Q: Archie – I thought this chick was feeling me, but when I ask for the meet, she says, “I’ll let you know”
A. If a chick hits you with the “I’ll let you know” that’s a “no” not a “know”
[Ed. This video has nothing to do with the topic, I just find it comical]
Overall, dissecting the problem is that to get to that point of “I’ll let you know” – you had to spark some initial interest/attraction and then lose it.
If
1) the chick opened,
2) and you ran your material/showed value
3) and you she wanted to hear more,
4) and to get more from you, you made her invest
She’s on. This ain’t rocket science. As much as guys want to overcomplicate things, this is basically how all the styles work.
– Pretty boy steps up, yammers – the value is his prettiness. She wants more, he makes her invest.
– Meathead steps up, yammers, the value is in the muscles, to bang her, he makes her invest.
– Player steps up, yammers, the value is in how he is making her feel in the moment. To bang her, he makes her invest.
So it’s guys getting weak opens (like environmental openers that are “clever” but don’t actually push a girl’s emotional buttons), and then assuming the rest.
I can’t assume sexual/physical attraction. She might purse her lips, or bring her legs together, or give off some sort of biological tell – but she might need to pee. Her twirling her hair might be interest, might be what she does when she’s bored.
Yet, getting her to play along, and to further invest is something I can see, verify, and keep on doing.
They get to the end where they go for the #/kiss/instadate/bang – and suddenly the girl’s not interested.
There’s nothing sudden about it.
The player didn’t show her what she wanted to see/hear.
But because chicks get punched in the face for being blunt, she was cordial the whole time.
I used to run into this shit all the time. Then I realized I needed to really push the emotions harder. The good pulls I had, the chick was REALLY feeling what I had to say. But I was focusing on the material, not so much the [b]depth of the emotional reaction[/b]. That’s the roller coaster that we keep talking about.
So to focus on that, if I had a chick giggling, i’d hammer on that a minute or two then switch gears. She’s laughing, now she’s defending herself for laughing too much. Switch, switch, switch – whatever she thought initially, however she felt – I’ve changed her mood and have now changed her mind. This is what good customer service reps do. It’s not that hard to adapt to game.
I don’t want a giggle, I want her sides to hurt when she laughs at my shit. Whatever emotion I think is possible, I want it to be on 10, not 0.5.
And people get sold TV’s, newspaper subscriptions, loan products, life insurance, and switch electric companies when they go to the grocery store. You go into Wal-Mart for some oil filters and end up picking up shit on the way. It’s not an accident.
People’s ability to control their urges is not that strong. The real problem is that they don’t have the money to buy everything they want.
-Archie