the main character gets into the same sort of problems. That fills out the show – but it’s like the character keeps himself stuck in a rut.  If he would only change a bit…

So rather than the regular Bible session you have lined up with the chick – if she likes what you’re saying here, if you can draw her out, if she can give you examples of how fear held her back, how she feels like she’s keeping her own self down – and then how she didn’t succumb to fear…and how YOU can help her get past some of her fears …

Ask yourself how that Bible Study is going to go now, when she’s not only ready on a physical level, but you’ve made it okay for her to dig really deep and show more of herself because she’s no longer afraid?

The old school game of the 90’s/early 00’s was less efficient than what Mystery came up with, and not nearly as efficient as what we can do to day.  But a whole lot of old game focused on taking a chick “deeper”.

So that’s how you use Walter White in your game.  You know that his character was this nebbish guy getting pushed around.  He found himself in dire straits, and he did something about it.  He let go of his fear.   And teaching a girl how to let go of her fears, and to do what she really wants – that’s a key to making a better connection.

-Archie

Let’s just get right in to it.

So on the thread, the homie Comte is talking about the latest Dave Chappelle specials.  I didn’t realize I had an international audience, but Dave Chappelle is a Black American comedian noted for his general humor and his particular take on Western/American culture.

Comte is endorsing the the idea that Humor is a valuable lesson in the game.  There are some obvious push backs (look @ the wives of the top comedians out there – and generally they aren’t that attractive.  But same goes for most billionaires)

But I do think humor is very important to the game.  The easy reasons are 1) making the girl laugh is important, 2) making yourself laugh is also important.

Humor though?  Humor, in my terms, is about frame control.  The way a joke works is that you give the audience a believable premise, an honest premise, something that they know.   And you establish the premise.  But they know and you know that the SUBVERSION of the premise is coming.  There is some truth about what you’re going to illuminate for them.

But the audience accepting your premise is really accepting your view of the world.  When a comedian steps on stage, they can set up HORRIBLE premises – but the fact that he is a comedian – lets the audience just “Go With It”.

Let’s put some vids up.

 

 

For you guys really trying to expand your game in a deep way – you need to take in the RSD stuff (Who I love.  Don’t get me wrong.  Shout to them boys), but also these bigger more MAINSTREAM type videos.  Nerdwriter, and Charisma on Command are great – and they will get you to think about game the way that I do.

That game is advanced socialization.  That game is understanding how people think and feel, and then how they behave.  That then leads you to apply psychology because you know what is truly motivating people.

-Archie

This is an impromptu post – one that I couldn’t really add to the thread.

On the top level, this blog is about GAME.  But you guys know that I think game is merely applied psychology.  Things I do in the romantic arena, I often grab from everyplace else.

After a while you start to see patterns.

This is Scott Adams – he’s a conservative guy that draws Dilbert.  He predicted the current presidential election.

This isn’t a profile, or somebody in the press who clearly got it wrong trying to figure out how Adams was able to see the writing on the wall – it’s a hatchet job, a character assassination.  Something that women often do to other women with little remarks here and there.  I had an ex that knew exactly what obviously true thing to comment on, such that the recipient was made to feel low.

Let me be clear – I think Adams may be right on the psychological opinions, but my politics are not his nor 45’s.  I’m not sure how folks can come to a site named after West Indian Archie and think otherwise.

Let’s start with the title

How Scott Adams Got Hypnotized by Trump

The key word here is *hypnotized* .  If you’ve read Adams’s take on Trump, Adams’s basically says that Trump was using a lot of actual psychological techniques – and that was a large part of how he was able to win the Republican Nomination.  Trump, according to Adams, was using hypnosis at a grand level.

The author here basically subverts Adams’ argument and says that HE, Adams, got hypnotized.

Why?  Because most people 1) don’t believe hypnosis is real, and more importantly, 2) only dumb people get hypnotized.

Scott Adams, the millionaire creator of the office-humor comic strip

Millionaire – again, the author is using true traits to describe Adam’s, but these traits have CONNOTATIONS.  Without spelling it out, she hits on the idea that “Of course a millionaire is going to support another millionaire.”

a fellow “Master Wizard,” Adams’s term for experts in hypnosis and persuasion.

Master Wizard is in quotes because that’s what the style of newspaper journalism dictates – but again – using the quotes draws your eye and make syo generate ideas consciously and subconsciously.   This mf’er think’s he’s a wizard.

With about 10,000 readers on a good day, Adams’s blog had a fraction of the audience of his cartoon…

Oh, he only gets traffic on a good day.  I would kill for 10,000 readers.  That’s a ton of people.

But in the digital sphere, Adams was able to indulge his more outré interests and theories.

The key words here are “indulge” and “outré” .  Indulge has connotations of the negative, and “outré” – you don’t need to know French to understand that these are “not mainstream”.

At a time when virtually the entire professional political class was convinced Trump would self-immolate, Adams’s essay reframed his actions as the deliberate work of a political savant.

Here it is again, Adams is on the outer fringe and wrong about 45.  This isn’t neutral.

making himself indispensable as one of Trump’s most appreciative interpreters

He was using Trump for his own ends.

he wasn’t endorsing Trump, just doing his part to help the public better read a misunderstood candidate

He’s “redeemable” in the voice of the mainstream.

Getting a comic strip, even one as occasionally edgy as Dilbert, into family newspapers requires observing a certain set of norms. Adams’s viral analyses of Trump introduced many people, including me, to his more unusual fixations. Between political ponderings, he blogged about fitness and seduction, posting photos of his abs and writing a series of essays on how to deploy hypnosis and persuasion for better orgasms. “My language skills activate your sex drive, and you know it,” he wrote at one point. So-called men’s rights activists became vocal fans. I was just baffled

Norms vs Unusual Fixations – sets up the Us vs Him dynamic

Offering up game as something to be ridiculed. (I understand it)

MRA’s are media codewords, a “dog-whistle” if you will.

“I was just baffled”  – It’s not so much that the author was baffled by what Adams is saying, but that his world view does not comport with the rest of the world.

So what happens when the Author meets this strange guy?

He turned out to be soft-spoken and friendly.

Author expected him to be loud and antagonistic. (the exact sort of person that could invite a reporter to his house).  Author emphasizes this to the audience, because Author wants them to approach Scott the way the Author does.

At almost 60, Adams conveyed the energy of a teenage boy. Short and wiry, with thinning, close-cropped hair,

The NY Times is famous for doing this.  Including these personal details, these physical descriptions, so that you can discount what someone is saying.  The teenage boy crack again builds the underlying background of a “man boy” with “man boy” opinions.  The “thinning” hair helps to de-virilize the man.

This ones a bit more subtle -but speaks to a certain segment of the audience

After offering me coffee, he opened a can of coconut water and sat on a tall stool at the island in his kitchen.

The way that some will read this is that he was polite.  The way that the Author wants you to read this is that he could have also offered Coconut Water, but instead he keeps the “good stuff” to himself.  Further “sat on a tall stool” – implying that he was looking down on the Author.  Where did the author sit?  Why is his the only position mentioned?

Adams’s house is a shrine to the cartoon character that made him rich.

Let’s make this 60 year old man, artist, into a rich man child.

structure is full of indulgent quirks

Indulgent and quirks – This guys is rich and immature.

he transformed a bar area (Adams doesn’t drink…

Because immature boys don’t drink.\

where his ex-wife (now Adams’s personal assistant) used to host spa days for friends

What an interesting little detail right?  What kind of picture are we drawing of Adams?

Can we take a swipe at The Game real quick?

a signed copy of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, a book of strategies for seducing women. (Adams said he hadn’t read it.)

But the Author makes it a point to say that he owns a copy.  A signed copy at that

Why exactly are we interested in this aspect of a man that predicted 45’s election?  The author makes it clear.

When I visited, Adams’s girlfriend of three months, Kristina Basham, was living with him, along with her two daughters. She’s 28. Until recently, she maintained a website that showed her posing in a bikini, described as a model and baker, with a D cup size.

So in sequence, we had reference to the Ex Wife, now his implied suffering personal assistant.  He has a copy of the Game.  His girlfriend has merely been with him for 3 months.

Props to Scott though, this chick is really attractive.  She may be trying to play him, but there are younger millionaires out there. Even some who have no problem with her single motherhood.

 

But she has 2 daughters!  And she’s only 28 (a. he’s robbing the cradle, b. she has two daughters to feed).

“Until Recently” – so something just ended.

“In a bikini…D Cup size” – she’s a bimbo, gold digger.

So the author then describes some good internet marketing and a new way to get on in this economy. (it’s the same thing Cal Newport and others are promoting)

“The idea of a talent stack is that you can combine ordinary skills until you have enough of the right kind to be extraordinary,” he wrote. “You don’t have to be the best in the world at any one thing. All you need to succeed is to be good at a number of skills that fit well together.”

This is great advice.   So how does the author undercut it?

Basham, he noted, was smart, knew model tricks about posing and makeup, and used social media hacks such as SEO and A/B testing. (“For example, although her Instagram photos are G-rated, any hint of side-boob adds at least 10% to her engagement.”)

Adams takes this gold digger, that he’s too old for, that he’s too dumb to see through – and then the Author focuses on the most prurient detail.

Here’s a salient point that somehow the Author decided to include, despite the general hatchet job here – or maybe the Author includes it to make Adams look delusional

“I’m not much of an artist, not much of a business expert, and my writing skills are mostly self-taught,” Adams wrote. “I’m funny, but not the funniest person in my town. The reason I can succeed without any world-class skills is that my talent stack is so well-designed.” Trump’s stack, he continued, was powerful. “He isn’t the best communicator in the world, but he is very good. He doesn’t know as much about politics as career politicians do, but apparently he knows enough. He isn’t the smartest person who ever ran for office, but he’s very smart. He might not be the best business strategist in the world, but he certainly knows his stuff

What about this Gold Digger underlying message

Basham had recently persuaded Adams to take a trip to London and Zurich—the first time he’d ever traveled beyond Canada and Mexico. “I don’t like being uncomfortable,” he said, “and travel is uncomfortable.”

The gold digger gets him to take trips to places that we know are expensive.  And because he’s a man boy, he rarely travels.

Then the author decides to showcase one of his side businesses

To demonstrate the product, he showed me a timeline he’d made featuring Victoria’s Secret models.

Is Adams a perv?

“I don’t know how you get a stomach like that, except through lots of situps and not eating,” he said, admiring one of the women.

The picture is being painted.

Why is he like this?

As a child, Adams lived in the town of Windham, N.Y., with two siblings. “I’d say we grew up in a family where no one ever hugged,

Oh, let’s get Freudian!  So where did this fascination with hypnosis start? Picking up the thread from the beginning of the article – before we established that his rich man-boy, with a suffering ex wife, and a young gold digger single wife he only knows how to use her looks for money.

His mom also got him interested in hypnosis. “She gave birth to my younger sister while under hypnosis,” Adams told me.

Can we some how downplay is accomplishments and also make him look pervy?

After graduating as valedictorian of his 40-person high school class, Adams enrolled at Hartwick College in central New York, which he said he chose largely because it had a nursing school and thus more women than men

Mission accomplished!

Wait is there something else we can do to make this guy look horrible?

At both the bank and the phone company, Adams has said, his professional advancement was thwarted by diversity hires. “There was no hope for another generic white male to get promoted any time soon

Later in the book, he noted that his Dilbert TV show was canceled after “the network made a strategic decision to focus on shows with African-American actors

He’s a racist!  Though that’s not what we talked about when I spoke to him, it’s what he said in his book.  I mean, there are his words – I just didn’t confront him about them when I was face to face with him. So let’s finish up the character assassination.

Starting in the late ’90s, Adams also launched a line of vitamin-infused vegan microwave burritos called Dilberitos, which were discontinued after a few years, and two restaurants, which went belly-up

He also wrote two religion-themed novellas, published in 2001 and 2004, which, he told me, will be his ultimate legacy—not Dilbert.

Hmm, he was behind a cockamamie product that would probably get funding today?  And he’s a religious nut?

Hmm, what else can I check off the list.  Immature, Racists, Rich, Dumb, Religious?

he second novella, a follow-up titled The Religion War, describes a civilizational conflict in 2040 between a violent caliphate in the Middle East and a Christian alliance in the West. The hard-nosed hero builds a wall around the jihadists and “essentially kills everybody there,” Adams told me. “I have to be careful, because I’m talking about something pretty close to genocide, so I’m not saying I prefer it, I’m saying I predict it.”

Adams isn’t doing himself any favors here.  He might be the Alex Jones of the cartoon game. But the Author is able to uncover but also report what Adams’s says himself.

Can we rehabilitate him so it doesn’t look like a full on hatchet piece?

until in 2005 he suddenly lost the ability to talk with other people. The mysterious condition is known as voice dystonia.

Damn that’s kinda messed up.  But…

“Losing the ability to speak made me feel like a ghost. It was incredibly lonely.” The inexplicable condition, which doctors attributed to a possible mental condition, persisted for three years.

Oh, you want me to think he’s crazy.

If crazy is not good enough, maybe it’s something else

Pastis says, is that Adams simply craves attention. “Cartoonists are addicted to reaction. I don’t know whether Scott would admit that, but I know it’s true.”

Okay maybe he’s crazy like a fox? Here the Author makes it a point to draw parallels between the cartoon and 45.

Trump has eerie parallels to Dogbert, who consistently gets ahead at everyone else’s expense. In the ’90s, Dogbert published a fake-news-filled tabloid dedicated to denouncing enemies and promoting lies about himself…

I’d thought the point of those strips was to laugh at Dogbert’s cruelty—not celebrate it.

And the Author wraps everything else up.

So the reader comes into the article thinking that either we’re going to get into Adams’ idea that 45 is a master persuader/hypnotist – and that Adams fell under his spell.   But leaves with the idea that Adams is the clueless and also awful guy.  And mostly because Adams is hanging himself with “his own” words and actions.

This is a not-so-subtle character assassination that basically ticks off every box for things that regular dislike

1. Rich
2. Immature
3. Sexist
4. Racist
5. Super Religious
6. Anti-Muslim
7. Bad Business Guy
8. Possibly Crazy
9. Possibly Seditious

The Author is running A LOT OF GAME on US about a guy who runs game (Adam) who talked about another guy running game (45).

Now, in my view, Adams is probably all of these things that the Author describes.  Half the people I deal with online probably ticked off one of these boxes.  And that’s not GOOD.  You shouldn’t be some of these things, full stop.  But from a realistic perspective

1. Not all of that is objectively objectionable (Rich, immature, wanting to date attractive women, trying to do business, having mental illness, imagining alternative histories)
2. That cannot be the entirety of his life and his views

 

-Archie

“Being a grandfather is quite different. It’s much looser than being a parent. I don’t have to always worry about providing patterns of behavior. I just get to give her little kisses. I was allowed to borrow her this morning so we are walking through the park. It’s our personal pastime. She likes to look at the dogs and birds. Today we saw some blackbirds which was quite exciting.” (Santiago, Chile)

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Not implying Grandpa is going to die anytime soon – but one of the key differences in a short term is that you don’t need to do the work that is necessary to get the chick to behave right. (And she doesn’t need to do the necessary stuff either)

-Archie

The homie KD on the thread finds himself in familiar player territory.

• His diet game is good.
• His work out game is good.
• His clothing game is good.
• He can spot a chick that’s already down from a mile away.
• His rap has been honed
• He has good logistics

He regularly pulls chicks that he rates as cute to good looking.  But the super hot chicks, he does not regularly land those.

I think he has his the limit of cold approach.

Yeah, I said it.

I didn’t say that he hit the limit of GAME, but the limit of cold approach.

Let’s do a quick recap of cold approach.

• You look as good as you can. (diet, exercise, grooming, clothes)
• You regularly talk to chicks.
• You have your funnel on point.
• You can be funny, provocative, endearing, and all that good stuff.

So you see a chick, walk over to her, get her attention, and start interacting with her.  You have good words sometimes, sometimes your appeal is in your confidence

Sometimes it is your non-verbal…your sub-communication that does the work.

• You close the space between you and her
• You get into her space
• You break the touch barrier
• You back off before she backs off.

This is the essence of game.  And the more girls you deal with, the more you can communicate verbally and non-verbally.

Most guys aren’t going out.  Most guys that go out, don’t approach.  Of the guys that approach, most don’t have a plan.  But  you have go out, you approach, you have a plan.  Within a few months (of going out 3+ times a week), you’ll have enough experience with women that most of this stuff becomes internalized.

Then you hit the wall.

Now we’ve talked about very very attractive girls being intimidating – but most of that intimidation is in your mind.  You get over that and essentially get into your groove – these chicks fold.  They’re not used to a guy that’s really centered.

All of this basic mastery of cold approaches for one night stands with girls you meet in the night life is well established.  Everyone selling a pick up product is basically teaching you how to deal with tis.

But what about the Video Vixens?  What about the Super Models?  What about the connected club chicks in VIP?  What about the girls that you see Rock Stars and Athletes with?

There is a certain level of female that you just don’t see on the regular.  I mean see a cute face, nice set of D Cups, and some 5″ heels on any given night.   When you do see the “NFL Cheerleader” type chick – even if you can be entirely centered and run your game – there is a distance between the two of you.  She’ll gladly listen to you, encourage you or whatever – but she just doesn’t see you that way. You’re not on her radar.

On the street, this rarely happens.  A chick can think whatever she wants – but during the day time – her social reality is quite fragile.

At night though?

Even when you look the part, when you’ve got a table – her social world is one involving people of some “status”.   I don’t mean doctors or lawyers or politicians.  Not even CEO’s.   But the status that hot girls that you meet at clubs that stay in VIP –  focus on.

This girl?  She can pull a rich guy.  She can pull a pretty boy.  She can pull a tall dude. She can pull a guy with muscles.  She can pull a guy that has all of those qualities.   All the stuff you can think of, and put on paper – she can get.  She’s that beautiful. (She’s a Victoria’s Secret Model – we’re talking about beauty decided by the crowd – not decided by you.  You probably would take a Keisha Grey or an Abella Danger first)

But if that guy doesn’t have status in her world – it’s pointless.  He’s a peon, not peer, much less a superior.   It’s not that she can’t like a regular guy  per se – but a regular Jamal off the street, or at the club – he’s nobody.  He’s just some random dude.

She is just a regular girl with a massive (though mental) social barrier.

What does a girl like this crave?

She wants a higher social status.

Even though  she does crave the game – your insight into her world, into her mind, her soul – the social status is more important. Now if you can bring her up a level, and then get next to this chick, and get her to give you a chance to turn her head around – it’s game over.

BUT

Getting physically next to this chick is difficult, but that’s not enough.  Maybe you can do some push aways and disqualify yourself – so that she wonders what’s wrong with her, and why you don’t want her – but you’re still not REAL TO HER.  She doesn’t value your opinion or your insight.

But what if you were in her scene?  If you were a photographer, a fashion designer, the dj at the fashion show, the bartender at the event?

Imagine coming at that girl like you were a peer?  Like when she went out to club, you were already in VIP hanging with the big dogs?

Why does everyone know you?  Why are you special?

How come the DJ shouts your name?

So with some of these 10’s, that are socially isolated from the rest of humanity – you’re not even on the board with her until you’re a somebody.

How do you do that?

On the surface, it’s knowing a ton of people, a ton of the right people.  But in reality, it’s a ton of the right people KNOWING YOU.

What this chick is after is more than just the tangible shit.   She can get that, in spades.

She wants STATUS.  And if you have status among people that she respects, that she wants in her life – that’s when your one-on-one game can work.

Indeed, if she sees you interacting with the big wigs – you’re not cold approaching anymore.  You’re not some random stranger, you’re someone she wants to meet but doesn’t know yet.

In terms for the night game, Mystery, Brad P, them RSD boys – they’ve been talking about this on the back burner for years.   Group Theory, Merge Set, plus the new internet stuff is how you go from being cool guy in the general population of the club, to a guy that’s behind the scenes and making things happen.

Now this usually happens organically.  I definitely make it a part of my game to meet all the people that run the club – be it actual club staff, dj’s, or promoters.

General Night Club Game is real and effective.   And when you see the same faces, you hit the after hour foods spot, the after parties, maybe a summer time cook out.

To get to that 10 level – you need to start bringing value to those folks you’ve met in the night life.  For the cool guys, you throw them some girls that you’ve met.  For the girls, you throw them cool girls.  You’re trying to build a circle.  But you’re not doing it blindly.  You want to build that circle that the type of chick that you’re after wants to be in.

Why do all of this work?

Because you have to break down the social barriers and make your cold approaches WARM.

In practice this looks like you going to the same set of clubs, befriending the top dogs, and then throwing all the decent looking cute chicks at them.  Literally picking a girl and her friend up on Friday, and then going out with them Saturday – and introducing them to the guys in the good groups.

The idea is that you need to become a connector of people.  That’s how you break down the 10’s social barrier – by elevating your own social status – to be in her circle, or above it.

This is a bit esoteric, and I promise to explain more in the book – but this gives you an idea of why you can’t really connect with some of these hotties at the club.

Though you may be good looking and have good game – they aren’t hooking up with randoms.  They’re going for guys that have “status” in their eyes.  Deconstructing the status, and getting in there, is how you get them to “see you”

-Archie

 

For four straight election cycles, Democrats have ignored research from the fields of cognitive linguistics and psychology that the most effective way to communicate with other humans is by telling emotional stories.

Tell the politicians and the hustlers to live and let live.  At about 4:01 for you heads.

My thing on this blog is to not tell you better routines – but to develop your mind for the game.  The foundation of all game is understanding human psychology.  Meeting girls is just one avenue of that psychology. So a good source of “non-game” game comes from anything where people are involved.

Archie, “How many chicks do I need to talk to until…I get laid…until I get a girlfriend.”

What the election taught *some* Democrats (the smart ones) that you can not depend on stats and data crunching to win elections.

So the brute force approach to game – although useful for LEARNING – but not for actual pulling.

Telling emotional stories is a big key to the game.  During the approach, during the attraction generation, during the trust build, AFTER YOU READ THE BIBLE (Because that’s what we’re all trying to do, meet a nice Christian girl, right?!?)

“The human mind is a story processor, not a logic processor,” as social psychologist Jonathan Haidt has written).

Convincing a voter—challenging an existing frame—is no small task. “When you hear a word, its frame (or collection of frames) is activated in your brain,” writes Lakoff. As a result, “if a strongly held frame doesn’t fit the facts, the facts will be ignored and the frame will be kept.”

What? Frame?  Scientists use “game” terms?

No, we use scientific terms.

So let this be a seed for your next game idea.  When you’re chatting up a lady, ask yourself what emotional story am I telling her?

• What am I saying with my words?
• With my body language?
• With my actions?

Because just chatting chicks up in series is not enough.

-Archie