[Ed. This was an old draft that was a response to something that I don’t recall anymore.]
She lives minute to minute, second to second. The entire world is trying to stimulate her, and she wants to be stimulated.
Even in a 3rd world place like rural parts of Russia, the nature of woman doesn’t change.
Beta v. Alpha v. Player
A blue pill strategy is to find these virginal unicorns and keep her locked away and isolated from society.
The alpha strategy is to be unaffected. And alphas get divorce raped too.
The player realizes that he has more power over a one chick, when he has 10 chicks. If he only has one, he’s fucked. He has to mind her. The exact same thing is with income. You have one job, one profession, one career – and you’re fucked when things change.
Competition Between Females and Insecurity
Chicks are often more interested in beating other women than keeping one man. That’s the lesson of the preacher’s wife.
A chick will try to manipulate her guy by getting him to say that those other girls don’t matter, or that she wants to be his main.
The way I used to handle this was to NOT see this as manipulation, just insecurity. And I’d try to build her back up. That’s the mistake. It gets you answering to her, and the balance of power shifts to her.
In its most basic form , game is who reacts to who.
That’s how you have these bad ass dudes in real life become bitches with their women.
So when you face this, where she’s feeling insecure – you tell her what active steps she can do to keep you in her life.
Let her be insecure, let her be sad. Let her me angry. She needs that. That’s why she watches romantic comedies and reads romance novels.
On Abundance
In the meantime, you can only fake abundance for so long. You need actual abundance. You should actually be going out more and meeting more people in a relationship. To keep your social skills sharp and develop plan b’s.
Squares get bitches online. Players are far and few between. Even in our community, they come to the dojo and learn two punches and go out to knock down a few chicks and think they’re masters.
Options
A player has plenty of options
1) Monogamous LTR
2) Monogamous LTR where she brings you chicks.
3) Open LTR – Which if set up correctly, meaning that you can both get your sexual needs met outside of the relationship IF she only fucks random dudes, not guys you know/both know, and if it’s only sex.
It’s a bit of a trick because even when a girl can get all the anonymous no-strings-attached dick that she wants, it’s rare that she’s going to go that route when she has a guy that knows how to push her buttons at home. Not saying that a player should be jealous, but a lot of the time, these chicks stay loyal because there are no good options.
It’s kinda like if you’re Western GF had a job in Japan. She’d be a layup for any player in Japan, but the players are on the Japanese girls and the Japanese men won’t find her Western awfulness that attractive. Now if a broad says she’s going to vacation in the Greek Isles…..)
4) A primary chick and his side chicks that never get “boyfriend/husband” treatment
5) harem to meet his needs
They bend to his will, not the other way around
Again this is a bit of the inversion problem.
Danger of Monogamous LTR’s
Guys go into LTR’s thinking that
– my work is finally done
– she’s never going to change
Or they think they need to actively monitor what she does, who she spends her time with..
To keep his chick in check, a player can withdraw his attention, withdraw his presence.
In a situation where you’re living with her, and you have kids – you’ve basically given up all your leverage.
All he has left is dread/competition anxiety. (See Above)
So in that situation, a guy’s strategy has to resemble the woman’s. The suburbs will kill a careless player. He’s used to the downtown life. What he needs to do is become as social in the cul-de-sac as his wife. Them broads are always getting together to do something, he needs to keep flexing on her competition. And if she thinks he’s flirting with junior’s kindergarten teacher….
I think YaReally had a good plan with this. If you’re making suburbs money, set aside a G or so to have an “office” in the city. TV, couch, Bed, fridge full of beer and goodies. When the Mrs. wants to act up, bounce. “Give her the gift of missing you.”
Alternatively, pick a career/job that lets you travel. (as opposed to making you travel)
There’s no easy answers once you’ve realized that chicks love sex and can get excited over the right combination of words and actions.