Scorpion called it way back in the day on The Forum. The convergence of broadband, iPhones, social media and online dating have created this creature addicted to likes and hearts.
This convergence was the apocalypse for cold approaches, in two ways. First, the actual cold approach is trying to pull her off of her phone. Second, the phone is actually keeping her out of offline space in the first place. Either she’s so addicted that she doesn’t come out, or she prefers blind dates with handsome strangers and deals with those consequences, rather than rely on her judgment about people in person.
It’s been my experience, and it’s the advice that I always give – when the first meet is the result of a social media DM or a more “formal” Tinder/OkCupid date – the front end of the date is about the guy passing the “crazy homeless guy” test. Do you smell good? Are you observably crazy?
We’ve already seen the whole “Tag the Sponsor” phase of guys with zero game “exposing these hoes” man. (Got to agree with whoever was talking about the latest move to report Cam girls to the IRS as super cringe) But that’s what E-Fame/Instagram brings. Thirsty men with too much money trying to pay chicks to breathe, and the men who can’t get the chicks and can’t afford to pay either.
YaReally already poked the bear when he talked about how guys without the skillset are ill equipped to handle Instagram. How do you deal with your girlfriend getting joy from likes, getting crazy dm’s in her inbox?
If you had a bad chick before the web, believe me, it was bad enough running with her around town. I’ve said this before – she doesn’t have full ownership of her beauty. Men obviously are going to try it, especially drunk ones, but guys that aren’t even real threats, women that hate, women that want to profit, old women, children – if you’re chick is fine enough – she’s getting all of this unnecessary real world attention.
For chicks not so attractive in the real world – online with the proper angles and make up, but also with the connections to high school, college, etc – her objective attractiveness as measured by attention goes way up. In the middle of a relationship, she’s still getting messages from suitors – many of whom are better looking, have better bodies, and have more money.
All of this undermines the security in your relationship in an objective manner. But the real issue here is the subjective manner.
So you come to this realization that Noir put together. You have four types of girls
- She’s Heavily Engaged in Social Media, creating and consuming
- She’s Heavily Engaged in Social Media, consuming
- She’s Not Heavily Engaged in social media, lightly consuming
- She’s not involved at all.
What is a man supposed to do with this threat?
I can tell you right now, I see women on the train all the time paying more attention to their phones than their children. To be fair, how much you give to your child versus taking care of your own needs has been a constant battle within the gender, one which lots of unscrupulous players have used to their advantage – but this generation of e-zombies is new.
We all know that one of the drivers of a woman’s ego is the need for attention, the right attention.
So nowadays, Game, good offline interpersonal skills is even more important.
With the PUA infields on YouTube coming to a close, we’re going back underground.
