Month: August 2019

https://youtu.be/yMvf9k8k5lI

Fox News is running this story about the most swiped instagram dude.

https://www.foxnews.com/lifestyle/tinders-most-swiped-right-man-how-more-dates

This is his social media.

https://www.instagram.com/p/B1kADTTA6Wn/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

This is his chick.

https://www.instagram.com/p/B1V-veznvMA/?utm_source=ig_web_options_share_sheet

I’m not hating.  She’s really attractive to me.  I might even go a bit more on the exaggerated hour glass, but that wouldn’t be socially acceptable.  Reminds me a bit of Barbie Sins. (don’t google her from work)

Here are his tips.

1. Your first photo must feature a brightly colored background

2. Include at least one sexy holiday photo in your selection of six

3. Make sure you’re doing something different in each of your photos – while looking candid

4. Be active on the app at 2pm on a Sunday

5. Swipe for new matches after 10.30pm on a weeknight

#1 is some smart game, I think that’s something guys should be doing as part of their split testing when it comes to profiles.

#2 is obvious – travel and showing the body you’ve been working on.

#3 gets back to the old concept of “time dilation”.  Take the girl a lot of places in the club, a lot of places during the night, a lot of places during a date, and interact with others – and she feels that she knows you better than she actually does.  Arguably, the trust is building because you’re acting cool and normal with 3rd parties, and it’s not an act that you put on for her. (no, the act is for everybody, lol)

#4 and #5 go into thinking about the woman that you’re trying to get at.  What’s going on in her brain, in her life.  This is how you plan and time your texts.

-Archie

I’ll make this a quick hit.

Great little article came across my feed.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/peaceful-parenting/201907/why-hot-relationship-runs-cold

There are a few types of Daddy Issues that we deal with

• • Dad was never “there” (physically, emotionally, whatever is popping this season)
  • Dad was perfect (and you’ll never measure up, loser!)
  • Dad (and the parents) were authoritarians. (A lot of these “red pill” dads are gonna turn little Keisha and Caitlyn into strippers.

But this is about type 1.    And this is why you should do some real screening when you are considering promoting a girl up a level.

…if a person’s father was emotionally unavailable—meaning he constantly fluctuated between dismissive and rejecting to idealizing and controlling—the person may be drawn to a partner who operates similarly. The unconscious promise of remastering a painful childhood dynamic is exhilarating and intoxicating. Winning the love of a partner who unconsciously reminds a person of a rejecting parent offers a chance to eradicate the original pain.

You can tell this is written by a woman and for a female audience with this line.  There’s some hedging on the he or she stuff, but this narrative, this lie people tell themselves is rarely directed at men.  Those men that do fall victim to these chicks (who among us have not?), are ridiculed.

It’s written to be gender neutral – but even a blind man can see it.

The author goes into some tight game here though.

The hook is that many emotionally unavailable people launch a relationship by wooing their partner. By idealizing and showering a partner with the affirmation and validation the partner is hungry for, the emotionally unavailable person easily reels a partner in.

Affirmation and validation the partner is hungry for.

This is the old chest nut.

Tell a pretty girl she’s smart

Tell a smart girl she’s pretty

She goes on to write

Yet once the emotionally unavailable party has the partner invested in the relationship, he or she changes the game. Suddenly he or she becomes dismissive and critical.

This throws the partner into a panic because the love he or she longs for is yanked away, which reawakens the trauma that an emotionally abusive parent inflicted. Instead of recognizing the reality of the emotionally abusive relationship, the partner experiences searing emotional pain.

I want to focus on the part right here – “instead of recognizing the reality”.

I understand what that means intellectually, but who can honestly do that in the moment.  This bit of therapy is a bit of victim blaming if you ask me.

But I’ve said before, if you were to give the average attractive woman the sociopath test – she’d “pass” with flying colors.

Let’s read how this woman describes an emotionally unavailable partner.

1. 1. They swing from loving you to treating you with disdain.
   2. They believe they are right and have difficulties entertaining a partner’s perspective if it differs from their own.
   3. It is their way or the highway.
   4. It is almost impossible to resolve conflict, and simple disagreements explode into nightmarish fights.
   5. They play the victim in order to garner sympathy and avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
   6. They display sympathy but lack empathy.
   7. They induce shame in a partner.

Hmm, who does this sound like?

Protect yourself my brothers.

-Archie

 

 

So we come to the end.  I really don’t fee like I’ve given this book enough analysis to be honest.

Saul wraps up the book with 2 chapters.  How to Run Your Nights and Advanced Content of How to Deal with very Socially Savvy Girls.

How To Run Your Nights Out

This chapter is broken up into 10 sections – but the first section is Strategy vs Tactics. (I cover this in my rough draft actually).

Strategy is seen as the overarching game plan to achieving your long-term goals. It is the pathway or bridge to your goals. While tactics are the more concrete, smaller steps that allow you to actually cross that bridge

I would have put this way earlier in the book, but that’s a personal preference.

He breaks down what I call the “timeline of the night”.  How much time to spend in the early stages, when to do your approaches, when to develop your new connections, and when to leave the venue with your new friend.

He gets into screening here, which again is something I’d put earlier.

His 3 screens are Availability (single or taken), Logistics (Covered earlier), and Sexual Openness (aka the DTF a random but charming stranger).

Let’s talk availability.

From my experience, a girl that’s in love with her fiance will sneak off with the guy that rings her bell.

When you read the posts of beginners

• • Initial Offline Cold Approach – Guys often try to establish if the girl has a boyfriend right off the bat.  This gives the girl an easy out if his approach was not good. In fact, girls say this even after a good step up, but a failure on the opener. It’s a get out of an awkward (and potentially dangerous) situation.
  • IHAB shows up after she’s attracted, after she’s aroused, after the hook up – and all of those situations have different meaning given the social context.
  • Social circle situation – Guys are often confused by girls with boyfriends that give them attention.
  • Online, a lot of these Sherlock Homies will do a reverse image search, find the girl’s instagram/facebook/seeking arrangement profile and now are freaking about it (Both Square/Blue Pill guys and Red Pill guys that should know fucking better)

I’m guessing Saul is not trying to lose market share with guys that haven’t fully realized how sexual (and sex crazed) the average woman is.  He’s still honoring the socially programmed code of honor, where you don’t mess with another man’s woman.

What The Game teaches us, is respect for a woman’s choices and her nature.  She’s her own person.  She isn’t controlled by any man, not me, not you.  And to gape into the abyss of female choice and sexuality is akin to experiencing a Lovecraftian cosmic horror.

Openness to Hooking Up

The central tenet of game is that people will follow who has the strongest reality.  The better your game is, the more you operate on frames, on what the meaning of reality is.

How is a piece of paper that measures 2.61 inches wide and 6.14 inches long so powerful?

We’ve accepted the reality of it.  Money is one of the biggest cons there is.

And so is power.

So the belief system the girl comes into the initial meeting with, isn’t the one she has to keep.

“I met someone that makes me look at life differently”

That might be too advanced a concept for a beginner’s book.  But I’m betting that he uses this concept, even is he isn’t aware of it.

That said, his screening for DTF is top notch. And from a different perspective, a man can use the DTF screening as a tool to arouse, change the direction of a conversation, pull lots of details.

He even has a cool little 3rd party trick to “stealth” gauge the chick’s receptiveness on page 201. (Gotta buy the book homie)

From there, Saul gets into the mental process the player goes through as he’s making connections with girls of interest.  Committing to a course of action, staying in set, re-approaching when necessary.

Fastest Way to Get Good

Is a painfully short section.  I’ll leave it at that.

Advanced Content – Frame Battles

Frame Battles: Within any given social space, two conflicting realities cannot co-exist. The stronger reality always wins out.

I mentioned this in my review above, but the essence of Game with a capital G, what turns regular Christians into Creflo Dollar.

He believes so much in the Lord, in himself, that it affects his followers.

So Saul gets into this in a very limited fashion when he gives the play by play for a Club Queen.

The Club Queen – Young, Hot, Socially Savvy, doesn’t care much how you look or how much you make.  She can get what she wants, be it a height, muscles, pretty face, money, whatever.  She’s entitled.  She knows it.

There may be prettier girls out there, but she’s the one your after.  She knows it.  You know it.  And all the cards are in her favor…or are they?

What is she after?  Saul explains, Status.  He goes into her psychology and then gives you insight of both of WHAT NOT TO DO and WHAT TO DO.
Then he caps it off with a great example.  If you have never dealt with these chicks, it reads like fiction.  If you have dealt with these chicks, you want to put your hands through the book and slap the girl on the ass.

Like I’ve said before, the female giraffe kicks the male giraffe in the chest when it’s time to produce the next generation of long neck horses.  Women that antagonize suitors are playing their part in the Grand Game as designed by the creator.

Overall 

This is a solid piece of work.  I don’t agree with everything, as to be expected.  Most men don’t agree on everything.  But a lot of the core stuff I advocate and use in my own life, he does as well.

You’ll find that successful guys often converge on the same ideas INDEPENDENTLY.  Which is why it’s important for players to keep up on what’s going on in the scene.

I’m not getting paid for this, but I’ll send some of my few visitors his way.

http://www.technicalgamebible.com/

First day off in ~2 months.  I need to figure out this 4 hour work week thing.

There’s a Ghostface Killa reference here for my Hip Hop Heads

The Tail End of The Emotional Arousal Section

So we left off on Prizing Frames.

A ‘Prizing Frame’ is simply an expression which allows you to very directly and straightforwardly communicate that you are the ‘prize’ and flip the script. Broadly speaking, the idea is to  re-frame something she says to imply that she is trying to pick you up and sleep with you. Think of it as putting your own dick on a pedestal. The polar opposite of what every guy does by putting the girl on a pedestal.

Saul really knows his old school game.

This sort of “micro” game, where you look at the interaction from word to word, from glance to glance, from social scenario to the next… you’ll start to see how a lot of the game is really in what is NOT SAID.

The communication of the Prizing Frame is more than just about flipping the interaction – it’s about looking at a simple conversation between you and a girl, and not thinking that all you can do is say stuff to impress her, to make her like you.

It opens up the idea that every word, every look, every part of the interaction has MEANING.  And if you start to think more about the interaction at a higher level, you have more possibilities.

Saul doesn’t go this far, given that it’s a book for beginners. But if you’re reading my blog, you’re far from a beginner.

What’s really good about this book, is that Saul lays out some examples of how to use this in conversation.  He not only gives the words themselves, but a lot of the non-verbal aspects to the framing and delivery.

From this point in the book, he really gets more into the technical things we did in the old school to get the girl going emotionally.

• • Takeaways
  • Challenges
  • Expression of Boundaries
  • Self Amusement
  • Role-Plays
  • Sexual Misinterpretations
  • Games and Gimmicks
  • Cold Reads
  • Deep Personality Compliments
  • Demonstration of Intellectual Value

All have clear explanations and examples.

I can’t contain my excitement and admiration for compiling technical ideas that anyone can just pick up, understand, and use.

Emotional Leading

The next Big Section of the Book is Emotional Leading.  It’s the last 3rd of the book, but probably the most important.

Most Red Pill guys talking about pick up operate on this basic model.

1. Show enough sexual market value
2. She hooks up with you

Yeah brah, just up your reps, maybe do a cycle or two, and just show up. The girls do all the work

If you come from an old school Pick Up, you realize that being a good looking guy, muscles, and some money in the bank is NEVER enough. Girls rarely move first. The ones that do are often the ones that don’t have anything to lose if they see you reject them.  You think rejection is painful for a guy, it’s devastating for a girl.

The girl might be attracted, she might even be aroused, but she’s not going to grab you by the collar and toss you on the bed at Ikea and have her way with you.

Most vanilla porn is about the girl either being the aggressor, or making it real easy for the guy to make a move.  The other side is that the guy engages in some sort of power scenario.

In both cases, it’s fantasy. Hooking up with the girl for the first time is an exercise in pursuit.  We don’t get to change the rules of the animal kingdom.

So it’s obvious that you need to lead her, like a Cowboy.

https://youtu.be/z__AMV80IHo?t=60

But you’re not pulling on reins, (unless you’re into that.  Pony Play is all the rage these days).

You want her to go somewhere, but you don’t want to pull her/push her.  You want her to chase you there.

How? Elicit Investment.

His understanding of the game and how most guys think when they read those words is impeccable. Cause guys see one thing, and then do what’s natural to them based on a natural understanding of language.  Pick Up has a lot of everyday words with nuanced and technical meanings.

In the literature, eliciting investment is hand in hand with “hoop theory”.  Make the girl jump through hoops, and she’ll jump into bed with you.

Guys just take the bare idea and run with it.  Saul makes a crucial distinction between a Social Value Hoop and an Emotional Investment Hoop.   What the guy wants is emotional investment, not for her to gain/lose social value.  It’s a subtle point, but what it does for the reader is makes him reevaluate what he’s trying to get girls to do.  Morever, Saul connects the girl’s actions to end goal.

From there, he breaks down the 3 levels of investment hoops.  Explicitly breaking it down to different levels is new territory in pickup.  We’ve always known, he’s just specified it.

From there, he goes into using sexual arousal to get more investment.  It’s an interesting discussion, almost academic. In isolation, it’s offputting.  But if you’ve gotten this far in the book, it’s riveting.

There’s a discussion of positive and negative rewards in this context.  And then he gives examples of the whole thing.

He mentions something I tend to harp on, the tendency for women to offer up significant life details in the most nonchalant way.  Most guys react to stuff like a pet dying, but Saul says that context really rules the meaning of the words, not the words themselves.  That’s a key insight.

On 9’s and 10’s

A legitimate stunner is NOT the same as a normal girl.

I don’t disagree on the merits, but I have different view of the 9/10 problem.

Starting with what I would call an objective 10 – any chick that’s become a super model.

Martha Hunt, Karen Elson, Alek Wek (examples)- to me, these women have their moments, but they aren’t my personal 10’s.

My 10s look more like this

The Models are still objective 10’s.

Supermodels are still treated like God’s Gift to Mankind by the public in general.  The really good ones have the social savvy to leverage that into wealth, fame, and power.   They become physically sheltered.  The average random guy does not just bump into Candice Swanepoel.

These girls are physically and socially isolated.  The only kind of guys they mess with – guys before the fame, and guys of the same status and in the same social class.

So the objective 10 is one that “everyone” has decided is attractive, they treat her accordingly, she acknowledges her status, and uses it.

What guys run into on a regular basis

• Girls with Beautiful faces that aren’t difficult. They’re not approachable by newbs, because the newb writes a story in his mind about who she is.  He “sikes” himself out. (psychs looks weird)
• Girls with great bodies, decent faces, but tend to deal with a lot of thirsty “alpha” dudes. (Video Vixens)
• Girls with Beautiful faces that are not society’s preferred brand. For the most part, the super model is Nordic/Slavic, melanated version of such, or she’s exotic/visually striking.

Models that are striking but not conventionally pretty 

 

• Girls that have neither body nor face, but have the expectations of queens.

So to me, this particular section is a little weak, because Saul isn’t really breaking down the her mentality, the social aspects, and the guy’s mentality about so-called 10’s.

If you’re on the East Coast, black dudes love Latinas.  Dominicans, Cubans, Brazilians, Colombians.  The Latinas that migrate to the states go from 6’s at home to 9’s based on THIRST.  So they develop INTO girls with the expectations of these savvy super model.  Lame dudes gas these girls up so much that a real player has to figure out a way to get at these girls.

But as we have discovered, rather than pay an exorbitant price here, just fly to “the factory” and get them for rock bottom prices.  Colombians in Miami are at a social premium, but in Medellin it’s just Tuesday.

What I mean to say that a girl’s objective looks don’t ever determine her outlook, her personality, her behavior, how she treats others, how society treats her, and what you need to do to make the connection.

Most PUA’s don’t think that. They do think that a girl with an Angel Face is automatically one way or another.

You can’t look at a girl’s face and know that she’s socially savvy and has good girl game.  That’s only uncovered via interaction.

To his credit, he does get into how much a guy has to push the girl that thinks of herself as a supermodel and expects to be treated like Kim/Nicki.

In my experience, you don’t come in heavy like this until it’s warranted.  I’m pretty sure that’s how Mystery deploys negs.  If she’s a bitchy LA Club princess – adjust game accordingly.

And it’s helpful to think that it’s not really a battle, it’s the girl saying that she wants to play.  She just plays rough.

What should have been the best chapter imo, is marred by this oversight.

Physical Expressions

This is a useful chapter.  He distinguishes between physicality and escalation.

Escalation is going from very neutral physical touches to ones that are more familiar, more romantic, and more sexual.

What if you touched a girl with a different intent?

Let’s say you and your girl are out at a restaurant. She goes to the lady’s room. When she comes back, she traces her hand along your back to let you know she’s returned.

It’s not a sexual touch, and it’s not level 10 in terms of pleasurable.  But it is calming and soothing.

So Saul goes into how to use touch in the context of the initial pick up.  Some touches are soothing and provide comfort. Some provide tension.  Some are about positive reinforcement.  It’s very useful stuff.  A perfect version of this book would have candid photos of people doing said moves.

There’s a mini-section on whether you should go for a makeout on the road to pulling her home.  I’m pretty much against releasing sexual tension when i can’t close.  I prefer my game to be really tight.  That said, I’ve done it in the past, as many others have, and still gotten to end.

Leading Her Around the Venue is touched on.  He distinguishes from the old school bouncing and the new RSD babystepping idea of getting her out of the club.  He does go into the old school philosophy of why bouncing helps with the interaction.

Sexual Expressions and the end game

Not gonna get too deep into this one.  It’s a family blog!

He does go into how to avoid the friendzone here.  I’d put something like this in the first chapter.

Calibration is discussed.  Again, something i’d mention earlier.

From there, he gets into the light sexual/romantic verbals to heavier ones.

The actual process of leaving the venue is explained, and he goes into pitfalls.

He talks about screening for logistics here, and this is where we diverge.  Always establish logistics way before you get to the heavy attraction stuff.  Though it is possible to get a girl to move heaven and earth once she’s sufficiently in to you – MOST OF THE TIME, she’s not going to do any of the work.

“Seeding the Pull” and “Pulling the Trigger Follow”.

Handling objections is barely discussed, and this section should be much beefier.  I don’t run into objections as much any more, because i’m screening out bad logistics, handling her friends, and trying to pull the girl deeper into – “I really like this guy” versus “I really want to hook up, and this guy will do”.

Cialdini’s principles are adapted to pulling as well as common sales tactics are fleshed out a bit for the pick up context.  Not really my taste, but it’s traditional to use this sort of stuff in PUA lit.

He also hides how to deal with AMOG Competition here.

The plan is to spike the girl’s emotions, get her reactive to me, and then get the guy jumping through a couple of my hoops.

I won’t go into the rest of the story, but it’s pretty epic along with some commentary on what most guys would try, and what you should do instead.

I’m gonna end it here.  Not working tomorrow, so I should be able to rock out Part 3 – How to put his stuff into action and my overall impressions. of the book.

-Archie