Rich Dad, Poor Dad? The Player’s Version?

I’ma chill on the whole SMV vs Game debate.  Suffice it to say, if you ask me whether you should spend 10 hours in the gym, or spend Wednesday and Thursdays trying to pick up girls for 8 hours – I’m gonna say hit the night life.

If you’re a developer writing code so some snot nose trust fund kid can cash in – learning to push a girl’s buttons by practicing pushing girl’s buttons is time better spent.

But this does bring up some issues brought up in a post today.

Our society teaches boys that they have to EARN a woman’s attention, attraction, and affection.   Especially if he doesn’t have one of the golden qualities

• Beautiful Face
• Height
• Right Race/Color/Ethnicity/Tribe/Religion
• Muscles
• Clothes
• Money
• Popularity/Fame
• Winning Personality

Some of the above you can change quickly.  Some will take forever.  Some require drugs or surgery.   Others require a stroke of luck.

But the way the meta-narrative goes – is that you can’t get the girl unless you have some or all of these qualities.

And for the most part, that’s good for society.  Society needs somebody to quote Reinsurance to big insurance companies.  Society needs a guy who’s an expert on 18th century candle making.   Society needed big strong me to be warriors, hunters, and eventually laborers.

So they pour this bullshit into your mind.  Your parents to do it, your grandparents, extended family, neighbors, friends, school teachers, cops, tv, movies, songs…

And to further motivate the young mind they show young boys that men who do these things, have these things, they get the fame and money…and the women.

Indoctrination at its finest.

So the question came up, how do you raise your sons with game.

I’ve actually faced this in my personal life.  A few younger siblings are at various stages of development and I’m not exactly sure how to broach the subject.

To some extent, telling a high school kid how to get girls on his team seems like a bad idea.  At that age,  you don’t have much self control, you never think anything bad will happen, and you can end up in some serious stuff.  The game really doesn’t get awesome until AFTER college, if you ask me.

But knowing what I went through, and what I see other guys go through – so many of them are wedded to these false promises that society gives them.

Work Hard and Work Out Hard – and the chick will beat a path to your bed.   I thought to myself, only if I try harder, can I get noticed…

But that’s not really what happens at all.

One of the things I struggle here with every single post is trying to define game.   Because to talk about what’s wrong with society’s plans or how to raise a son/deprogram a family member – I need to have a good definition of game.     It’s definitely applied psychology.  It’s definitely bigger than just picking up chicks – but those are broad and intangible ideas.

I often turn back to structures that I think most of you guys get.  Mystery’s A-C-S model is very convenient.  If you knew nothing about Mystery/PUA and went out tried to pick up girls cold – you’d find the exact same things.

You’d see the guys who work out and look great not attracting the girls that are their visual equals.   All of us know a rich guy that throws his money around trying to get people to like him.

A lot of my black readers know tons of ripped dudes and tall guys that should be pulling the local equivalent of Beyonce/Rihanna/Blac Chyna, but instead you see them getting drug by chicks that look like Precious.

And all of that mismatch comes from bad programming.

Specifically these guys don’t

• Know their own value
• Know what chicks really respond to.

This is on top of the biological need to plant seed that makes you blind to faces.

So when you’re raising a young’un those are the top two things you need to teach him from early on.

Of course “I’m black and i’m proud” and “I’m Vietnamese and i’m beautiful” …and all that type of stuff.   There’s a fair amount of racial programming that goes on in our society, some of it is by stereotype and other times it’s by not being represented…  We’ll get into that later.

But when your boy gets caught up with one of these little strumpets, and she’s having him drive her around and do all this stuff for her – all for the whiff of some vajajay – that’s a boy that doesn’t know his worth.

You have to fuck a fair amount of chicks to devalue pussy, let’s be honest.   But it doesn’t take long to figure out that you’re getting used.

So if Archibald Westmoreland had a son, Chesterfield Rakim Westmoreland. – Rakim is going to see Archie handle himself.

So this is called Rich Dad, Poor Dad because the great thing about this book, which Malcolm Gladwell also explored in one of his books – is that parents can explicitly teach children life lessons.

In Gladwell’s book, poor parents that took their children to the doctor never asked the doctor questions, and they never let the children ask the doctors questions.  By contrast, well-to-do parents not only asked the doctor about the treatments prescribed, they made their children come up with questions to ask the doctors.   They built this into their children to be able to talk to authority.

Kiyosaki, in Rich Dad, has all these lessons where his own father, Poor Dad – got all these degrees, and kept trying to climb the ladder that society set up.  Where as Rich Dad, his best friends father, was a business man.  One of the lessons that stands out is he hired the two boys to do some terrible work and paid them next to nothing to do it.  I think it was moving old boxes of comic books.  They were so angry and fed up….and they quit.    While they were gonna tell the old man the news, one of his real employees walked in and had to basically grovel for some money.  After the employee left, the boys demanded a raise or they were gonna quit.  So Dad fired them. Then he explained why his real employee was always broke, and that paying him more wouldn’t help him. (I might be jumbling this up. sure some of you have read this thing, it’s been out for like 20 years)

The real employee worked for his money.  He couldn’t really do much to raise his pay.   But Rich Dad was able to leverage that employee’s work and raise Rich Dad’s pay.   The real money wasn’t in working for someone else.  The real money was in capital.  And having a workforce at your disposal was capital.  (Might be some other lesson, but go with me)

As the father to a would be player – you essentially have to deprogram your son.

They tell you that women respond to money and muscles, but the guys that are really out there making it happen aren’t all rich buff guys.   Some are to be fair. If you hold everything constant, that’s what girls choose on their own.  That’s what they’ve been programmed to choose.  They really don’t know any better.   They feel things for other guys, but they really don’t know how to express what it is they feel. So they too reach for tangibles, like height and snappy dresser.

And if you ever bang a Doctor’s wife, you’ll find that she got married to a rich man that’s never home.   And she’d trade the wealth for someone to be there.   The lifestyle doesn’t make her feel like she thought it would – but she’s put on the golden handcuffs and until she figures out how to live on half – she’s stuck.    And the doctor will be clueless.

The father of a young player teaches his son through example that what people say they want is one thing, but what they actually respond to is something else.   This applies throughout life, but especially to girls.

The blog is young still.  So maybe if I ever cross that path myself, I’ll explain what I’m doing.

-Archie