So the question is how do you deal with it?
Noir asked this question on the thread – when screening girls for a move up the roster, what do you do with the following?
- Chick that’s always on – posting, commenting, and reacting
- Chick that checks all the time – post sometimes, keeping track.
- Chick that reads
- The rare chick that is not on social media
The TL DR is that you have to adapt to the times and be willing to lose chicks to the whims of the internet crowd. Can’t put the milk back into the carton. Pandora’s box is open.
The red pill alpha mouth breather solution is –
- You check your girl – tell her what’s up.
- If she doesn’t comply, you drop her. That’s it.
I don’t know where these dudes live, but you can’t really run a relationship like that. You can attempt to lay down the law, but she will just go behind your back. And if you’re always threatening to bounce and don’t, she loses respect. If you bounce, you lose the girl. If you bounce, and she comes crawling back – she’s on eggshells at first, but eventually the addict has a relapse. This battle with her iPhone is one that you are going to lose.
There is no player solution here.
A good pimp doesn’t string his stable out on drugs. Because the draw of the drug is greater than the draw of his love and guidance. And that’s what you’re dealing with, a digital drug.
A lot can be said for the problems of pornography addiction, but internet addiction is far worse and far more pervasive. That glass slab in her hands delivers unpredictable dopamine hits. And the addiction part is not the hit, but the anticipation of the hit. That’s why there is endless scroll.
So what motivates her underlying behavior? The hit she’s getting is social response.
This need for social response, isn’t something new to pick up, but it’s gone exponential at this point.
Whenever you date a girl, casually or seriously, you’re dating her entire social network. What goes on between the sheets is between you, her, and her close friends. Any relationship issue you have (her said and unsaid expectations not being met) she’s going to go her brain trust about. You haven’t lived until you find out her period is late from a text that her mother sends to you. (oh, was that just me? fuck y’all then)
That type of “chatter” was first enabled with the telephone and then the cellphone.
Now, the internet is a part of your relationship. Obviously she’s always yapping about the relationship to her friends. But also her family, other guys, and followers. Back in the day, she was more of herself. She might have been showing off a little for her friends, but it was reasonable.
Nowadays what constitutes “self” includes this curated presentation of self to a somewhat anonymous audience. She cares very much what these internet strangers have to say about her life with you.
And that’s a problem. It’s not one that you can solve, and it’s not one that normal girl can solve either.
Happy 2019!